Ninja's blog: "The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly"

"True friends stab you in the front" ~Oscar Wilde

I am opening this blog with that quote, which is one of my favorites for a reason. Those we call friends can sometimes disappoint more than those we once considered enemies. The ones that we didn't get along with for one reason or another suddenly become closer than those who always appeared to be nice, sweet friends who "like to help others."

I am blessed to call some women on here friends now that were once on the opposite side of that line. They were never quiet about their feelings about me, nor was I about them. The catalyst always came down to a guy (go figure). It was always out in the open though. Never was a word said that the other wasn't aware of. That is the reason that these women are so much respected by me.

It's the ones who smile in your face as they stab you in the back that bother me.

Fubar is like a small town, and everyone knows everyone else's business, or at least pretends to know, and states is as fact with whomever will listen. This is how the rumor mill starts, and once it starts, it does not stop. Once upon a time, being a decent person took precedent over all the other crap that life threw. However, as of late, jealousy and greed breeds lies and rumors.

I want you to take some time and really think about what you perpetuate on here, or even in real life. If you hear a rumor, and pass it on, you are just as guilty as the person who started it. If it involves a friend, and you don't say something to the person about it, you aren't really their friend. If you turn your back on a friend over a rumor without talking to them about it's validity, you are just as guilty. Always consider the motives behind someone randomly throwing something about another person in a conversation. The only reason they are spreading the rumors is jealousy.  The person in question is getting attention that they want, and they have to do something to change that.

Now to put the quash on the rumor involving me. I am not a lesbian. I am sick of people asking me in my shoutbox almost daily if I am really a lesbian. NO I AM NOT. Yes, I fumarry women. There's two reasons for that. One, less drama. Two, men are only necessary for penis (and some of them aren't even good for that). I am happily single, and that isn't changing, ever. But being a cocky bitch doesn't make me a lesbian. Also, this is not an invitation to send me your penis pics either. I don't want to see it. Thanks.

So the lessons for today:

1. Rumors are the tools of the insecure to seed doubt about someone they are jealous of.

2. By spreading the rumor, you are as bad as the one who started it.

3. You don't have to tarnish someone else to make rank here. I'm proof of that.

4. True friends might not always start out that way, they might start off as an enemy. But when they do become friends, they are some of the most amazing people you can ever hope to lean on.

I am still an asshole, and that won't change. I've never been quiet about my feelings, and I damn sure won't start now. If you see someone ghosted from my life, it's for a damn good reason. Betrayal of trust is something I do not ever forgive.

I hope everyone has a wonderful New Year's.