Angel In Chains's blog: "My Dad"

God help me...But I went into my dad's house tonite looking to be sure that things were still there and finding nothing to settle these questions...And slowly but surely things are disappearing...I don't know what to do...The step monster is in contact with a lawyer...the number was there right on the caller i.d....A phone call from the VA in Phlladelphia has disappeared from the caller i.d. and she swears no one has contacted her...Money is being switched from one bank account to another within minutes of each other...And tonite when my dad became clear enuf to talk...He refused meds...Demanded to go home...And we couldn't take him...And she turned and pointed at me and told me that "it's your decision"....I'm in a situation where the only one I trust is my dad and he's not capable of controling anything....or telling me anything....With two women battling from both sides...And one who's doing everything in her power to keep him from coming home with hospice care...Another doing everything she can to get him home...And me in the middle of a battle of wills...And no one to turn to on my side and supporting me at this point...Everyone seems to have their own agenda....And at this point I don't know what that is...I'm only wanting to spend time with my dad and even he has cut me off as far as a person he can trust....He trusts only his friend...Honestly I'm clueless and feel as helpless as a person gets...I'm going on no sleep...Having to work in a few hours after just getting home an hour ago...Having phone calls to make trying to do what my dad wants as well as do what's best for him...And not knowing if I have a legal leg to stand on...And the thing I'm clinging to right now is that his "wife" looked at me and gave me the power to yay or nay his decison to go home...Saying she couldn't make these decisions...Not knowing what she was supposed to say...Quite simply not standing up for my dad as a wife should...I'm sitting here thinking of Terri Shiavo and what happened to her...Knowing that the marital partner is in control unless other power has been granted to someone else to take care of the other spouses wishes and act on their behalf....All I want is for my dad to be at peace when he passes...He shouldn't have to be worrying about this and the cancer has won by taking him down low before he had a chance to deal with things as they should have been...Becuz he plain out refused to believe he wouldn't beat it...And his fixation with having to take care of things is not helping his condition...He's not supposed to be having the anxiety but refusing the meds when they are offered...I'm confused, scared, angry, disbelieving, hurt, betrayed, and not knowing which way to turn...Why are people bent on making this an out and out war of wills? Why can't they let the man die in peace? Why is this woman bent on taking away anything and everything she can that my dad wants? How the hell are there people in the world who care nothing for anyone but themselves and their own interests? Esp about the people they claim to "love?"