Tampon training - Rectal insertion of tampons by male submissives to empathize with the female menstrual cycle.
Tantric Yoga, Vajrayana Buddhism - Indian means for achieving a transcendent spiritual state that incorporates sexual and meditative techniques. There are many paths to enlightenment and erotic exploration is one.
Tawes. taws - Thick rigid leather with a lengthwise slit (or slits) in it used in a paddle-like fashion.
Thud - A blow that is felt at a deeper level than sting, Thud is usually easier to tolerate, but may actually be more damaging as it can cause deeper bruising.
Tit torture - Erotic play involving the breasts.
Tolleyboy - A locking chastity belt made in England of rubber-lined stainless steel.
Top - One who takes the active role in physical scene, but not necessarily emotional/mental control.
Top's disease - A state of self-delusion wherein the top believes his own fantasy of dominant superiority.
Topping from the bottom - Maintaining the fiction that the top is in charge, where the real control and direction of a scene rests with the bottom. [see also, Bottoming from the top]
Top-space - A state of erotically altered consciousness (EAC) achieved during a scene by the dominant or top. It is characterized by feelings of intense focus, clarity of thought, a sense of extreme power or high energy, and/or exhilaration. Feelings of distance and objectivity, as if one where commanding from a mountaintop, may paradoxically accompany feelings of connection to the submissive, as if there were a psychic link. A dispassionate perspective may combine with erotic ardor. Top space may be followed by either a continued sense of well-being or by feelings of fatigue, depression, or lethargy. [see Post-scene plunge]
Torture - Actions that would be painful outside of their erotic context used to enhance sexual pleasure for a bottom.
Total conversion or the "ouchless ouch" - Whips strokes or corporal stimuli delivered during an erotic scene that begins light and rises gradually. The level of sexual arousal is always kept at a high enough level so that the blows are never experienced subjectively as pain.
Training - Any of many disciplines wherein the dom and sub act together to modify the sub’s behavior, condition, and/or attitude. Includes, but is not restricted to; pony training, anal training, position training, voice command response, and so on.
TS, Transsexual - A person who born in a physical gender that does not match his or her personal psychology. These people are commonly going through "gender reassignment" by means of counseling, hormone treatments, and surgery to correct their situation. A TS is called a "pre-op" before surgical modification and a "post-op" afterwards.
TV, Transvestite - A man or woman dressing in the clothing of the opposite gender.
True Master/True submissive - A term of self-description usually used by incompetent newcomers or lost-in-fantasy others to entice a people to play with them. The "True Submissive" (or more typically "Tue slave") is one who buys into the nonsense that the "Tue Master" is selling. "True sadomasochism" is also used to allude to a non-existent, "genuine" standard of SM excellence.
Vampire glove - Vampire gloves are most often thin leather driving gloves that have sharp, metal tines or tacks lining the palms. The tines are typically snap, or rhinestone settings that are poked through the leather from the inside and glued in place, though some very mean gloves utilize thumb or carpet tacks. Fur mitts can be embellished with tines in the same manner, yielding textures from very nice to yowee!
Vanilla - Describes things, activities and people who are not part of the SM scene, for example; "We had vanilla sex last night," meaning, "We had sex without including any SM scene elements."
Verbal humiliation/abuse - The use of sexual epithets and similar verbalizations to excite or humble one’s partner. Verbal humiliation is good when it is used to support the value of the submissive. It becomes abuse when it is used to tear down the self-esteem of the sub. The line between the two is not always clear and may vary within one person’s psyche depending upon mood. Use with caution and sensitivity.
Virgin rapture - Period of time (often years long) wherein newcomers are so overwhelmed by SM that they think the world revolves around it and can never imagine returning to any other form of sexuality. When the infatuation ends feelings of disappointment and loss are common. It may be reassuring to know that this is a normal process as SM is integrated into a person’s sexuality.
Vinyl - A material used for fetish fashions. [see PVC]
Violet wand - A static electricity generator, frequently with multiple glass attachments including: globes, thin tubes, fork-shaped tubes, etc., used to send virtually harmless, violet-colored static "lightning" to a submissive’s skin.
Visualization - The use of story-telling and verbal fantasy sharing to achieve a mood or desired mind set prior to, or during a scene.
Water sports - Sexual play involving urine or enemas. [see Golden Showers and Enema]
Weights _ Lead fishing weights or other weights hung from clamps that are attached to the body to increase torment. [see Clamps, Clamping]
Whip - A whip is an object used to beat on a submissive. Many people in the scene use the term whip to include canes, crops, paddles, slappers, etc., as well as single- and multiple-lash whips.
Whipping - 1) The act of beating a submissive or bottom. 2) Finishing a rope-end to prevent fraying by wrapping it with thread or string.
White lightning - A common nickname for a white fiber glass or resin rod often with a leather or rubber handle that is used as a cane. Being much more dense than rattan, it can inflict deeper damage and the feel is described as "cutting." [see Cane]
Worship - 1) To lavish attentions upon a part of the body, usually feet, pussy or cock. 2) A role playing attitude toward a dominant, typically of a male sub toward his goddess/mistress.
Wrapping - Allowing the tips of a whip or cane to strike parts of the body other than the intended target. For example, aiming for the fanny and hitting it, but the tips of the whip wrap around the fanny and strike the hip. Bruising on the hips is often a sign of a careless or incompetent top who is frequently unaware of the damage that is occurring.
Wrist cuffs - Restraints designed to fit the wrists. [see Cuff, Cuffing]
X-frame - A stationary bondage frame in the shape of an "X", usually mounted in a horizontal position. [see St. Andrew's cross]
