I know exactly what you went though. I too, Lost a child. My first child, in 1998. He would have been 9 years old this coming october.
My story isnt link yours but its long and complicated. as they say.
In 1996, i was diagnosed with cervical cancer. I had the treatment which required day surgry. where they went in my cervix and lazered the cancer cells. Which Left scare tissues in my cervix.
When I got pregnant. they Dr. knew i had this treatment. Said i was still in fact able to have a natural birth. When i was about 6 month along. My son, desided to move and pinch my sciatic nerve. So i starting seeing a chiropractor. He did my history like all would as cancer isnt something thats over looked. He meantioned to me.. about how i was going to have the baby delivered. I said the Dr. said i was able to do a natural birth. He suggested to me to convance the Dr. in a cesarean section. So i did and he assured me everything would be fine.
So Full term came and im in the hospital in full blowen labor for 18 hours with the baby in my birth canal. After begging in the 36 hours for a cesarean section, the dr keep refusing and saying i now you can do it. I keep insisting i have one. Finally, he paniced and pulled in abothere OB Dr. He look at the other and said this baby has to come out now. so they forced him out after cutting serveral times to help me dialate. They got him out. The crushed his skill, he wasnt breathing. they did full blown cpr on him over about 2 minutes and put him on life support and life flighted him to another state to a hospital where they infant trama. I didnt get to see him. they took him from me and when they did bring him back the next day, in hope all would be ok, but infact for me to DNR him as there was no hope. He was brain dead.
They brought him back to Idaho. I got about 3 hours with him. we had our family there and all around him. when it wasnt looking so good. i looked at the dr and called the DNR. I couldnt see him suffering anymore and that call broke my heart.
In the end, my employer paing the life flight cost there and back. But the medical alone was about 90,000 USD. The Dr. had the balls and wrote off his end and tried paying me off and sending us gifts. Sort of a slap in teh face it was.
We tried to sue him. Not for money but for justice. I wanted his license removed. He wasnt a fit dr. I had lawyers from all over the western states willing but no other DR. would testify agains another DR. Its a Dr.s code. They protect themselves.
So he got away with it. but, i never let it go. They use my case at the state college and to show what wrong doing can do. We've provided the medical history in the time he was at the hospital. I just wanted ppl to know what happened. Alot of back dated entries. it was a mess.
He was born October 12, 1998 and passes October 13, 1999. and he was so beautiful and i very much miss him :)
There is a wonderful group that has helped me though my loss and i would suggest them to anyone. Feel free to thumb through their site :)
http://www.compassionatefriends.org/
Thanks for reading my post :)
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