Would you be happy raising the kids while your spouse worked?
I have no idea what to do with this question. Do I think I could be happy and content as a 100% stay-at-home mom? Not really. I think I would need some outside activities and intellectual stimulation, and I do not mean charity work or the PTA, however valuable those organizations are. I really enjoy my job, and the challenges it provides me, and I do not think I'd want to wholly give it up. I also understand that, while children do definitely need parental care, and I do not underestimate those needs, a good daycare provides educational and social opportunities that parents may not be prepared to provide.
At the same time, it seems like it's too easy for many parents to have children and then go back to prioritizing their careers and social lives over the happiness of those children. I do think that, if you make the decision to have children, they should be your absolute #1 priority. You should not shovel them into daycare 60 hours a week, and you should not consider "quality time with your children" plopping in front of the TV.
In the end, I hope for a balance like my sister is able to maintain. She works part-time, about 20 hours a week. Her children go to a very good daycare, which they enjoy very much. And when she is home with them, she plays with them and tries her best to enjoy their company while also coping with the responsibilities of running the house. If I could swing something like that, it would be ideal for me. Because I love kids, and enjoy their company, but in the end... I also love having a career.
