I think we can, but most often we let our minds cloud our better judgement. Our mind tends to want what our hearts know is not right for us. It is easier to create a fantasy world in our minds much like reading a book and setting the story. Most especially when we get involved with people we meet online. Love is something that happens naturally and cautiously. Like when you are friends with the opposite sex and that friendship fosters in to something more. I think sexual chemistry is often part of the problem. If two people can abstain from having sex for as long as possible and just get to know eachother then take it from there I think it has a better chance. Sex creates possession, obsession, jealousy and imbalance when done in the wrong context. It should be about making love and to be making love, you should be in love with someone otherwise I think it is just sex. That is I think the difference between relationships that last and those that fizzle once the sex is no longer interesting. Men and Women alike have distorted views of Love, I should know, I am one of them. We all may want peace and harmony with someone, someone to talk to and have that everlasting companionship, we may all desire the same thing and want to just have that bond and connection with someone, but we all percieve it differently. If we took our time to get to know each other, I mean trully know eachother, then, it is only then that we can trully feel for someone.
