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When Is A Man Just Yanking Your Chains? Current mood:annoyed

When is a man, just playing head games? Is there a sure fire way to tell? This blog today is part of a question/answer/debate series. When you start singing the song "Head Games" by Foreigner under your breath at work while you think of the one youve been dating...well sweetheart that just might be your first red flag from the subconscious coming out to show you what you might have been feeling now for days or even weeks. There's a line sometimes that no one wants to admit. It affects either gender. Is it insecurity that makes you feel like this or are there actually situations which leaves you feeling frustrated? When do you chalk some things up to personality quirks...or do you say.."hey isnt that a lil rude?" So...here are some of the ways that I know of where you have to say this person is just stringing you along for their benefit. No matter what they derive from you that is gratifying to them...if it is not returned...honey look elsewhere and quick.

1)In the beginning..he would grab and hold you..couldnt wait to see you..now he grabs and kisses his dog instead...

 2) Interrupts you in the middle of a heartfelt sentence, to bitch about traffic...

 3) wont talk about anything heartfelt unless it comes before the statements..." do you have any money?"

4) you make romantic plans for the evening and light the candles and place them all around the house leading to your bedroom door...with a romantic letter you wrote still in your hands when you wake up, because he never showed up..and no message as to the unexplained dissapearance........candles burnt out.

 5) He doesnt include you in any of his work or plans. But you include him in all of yours... 6) Since he knows everyone and you dont...you are left to mingle, while he chats with the same beautiful blonde he always does leaving you to feel unappreciated, unwelcome and also invisible.Well that is until everyone has left.Then he will talk to you....

 7)You are driving together in the car and he spies a beauty in another approaching a traffic signal...speeding up to catch a look at the beauty, while you feel like dogmeat in the front seat....

8) When you continually feel like your at the bottom of his list and the dogs manicure appointment he will manage to break land speeds to make on time, but youll have to wait hours for a call as to whether he will be home for dinner...

Honey..Sweetheart...You are getting shit on! Wake the fuck up! He hasnt even managed to give you an orgasm the 2 times youve made love....He got his tho...right?

 Listen to me...You are getting yanked....! Youre his secret girl...He is just feeding you enough table scraps to keep you hanging in there. My advice...Throw the scraps back! If youre hungry wait for the 9 course. It is delicious and nutritious and doesnt taste like BULLSHIT! Now I know women play their sets of head games too! What are some other ways we yank those we have in our power with? It's an abuse of the heart.

 If youre playing....youll end up playing with yourself. If youre the one being played, my heart goes out to you. Get rid of the iilusions and see your situation for what it really is...

Love is not supposed to be onesided and unbalanced. Both needs have to be met for that relationship to work. Maybe it is time to have that talk...or get out of it completely. There are plenty of real people with real hearts who dont sing "Head Games..thats all I get from you...Head Games...Quit Playing Head Games...Instead of making love we Play Head Games".....

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