I am Diwata, 22 years old, single and loving it. People may ask me how come I am single, or a better question, why are you single? My answer is simple, because no one has found me interesting. If I answer, ‘because I choose to’, well, I would be lying to myself. So my answer is definite, ‘no one has found me interesting’. Then people may say that you are just trying to defend yourself, by saying ‘I love the single life’. It may be true, but one thing I can tell you, I have been single for quite sometime, and I never felt depressed, I feel lonely sometimes, yes, but not depressed. Happy? Probably yes, and probably not. Some women, who are single, find it hard, not to have a boyfriend. But I always say, you cannot find your happiness in other people. Positive thinking is one of the best things that you can hold on to, especially when you’re single. Focus on more important things, like your career, family and friends.
I work in a call center, an environment where 90% speaks English, and most of the guys are handsome. When I first started working in the said industry, I thought that men in call centers are less shallow. But I guess men are the same. They will always look for those slim women. You may think that I am saying this because I am insecure of slim women. I am not, it’s just that, whenever I look at those couples, I always ask myself, why he choose that girl when she’s not even pretty, then I will think again, and say, maybe there something in her that other people don’t see, and then at that point, I begin to understand. But what if the girl is only slim, meaning not pretty at all, dumb, and full of crap? Then I would say that the guy doesn’t have taste, or know the word “class”.
I admit I am an overweight girl. But I am so more than that. Despite the fact that I am fat, I am smart, intelligent, and beautiful. People always tell me that I should loose weight. Yeah, maybe I should, so that men will see me. Then there goes my ego. Why should I change my physical appearance just so men can drool over me? I am a woman of intelligence and beauty. How does a man define the word ‘sexy’? Now that is a very good question. As for me, speaking as a woman, I would say that ‘sexy’ is someone who is smart, and can always carry a conversation whenever he/she goes to. Sexy means smart!
I would be a hypocrite if I say that I don’t get lonely being single. Yes I do feel lonely at times; I can’t avoid the feeling of emptiness, not having anyone to cuddle to whenever it’s cold. But I can still manage certain things that doesn’t require cuddling, kissing or making out. And of course I want to feel the warmth of somebody holding you. Oh well, I’m single.
Now a new question occurs, what is the fun part of being single? Well, I can answer in a very detailed manner! If I am in a talk show right now, I would be so fabulous in it and say “Being single is fun because you can always flirt around with guys, kiss anyone you want to, and sleep with the guy you want to without having a feeling that you are cheating with someone.” So in short being single is definitely fun.
So you see, being single is fantabulous. And to all those single women like me, all you need to do is to make yourself busy, and have fun with all the things you do to forget the loneliness that you feel, in that way you will find peace in you. You will also learn how to value yourself and take care of it. Just look on the bright side of being single, “You Don’t Need To Find Happiness in Other People”.
~diwata~
