innocentprncss's blog: "Our baby (on celebration....love and loss)"

I am still looking for anyone that has been touched by pregnancy and infant loss...to see if they might be willing to tell their story and have it posted here with mine along with a few others that have stepped up. I am also looking for people that support my mission enough to stick a little blurb about me and what I am doing on my page ON THEIRS....I have about 5-6 people doing it so far...maybe more....its much cheaper than a blast everyone and its helping many. Please think about it!

Please come and check out his page and show him some love. Thank him for supporting me and what I am doing on my page. GreyHawk

@ CherryTAP

Hi all it has not been the easiest thing to talk about over the years but out of support for the cause. back in 2002 me and my ex were blessed the a little baby girl she was every i could have ever wished for. from 2002 to 2003 was the best year of my life. on june 3rd 2003 i got the phone call at work from my ex asking me to meet her at the hospital. when i asked why and what was wrong she had told me my baby girl was having problems breathing that day. it turn she had allergies that coused imflation in her wind pipe. 3 days went by with out leaveing her for a second. i stayed with her in the hosptal. on the 7th of june 2003 my world came crashing down. as i sat helpless with my baby girl she stoped breathing the hosptal tried everything they could do to try and save her but all as lost. still to this day 4 years later it has not been any easier to deal with and this is the first time sharing this with anyone since. i would ask please support innocentprncss spread the word and help bring some comfort to other like myself who have suffer such a loss. written and permission granted by: whiterino #543863 whiterino

@ CherryTAP

This is a cool chick that supports me and what I am doing on my page. Please stop by and show her some love and thank her for her support. ۩BALIE۩K.O.T.member

@ CherryTAP

I was young- 21, just married, and so ready to have a family. We were thrilled when we found out we were going to have a baby. Five months into the pregnancy in the middle of an ultrasound (the week before mother's day), we learned that there was no heartbeat, and that I was carrying not one child, but two, conjoined, sharing all of their vital organs. I had to carry the babies for 4 days until I was scheduled for an induction. Looking pregnant, and feeling so lost, I drifted through that weekend in a fog. I received a mother's day card in the mail. I delivered the babies through natural childbirth. They were so undeveloped the sex could not be determined. I did hold them. They were so tiny, and not at all human looking. All I can say is that it was horrific, and the depression which stemmed from it eventually tore my marraige apart. I have moved on now, happily married, two beautiful children, but the pain will always be there, along with the burning question- why? Why me? What did I do wrong? How? No answers, just pain. God only gives you what you can handle- some of us are stronger than others. Thank you for reading. written and permission granted by: Miss Jenn #486157 Miss. Jenn

@ CherryTAP

Here is another great guy that supports me and what I am trying to do here on my page. Please stop by and show him some love. whiterino

@ CherryTAP

Please lift up some prayers to God's ears for this family! They lost this sweet little boy to SIDS at the age of 2 months 23 days. He is now a sweet little angel and his family needs some support and love sent their way. Help celebrate this beautiful baby's life short though it was. Please send this baby's mother your love and well wishes as she is getting out of the hospital after attempting to end her life. GIVE HER YOUR LOVE EVERYONE!! Ashley

@ CherryTAP

With my hormones finally dropping to a 1...the signal of the end of my miscarriage was finally at hand. I really wanted to wait for the ever elusive zero but I was told a 1 is about the same. So the chapter of my life begins post miscarriage #2. I am at a really odd place now. My body is back to normal for the most part though there is lingering pelvic pain from time to time but I think the mental scars are going to take the longest to heal. I worry about the pelvic pain but realize that most likely it is to be expected going through the miscarriage as long as I did. I am terrified that something is wrong with me and that we will never be able to get pregnant again. Mike keeps telling me we will but that it will take time. I also think that there is a part of me that is afraid of sex because sex makes babies and babies can be lost. I am SOOO afraid of making that venture again though the pain in my stomach has not helped matters much. I am thinking about making a dr appt soon to be looked over once and for all to see if things seem to be back the way they should be. My dr should be back from maternity leave soon if she isnt back yet and we will talk more about what next. Mike and I are both ready to start trying again but it would seem that my stomach hurting makes me want to avoid it all together and I want to know what this pain is from and how long it will be here. I think just getting my cycles back to normal and having a normal sex life again is the next step because without it...we will get nowhere.

My ex g/f and I lost twins. She miscarried. To us that was still our children. She was not far into the pregnancy but they had souls. We still honor the day of the miscarriage and although we are not together , we are best of friends and consider each other to be the parent of our children. Written and permission granted by: Brian (user #505724) Brian`* Read my blogs to know me*'~ gollumsdesire on yahoo~

@ CherryTAP

Ok this one is to those of you who HAVENT suffered this loss but know someone or are close to someone that has. I know that being in that position can be tough because what do you say to them when they experience their loss? Its a difficult subject to approach and be tactful, supportive and not stick your foot in your mouth without realizing. Please know ONE THING....DO NOT make light of the situaton. I hear from so many survivors of this loss that either A) family and friends avoided them for lack of what to say or do or B) they made light of it all saying "well it was for the best" or " at least your baby is in a better place now" OR "it wasnt meant to be". NOW...while those things are all true....they are THE LAST thing a grieving parent wants to hear when THEY...dont feel it was for the best....feel the best place for their baby is in their arms and feel it was meant to be and it was stolen from them. Please also try to remember that grief goes through stages and each stage may come at a different time for each person and some stages might be skipped. There is denial, pain, anger and acceptance. That might not be a complete list but its a rough idea and everyone might go through all of them or some of them in any order. Rather than thinking its something you need to "fix" just be there. Lend an ear and a shoulder when they need it and know that the venting and crying WILL subside SOMEDAY but only when THEY are ready. My most recently loss was Sept 2006 and I STILL cry some days and I lost another in June 1999. When I got pregnant in 2006...the pain from my first loss was just beginning to subside and then I lost the second and it all came back to me. The best advice I can give is be loving, patient and compassionate. If you cant find the right words to say to them...I love you and I am here for you works wonders.