Ninja's blog: "Ask the Ninja"

Dear Ninja,

I like to comment pictures and encourage fellow fu members with my insight and positive out look. Recently however I have been receiving conflicting reactions to my comments and I am very confused. I will enclose a few samples of what has been happening.

On a picture of a generously proportioned cougar who was wearing a startling yellow little teddy. I respectfully left this comment. " I don't like the colour it makes you look like a banana". To which she reacted by yelling at me for three days that she was not fat or old and I did not have room to talk and her posting her saggy tits to make me "eat my heart out" followed by her deleting her account.

On a picture of someone who had the screen name sexxi I commented someday I wanted to be sexxi too.
Her reaction was to email me that I was too old and ugly to be so judging and again I was told I did not have room to talk.

The third examples I will give you was of a fine upstanding senior gentleman who nicely posted his sagging penis for all the ladies. On this I commented "gosh a girl just would not know what to do with that". From the kind man I again received an email declaring I was too old and fat to act so immature and I needed to get laid.

I am deeply bothered by these turn of events and am wondering do you think I might inadvertently be coming off as sarcastic or if these people are projecting what they think I should have said.
Do you think I should try making comments like put some clothes on you fat cow no one wants to see that and other similar type comments to avoid upsetting these types of people so much?

Puzzled in Canada

Dear Puzzled,

It's not you, it's them reading more into the comment than what you said. Call it projecting, or subconscious self-loathing, whatever. When they overcompensate for their insecurities, any comments they don't deem obviously ego-stroking will be considered a threat.

Just be yourself. If they delete because you offered them some constructive criticism, they are morons. And if they think that tits that touch their belly button is going to make you hate them, send Kit over to bless em for you. She's good at that.

Also, as a general rule, if you choose to post pics of yourself in your skivvies)or less than that in some cases) and leave it open to the public, then the public can and will tell you what they think. Just because someone is honest about what they say, doesn't mean they are a hater. The reason you aren't getting paid to pose is because you aren't as nice to look at to us as you think you are. If you only want those ego-strokers on your page, feel free to lock down the folders for your groupies, and save us the trip to the store for the eye bleach. Just please do us all a favor, and help control the population. Have your groupies spayed or neutered.