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Charlie Brown expresses this statement when something goes wrong. "Good Grief." To be sure, there's absolutely NOTHING good about it, in and of itself. Yet; it is a process we all endure, when something not just goes wrong...but terribly wrong.
Consider for example, the loss of a Loved One.
A Friend of mine here on The Site, has just endured the loss of a most Beloved Significant Other. I will not disclose her Identity out of Respect during her time of Grieving and Loss. Instead, I will only write about how Grief, impacts us all. You see; we Human Beings seem to share a need to communicate about, events that happen in our lives whether good or bad. We don't always do so for every single event yet, more often than not, we do. It's like how the GEICO Commercial Narrator Guy might say: "When you're Grieving, you feel great sadness...it's what you do."
He would be surely correct as well. Grieving is I believe, a natural progression of Emotional Stages we must experience, upon learning of something that we see as life-shattering, or even tragic. It is defined as: 'Deep Sorrow, especially that caused by someone's death.' It can, and many times does, lead to Depression and even varying stages of the same. We've all either had such instances long ago or not-too-long ago. One constant always remains: Even when such loss was as far back as 15-30 years, the memory, is still just as unpleasant than at the first.
Still; to actually Grieve, is something we as Humans MUST do. It is a way of slowly reacting to the loss of a Loved Family Member-Friend, Favorite Pet, even a Prized Possession or two-and is seen from a Psychological Standpoint as being a natural and healthy reaction.
Furthermore, I agree with The Shrinks. I have had Firsthand Reasons to do so myself. I have lost several Beloved Elder Aunts, Uncles, My Parents, and most recently, my Second Spouse just over 14 years ago. That last, was and still is at times, painful for me to recall. She underwent a Medical Procedure that went horribly wrong the following day, and as a result, she died...practically in my arms!
Talk about Traumatic! There was a period of time, that in order to deal with it, I had to go to Counseling Therapy, just to effectively deal with the Grief I'd been experiencing over the loss of Her. She was only 45 at the time. I was 48 then. Even to this day, there are still periods, when I feel extreme sadness over the very manner in how she died...which was so unnecessary! I took The Doctors to Court, as I'd believed that they caused her death based on the procedure itself. Yet, a Jury found in favor of them and against me...and I lost the Litigation Suit!
There are still times, that I want to strike out in anger against the very Judge, Jury, and Attorney for the Doctors as well as they themselves. However, doing so would cause me more trouble than it is actually worth. In addition, doing so will never return My Late Spouse to me anyway!
Drinking it away does no good. Using other kinds of Mind-Altering Drugs also does no good either. Oh for awhile, they make us seemingly forget the pain or lessens it...so we want to believe. Still, when the substances are out of our system, the pain still is not. Nor is the memory of hearing that not-too-welcomed phrase beginning with the words: "I'm sorry..."
You know the rest I'm sure.
So in the end, Grief is something we all must endure whenever we must. It will never ever be comforting to do so, but to NOT do so, is much more harmful to our Emotional Recovery. I know personally of four people I've known in life, that did not Grieve when they lost a Loved One. One committed Suicide after a year of heavy drinking. Two more went completely Insane and ended up being Committed to a Psychological Ward. To my knowledge, they are still in that particular Institution. The last, just seemed to vanish from the face of The Planet five months after discovering he'd lost his Loved One.
We are Mortal Beings. Death does come to Us All, at some point in life and affects Us All as well. If you've not yet experienced the loss of a Loved One...you will. It is inevitable. So, expect to endure the process of Grief, however great the level of it becomes for, and to you.
For those of you that recently lost someone. My Condolences, and I'll certainly Pray for You!
Finis.
