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My wife and I are in the process of purchasing our first home. Meanwhile, we're living with my parents. It's not as bad as it sounds. The bad part is that we';re buying a house 2 doors down from them on a go-between street that is nearly all family, my mother's side. I of course have my own concerns, When I was growing up I went to private school, so all my friends lived in different towns, all I had in companionship was my family. All my friends were my cousins and 2nd cousins. I don't want my kid growing up like that. You see my parents have, what I like to call a false sense of entitlement. Meaning they think they are better equipped to raise my kid than me, and Your kid is 26 living with his parents with his wife and child, How the hell can you possibly think your better suited to raise her than me? I'm sure that when she grows up she will have the same disdain for us that I do for my parents, and that doesn't bother me, what bothers me most is "What if she doesn't?"
I know that sounds odd, but what if she moves on the block too, What if she Marries a non- blood related version of me? What if she has no ambition or desire to leave the street, or the town, or even the state. When I went out to find a wife, I went looking for the thing furthest from anything resembling my mother. But what if the proximity ruins her? What if she is *gasp* one of these "Family Oriented" people? You get married to get away from your parents and become one yourself, it's unatural to live with or next door to your parents, even the same block is iffy.
It probably sounds like a stupid thing to worry about to most, but I despise my family for their false sense of entitlements, and their false ideology of what family is or how family should behave. And as odd as it sounds, I want my kid to do the same, and learn of the world for herself not hide behind family and miss everything. She needs to be independant for awhile anyway. Mom and Dad will always be here, but that doesn't mean you should too.
