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Submissive (sub) – As a sub you submit to your Dom, you give up control for long periods of time. However you have your opinions and your choices and you can still make them. Say you do the dishes and pay the bills, these things usually are still under your control. It changes only during set times and parameters. There is also the thought of the “power balance” between dominant and submissive. Meaning that in a submissive role although you give up the control the power is really still 50/50 just in a different setting and under more intense circumstances. Sex is usually a large part of this relationship and mostly where the submission enters in. Now don’t get me wrong the intensity is still strong and the punishments and pain are real and overwhelming however you have more of an option to stop and this doesn’t spill over into the everyday that much.
Slave – As a slave control is given up completely. The power balance is completely tipped in the Dominants direction. However keep in mind this is a choice the slave makes not something she/he was made to do. Slaves usually are slaves 24/7. They may work but when they get home there is no distinction from normal day to a BDSM day, that person is always a slave from the day they ask for that. As a slave sex is still very real and alive however not always the goal and not needed for the Dominant and slave to be in that persona. As a slave the lifestyle is usually more intense in pain, humiliation and just pure pleasure (It is always about pleasure.Even when it does not involve any sexual act pleasure to serve and pleasure to control is there. I would say instead that in a Master/slave relationship is easier to explore the darker desires of our soul. Talk, accept,admit,explore and find out more about fetishes and needs that usually most people are afraid to even speak off) . Something to remember however is that as a slave this does not mean if the Dominant asks you to break the law or hurt yourself that you should obey on a whim. If a Dominant is asking you to do things that are against the law or against your moral values than he or she is not a true dominant. (additionally how far the Master will go, how much He will push his slave’s limits and what practices He will use are pre-discussed, agreed and in event no matter how confident the slave is a safe word should be agreed for any situation the slave would like to stop what is going on. The more a Master and a slave are honest and open with each other the better it is to understand each others needs and what should they do at time. Honesty, communication and trust are essential and clearly time in order to progress and enjoy more such a relationship).
(This last one is something should not be practised by the unexperienced, never for long periods of time and it has nothing to do with puppy play or other similar sexual fetishes.)
Pet – This hasn’t always been a classification of a submissive person and is still controversial in some circles. A pet is more on the side of a slave except for one large difference, sex does not have to be involved. In many cases it is not. If you have become a pet it is to give up yourself and obey, you gain pleasure from the control and the obeying not from sexual play. There can be play but it is rare in this kind of lifestyle. This submission is one of the most dangerous because you can lose yourself mentally because you so rarely have thoughts of your own, you usually do not work and although you may discuss things with your Dominant he is last say in all things.
Ultimately the deeper you go into submission the stronger you have to be which of course is peculiar since you have to give up more of your control with each level. But you have to be very sure of yourself to give up every ounce of control and thought. Taking each step is serious and should never be taken light by the Dominant and submissive, especially if you want to remain safe, sane, and consensual.
This information was copied from Dungeon Master's blog and be found at http://dominationsubmission.wordpress.com/2012/12/20/the-main-types-of-submission-in-bdsm-submissive-slave-and-pet/
bae's thoughts - this was a diary post from May of 2014 that i found interesting. This would have been posted on my originial Fubar page, that has since been deleted. i felt it relevant to share it again for anyone else interested in seeing one Dominant's definition
It's a sickness. No, the word is insufficient; it's a disease, a malady, an affliction, a blight. There's fire in my skin and I'm alive only as I burn, and the heat rises up to engulf me and purge conscious thought. It's stepping back into an older world, another life, where before I had civility and reason I had this gnawing want and this irresistible compulsion to satisfy primal needs. I want to reach out and ruin something beautiful so no one else can ever have it the same way I did. I want something, firm or brittle, that breaks when I grasp it and flows around me, desperately borrowing my own strength and rebuilding itself with pieces of me in ways I'm pleased by.
I want to own something, in such a terrible and absolute way that it can't be undone. A buzzing in my intoxicated, fire-seared brain, electricity that arcs down my spine and sets my hair to rising, tingling in my fingertips that leads to aggressive sparks with every grab and caress. I want to mark and scar and bruise and bite, I want to growl and shake and push and strike, I want to cover and fill and bend and subjugate. I want wide eyes, trembling hands, parted lips, and the sigh of the faithful when looking at her God. I want to be the word and the law, worshipped, obeyed.
That is sexual and romantic dominance in a relationship -- it devours me, it leads me to devour, it turns me from a friendly intellectual into a predator, running on an unstoppable instinctive lust to control. My every sense sharpens, I feel smarter even as I'm dumber. I hear differences in pitch and inflection, the notes of docility; I see the faint blush of skin, the downcast eyes, or the little brushes of a tongue across lips; I feel the increase in body heat, the shifting of weight, the softness of skin; I swear, though this may be delusion, when I'm in the zone I even smell and taste it, arousal and power and surrender.
It's a sickness. I am a jealous and possessive predator.
And maybe you want me. Or maybe you want to be like me, to see others the way I see them, to inspire them. To be inspired by them. For I am inspired by submission, deeply and truly -- it is my muse, and when my mind drifts to it I'm overtaken by an intensity that enriches all other elements of my life.
If so, this guide is for you. I'm going to go over what things women do and can do to force the devolution from man to beast on me, the signals I notice that make me think someone is submissive, and what I want from you once I own you. Please, be aware this guide is by no means universal; I am but one man, and I am intensely biased by being intensely dominant. I choose to see submission instead of a lack when it is ambiguous, I am willing to risk making a bad impression to coax the responses I want out, and am generally aggressive and unsympathetic.
1. Submissive Behaviors
When directed toward me, there are behaviors that, no matter how blatantly transparent, manipulate me; they speak to something inside me, gratify me, and invoke a clarity of thought and aggressive focus nothing else does. These are the methods by which my partners turn me on most, a girl flirting with me in any context can make me savage and pursue her, or someone who didn't mean to can accidentally make me view them as prey.
The primary factor here is docility. While I can enjoy a fight, what arouses me most is weakness. A woman's behavior ought to indicate some vulnerability to me: she should be unsure, needy, even a bit desperate. I'm turned on by depression, insecurity, and clinginess. When interacting with a woman, I want her to seem a little off-balance. I don't mind if she's gregarious or even aggressive. I want her to be comfortable with other people but not necessarily herself. When she blushes and looks away, when she has a wound in her heart, I'm attracted; when she defers to me, looks to me for guidance in a situation, I'm attracted; when she's completely lost and doesn't know what to do, I'm attracted; when she's close to me, afraid of something and finding me strong, I'm attracted.
If you want to arouse the dominance in my behavior, you need to show submission to me in yours. You need to think of yourself not as a person, but a thing for me to own. Make it clear that my opinion matters to you more than other people's -- ideally, that it's the only one that does. Make it clear you want to be in my presence. When you speak, don't speak of preferences or desires; speak of needs. You need me to help you carry something. You need me to walk you to your car. Be a little shy and demure. It's fine if you're a kick-ass independent woman who don't need no man, can fix a car, do your own plumbing, weightlift in your spare time, and impossibly have a foot and a hundred pounds on me.
If, when you look at me, I feel you're looking up at me, you are small and lovely in my eyes.
I demand blatant favoritism in how you treat me versus how you treat others. If you stare at me and talk to me first when you walk into a room, I will notice that. If you're making bored small talk with other people but light up when I approach, I will notice that. If you step in closer to me and open yourself via body language, I will notice that.
Respect me. More than that--worship me. Listen raptly to me. Stay near me. Look up at me. Smile and glance away. If I talk to you look at no one but me. Show weakness. Defer to me. Adore me. Need me. Confide in me. Look to me for help and guidance. Be sad. Be afraid. Be helpless and lost. Make yourself small and tuck yourself against me.
If you want me to feel aggressive and dominant with you, you need to make your interest and inclination to submit to me clear. It does not need to be made explicit, once we begin this game I will be focused very intently on you, but you need to send out signal after signal, and trust that once you've sent out enough for me to judge you subservient I will move on you fiercely.
Things I look for: shy smiles, blushing, downcast eyes, lingering parted lips, facing me, self-touching, lingering proximity, eagerness to please, enthusiasm toward me specifically. There are more, but honestly, this specific example part is the weakest and least important. Body language, the way one speaks, these things vary person to person, and instead of any one individual piece it's clusters that generate significance. The key is to behave in ways that show explicit or implicit giving of yourself to me.
This is especially important when we're deeply conversing or interacting more intimately. I want your devotion, loyalty, and submission more clear -- I want to know you're damaged, or desperate, or needy. I want you to cling to me and look to me for approval.
If people really need a list of more specific phrases or actions, I'll acquiesce, but you're focusing on the wrong thing.
2. Noticing Submission
See that first section? It's basically that, but on my end, not yours. When a woman seems inclined to listen to me, when she is behaving in a way that suggests interest in me, when she has mentioned or shown weakness and vulnerability, I come in. My personal style is a very physical, aggressive flirting, mixed with investigative conversation; submissive women are a hobby of mine, and it's very easy for me to show a genuine interest and curiosity in absolutely everything there is about them. I like to figure them out, get inside their head, make them feel I know them completely and understand them like no one else does. All the while, I ramp up my assertions over them -- whether it be forcing close physical contact, pulling them toward me or pushing them away, holding them by the wrist and leading them while walking somewhere, maintaining stronger eye contact, and -- later on -- requiring they behave in specific ways or say certain things.
Every step of the way, every aggressive step I take, I make my intentions clear and my nature clearer. I'm too invested in dominance and submission to waste time on a woman who won't give herself to me completely. I'm not saying, guys and gals, to walk up to someone, thump your chest, and be all "ME TARZAN, YOU ON YOUR FUCKING KNEES, NOW.", though hey if you do it youtube that shit.
I'm saying to know what you want and express that in your dialogue. Express it in your body language. Don't ask for permission for things -- impose, to a gradually intesifying degree, and if it's responded to favorably escalate. Be the aggressor. If that is what a woman wants, and she is attracted to you, she will respond, and you will notice it.
It helps to maintain a blind confidence, too. Like I mentioned earlier, I assume attraction and read submission where it's unclear. I do strike out and sometimes turn people off because of this, but it also means my interactions with women have no ambiguity and they know I'm in charge.
There is no magical submissive signal you can look for and know, 100%, she's into it, other than something like "May I suck your cock, Sir?". That's pretty magical. You need to actually interact with the woman. Establish a baseline for how she interacts with people. If that baseline then shifts with you, you have aroused interest. If that baseline shifts further, especially in ways that seem traditionally meek or subservient, and she's sticking with you, you have aroused greater interest.
Be direct. Be the leader. Be the aggressor. If the other party responds favorably, escalate. The essence of flirting is the same.
That said, there are particular things I look for.. I tend to pick up on superficial gregariousness masking insecurity, hesitation in new situations, changes in body language or speech, the focus of attention.
I am sometimes wrong! I am usually right. I don't really mind when I'm wrong, which is the key. You will be wrong sometimes.
~bae's thoughts: This was posted by a sub sister friend of mine in a private submissive group we both are members of on Facebook. This article is long, but it spoke to me as a submissive on some elemental way i still can't fathom. With that said, let me give the link to this so you can read it and any comments made by others. It's https://m.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/13xczs/dominance_from_a_dominant_mans_perspective/
i see some many aspects of my own Dom in this article and i also see where i have some room for improvement in my own submission. As it was said by another Master of His slave, who happens to be an acquaintence of mine for a few years now, it's time to get back to the basics and learn that i am the slave, an object to be owned and that i am His in every way, but that He is not mine in the same way.....this is going to be hard to learn and accept sometimes.
Panting heavily, sweat dripping down My hairy chest,
My musky cock's rigid and demanding your wet heat,
I stand there with My belt in My fist.
Scream for Me, yes scream, slut, scream,
And you willing obey.
A symphony of submission,
The sound of you letting go of all the pointless bullshit that holds you down.
I hear them leave your body and hear your spirit soak in that music...as you moan, as you whimper, as you scream.
Let it go, child.
Let it go.
All those fucking fears and stresses, your week long worries, your pent-up frustrations,
Let them go.
Your needless self hate, your demanding duties at work, All the responsibility of being in control, of taking care of business at work and at home
Let it go.
All your body issues, your nightmares, your inner critical voices that say you're not good enough, not pretty enough, not worthy enough, not enough to be loved, to be desired, to be valued, those disgusting toxic lies.
Let them go.
My beautiful, sexy girl, My pretty, sexy slut, I want it all.
My leather belt beats your beautiful plump ass red,
My raging beast wants blood and pain as I smack your beautiful body.
Your soft fucking flesh, delights at My fearful leather belt, I smell your arousal and it makes Me hurt you more. My leather belt marks you as Mine.
Screaming, moaning, cumming, little girl, pretty slut,
~bae's thoughts:
i loved this from the moment i saw the first word. It makes me think of my Owner, Mike and what He may feel when i am laid out before Him with Him standing behind me and i hear the clink of the buckle on His belt. The pleasure He must get when He sees me tense at the sound, and flinch at that first soft stroke of leather across my bare ass. The fear and anticiaption my body must surely give away because my mind knows that the soft touch will be followed by a pain that i can not escape from. Shoot, now i'm wet and hot!
After many years on this Earthrock with a few of those spent here on Fetlandia and the inter webs, I have come across a few handy tips for for not being Creepy AF (for those who do not know what AF means, you obviously have not been throat slamming enough 18YOs onto K&P. Check with a millennial, they will fill you in… which brings me to the topic at hand...)
Now, I am not a lady here on Fetlife and I don’t profess to understand the daily abuses they deal with, but I know many ladies of varying gender expressions (including my wife) and have heard enough horror stories to be able to dispense a little advice to the Brosephs here on our beloved black and red (seriously who did the color palette on this site… I digress...) kinky social network.
This one shouldn’t be that hard, but it seems to trip up even some of the more together appearing Brohemians of our villages.
I’ll keep it simple, unless you have an explicit preexisting relationship with someone, it is usually not ok to get on their photos and make crass comments about drowning them in your bodily fluids or forcibly inserting any of your body parts into theirs. Use the same rules you would if you were meeting this person for the first time in public. Compliments are great, keep them tasteful and respectful. There are exceptions to this, some people crave nasty commentary as part of their kinkery, but I would not assume that to be the case unless you have hard evidence (not THAT hardness there Duderonomy, that doesn’t entitle you to anything).
This one is a little more complex and may not be obvious to all Brofessors out there. Ladies on Fet are not Pokemon. You do not become a Master by catching them all. I can spot a “Trainer” profile from a fair distance. It looks a little like this:
Mostly blank profile with the exception of mentioning Lone Wolf or Alpha male tendencies.
Has 500 Fetishes listed. (400 of which contain the words “Slamming”, “Pounding” or “Punishing”)
Identifies as Dom, Master or Primal Predator but can't give you any names of who they have had relationships with
Has 300 friends.
None of said friends are:
Has never been to an event (when pressed on this may tell you they are too much of a lone wolf, or that the local community is too cliquey, or that butts may be touched...)
Has 30 profile pictures (none are a clear picture of their face, a few are of other women who may or may not know their pics are on a kink oriented website, the rest have remotes, soda cans and other objects as a “size” reference).
I think you get the picture. A little mystery is a good thing, but being a complete human being who is known to others in the local or virtual communities and has a track record of being well rounded and not just a collector goes a long way.
Not their time.
Not their words.
Not their body.
NOT A THING.
People on the internet do not owe you anything.
Hear me out Brosenio Hall, I don’t care how carefully you crafted that first message (the one where you made sure that you highlighted her love of Nutella or her taste in eclectic acid jazz and rare Icelandic poetry).
She doesn’t owe you a thing.
I have seen this one come up a lot in the last few months, and I am not sure if it is happening more often, or if I am just more sensitive to it after being on here for a while, either way...
Listen up Brotato Chips, behind every awesome picture or video you see on here is a real fucking person. I don’t care how they identify Dom, Sub, Fire Bottom, Rope tops, Ice cream sandwich bottom.
People are more than just a fucking checkbox on a list of fetishes.
Is it cool that they love to be tied up and have things shoved in naughty places? It ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY is cool, but that is not all they are. They are complete humans first and foremost, that they are into kinky happy good time is icing on the fucking cake. Get to know the person well enough and they may invite you into that world. See them in a myopic and dehumanizing manner through the lens of their fetish and there is a good chance you won’t.
That’s enough tips to get you started.
~bae's thoughts. i hadn't been to Feflife in a month or more, so i thought it was time i checked things out and answer some long overdue messages. i cam across this post and thought, damn, Fubar needs this. If i could post it as status update, i would, but it's just a bit too long for that. i could put it on my profile page, but there again, it's awfully long.
Have you been or are you in a Dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about your relationships in your mind?
I have been in Dominant/submissive relationships before and I am currently in a dynamic relationship that still has many of the nuances of a Dominant/submissive dynamic. I have been in more than one D/s relationship. One thing they all had in common was that for my agreement to submit, my consent to being the inferior one, I was always made a priority. I was always cared for and looked after. Another thing all but this current relationship had in common was that I lived it 24/7 and I cohabitated with the dominant partner. By that I was given special treatment and my feelings were always taken into consideration. While there were many similarities, there was an equally number of differences. My first D/s relationship was a hardcore, crash into the lifestyle. Neither one of U/us knew what we were doing but it was, at least for me, instinctual. It ended ugly because for all the aspects of D/s, neither one of us knew the importance of communication. As the years rolled on, it seemed that I always looked for strong men, men who exerted a dominant personality so that my need to submit, my need to acquiesce could be nurtured. Unfortunately, most of those relationships ended with me being the only one willing to give and work for the relationship and in the end they became less of a D/s nature and more like a bad vanilla relationship. What was once good for me became toxic. The relationship I have with the Dom I am with now, is unlike any D/s relationship I have been if before. It has the guise of D/s, or should I say M/s.
If I had to say what the one thing that stands out about each of my relationships, I would say this:
The first one was very much a Daddy/baby girl relationship. Sir was strict though, there were rules that if broken brought harsh and swift punishment. It was sometimes borderline abuse. My second relationship with a dominant personality didn’t come for several years and we were together 12 years total before it ended. He also had a Daddy complex and was by far and still is the best caregiver this sub has ever had. We still remain friends to this day. The 2 next dominant personalities were both full of anger and mistrust, so living with them was never easy and no matter how hard I tried to please them, it was never good enough. Those also had a lot of vanilla in them too. The relationship I currently have with Daddy is complicated and messy. I’ve never had a D/s relationship like this one, where there is poly involved and I am not the number 1. That, in itself, make this the most unique of relationships.
So much has changed in the year since i first answered this question. Yet, so much is still the same. The dynamic i am in now has grown, W/we become more solid in some respects, but less in others. It’s still messy and ugly and the man i call Daddy is always the Dom i had hoped for. The best Dominant Type A personality, i have ever been with, the one i was with for 12 years, has since this was first wrote, passed away from the least likely Dominant thing: suicide. It’s left a gaping hole in a lot of lives. The relationship between my 1st Dom and i is almost non existant, but that’s as it should be. If i had to say what was unique about my dynamic with Daddy now compared to a year ago is that He’s become more hands on, stricter with me. What He’s not done is demonstrate to me that He’s truly a person that sets rules for others and doesn’t back down. His wife rules Him in a way that forces me to almost have one foot out the door. How can He Dominate me, when He has no control in own home? Maybe that’s why He likes to control me. Because it’s obvious from everyone who knows O/our situation, including myself that He’s weak willed when it comes to that wife. i know that i fulfill something in Him that He’s not getting from home. He’s fulfilling something in me too, but i also know that i could get that same fulfillment from Another. i just don’t know if i could feel the same. Although, the longer my weak Dom takes to find His balls, the more disenchanted and resentful, this girl feels. He’s going to lose me one day if things don’t change.
My sister, Kayla, has been released.....for now, so i do not have a response from her.
4) Do you switch into a dominant role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship are there things you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not have you ever thought about it, or given thought to why it’s not for you?
Interesting that this question addresses being a “switch” since i have been exploring that dynamic within myself. I don’t think it’s going well. In fact, i do not really think that i can actually do this. So to answer the question do i do a dominant role at any time? The answer is no! One should not mistake being a strong woman with being a Dominant woman. i am strong. My will has been made strong through years of struggles, abandonment, heartbreak and having to rely only on myself. If I ever find myself in a domestic discipline relationship again, i am sure there are things i would maintain control of. Domestic says it all. Like the last similar relationship, i took care of all the household expenses, food, cleaning supplies and household chores while my partner took care of all the bills….minus any personal bills I created myself. While at times i like that, i also like an equal domestic partnership, maybe even like it better. Equality in domestic matters creates dialog between partners. It forces the Dominant and submissive to work together to maintain domesticity, while the Dominant keeps ultimate decision.
Wow, it’s amazing the things one learns about oneself in a year’s time. A year ago, i was in charge of Amanda. She fell under me, answered to me who in turn took all questions to Daddy to get His answer. i prefer the poly dynamic i have now with Kayla. She answers straight to Daddy. She’s under me, yes, as a second sub. i maintain primary, but she doesn’t answer to me. i advise, that’s it. Together, her and i seem a good fit. Daddy was just saying the other day that i had a dominant side, but in my opinion, being opinionated and stubborn does not dominance make. i take no pleasure in disciplining someone. It would be punishment to me to have to mete out punishment on my sister. Now, topping, that’s another story. i will top! And i will sometimes top from the bottom, but not often. My stance on domesticity still stands, even a year later. Domestic partners must be equals in key areas of maintaining a home. But, it should be in the realms of a 50’s style relationship. Man is head, woman answers to Man, defers to His rule. No ifs, no ands, no buts. Man, respects woman’s opinion, and takes her feelings into consideration. He seeks her advice, treasures her input. Still any decision about anything of import is His, solely, to make.
My sister, Kayla’s response:
No I do not switch roles at any time. Neither do I control anything in the relationship. I've never gave this a thought cause I'm a submissive at heart and need someone to have that control.
How do you know you are a submissive or have the potential to be a submissive? How do you feel when you express your submission?
i know i am a submissive, because i have this deep seeded need to obey Someone. i do not know why that is. What I do know is how it makes me feel, when i hear the stern tones of a Dominant, the commands to perform some task. It sends a thrill through my mind and my body. i know i am a submissive because of the desire to be tamed, and brought to kneel. i know i am a submissive because of my need to submit my mind as well as my body to a Dominant. The stronger the Master, the more mind control He can take, the more i feel alive. When a Dominant displays His dominance, i find myself naturally submitting, it’s a second nature, one i don’t even realize I’m engaging in.
i know i am submissive because i have a strong will, a rebellious nature that requires the skills a Dominant has. Those skills balance me, allow me freedom from the oppression that i feel in my own mind. When my mind is freed, my spirit is calm. When I submit to a Dominant, i feel a sense of relief from the anxiety that most often wars within me.
One Year later:
The same is still true now as it was then with one added measure. i realize that i don’t often make the most sound of decisions or choices. i am an emotional creature by nature and as such, i tend to react out of emotion without always thinking through. Submission, gives me boundaries in which to live in. So my emotions are allowed freedom, but within those boundaries. My decisions are not made as rashly and i am less likely to change my mind about a decision or choice knowing those boundaries prevent me. i like rules, i have to have rules. i have to have boundaries.
My sister Kayla’s response:
To be honest I didn't know I was submissive at first thought no way wasn't for me but I gave it a shot and know now that was I've been all along I need that structure and limits and guidance in my life. When I express my submission it makes me happy and content
Disclaimer: This contract is NOT legally binding and serves only to add an element of realism to a fantasy between two or more consenting adults.
Definition of Terms: The submissive partner in this agreement shall henceforth be referred to as the Slave. The dominant partner in this agreement shall henceforth be referred to as the Master.
Slave's Role
The Slave agrees to submit to the Master in all ways. The Slave acknowledges that, upon execution of this agreement, their body, mind, soul belong to the Master and may be used in any way deemed appropriate by the Master. The Slave agrees to please the Master to the best of their ability and acknowledges that they now exist solely for the Master's pleasure. There are no boundaries of time, place, or situation in which the Slave may refuse an order from the Master without risk of punishment except in situations where Slave's veto applies. Sexual Contact; The Slave acknowledges that they are obligated to engage in vaginal sex, anal sex, oral sex, phone sex, cybersex, with the Master at the request of the Master. The Slave acknowledges that they may be required to perform sexual acts with people of both genders. Physical Improvement - The Slave is obligated to adopt the following exercise regimen: Kegels: three times a day. Flexibility training (yoga, pilates, etc...): weekly. Calisthenics: weekly. Cardio: twice a week. Strength training: twice a week.
Slave's Veto
The Slave, when appropriate, may exercise veto power over any command given by the Master. This power may be invoked under the following circumstances:
When said command may conflict with state, local, or federal law; and may lead to fines, arrest, or legal prosecution of the Slave. When said command may cause significant hardship to the Slave's life, including loss of employment or family stress. When said command may cause significant or lasting bodily harm to the Slave. When said command causes psychological trauma to the Slave. The Master acknowledges that the Slave will use the following safe word when play reaches a level beyond the Slave's consent. Upon hearing this word, the Master agrees to halt, or temporarily suspend, all play-related activities so that they may tend to the needs of the Slave. Safe word: RED LIGHT.
Master's Role
The Master accepts responsibility for the Slave's body and material possessions as outlined in this agreement. The Master agrees to care for the Slave and to arrange for the comfort and well-being of the Slave for as long as they own the Slave. The Master accepts and acknowledges their responsibility to Treat the Slave properly, Train the Slave, Punish the Slave, Love the Slave, Use the Slave, Torture the Slave, as they see fit. The Master agrees to accept all decision making responsibilities of the following aspects of the Slave's life, and the Slave in turn agrees to relinquish control of the following aspects of their life to the Master: wardrobe, sleep schedule, eating habits, personal hygiene, social interaction, recreation, masturbation frequency, pastimes/hobbies, physical appearance, speech patterns, drug/alcohol intake.
Duration
This contract will be valid and enforceable from: 12:00 AM 2014-04-16 to 12:00 AM 2017-04-16 unless otherwise terminated according to the stipulations outlined in this document.
Punishment
The Slave agrees to submit to any punishment that the Master sees fit to deliver. The Master acknowledges that they are not obligated to please the Slave during the course of punishment. The Slave acknowledges that they may be punished without reason or cause other than the amusement or gratification of the Master.
Rules of Punishment
Punishment may not result in permanent bodily harm and may not include any of the following forms of abuse: drawing of blood, burning of the skin, loss of circulation, internal bleeding, withholding of essential, life-sustaining materials, such as food, water, or sunlight, for extended periods of time.
A given punishment may not exceed a time period of 30 Days. The Master acknowledges that the Slave has the following hard limits: any actions that involve the aforementioned activities, scenarios, or actions, shall constitute a breach of contract.
Permanent Bodily Harm
Should any permanent bodily harm ever come to the Slave, whether during the course of punishment of any other Slave related activity, whether by intention or accident, this contract will be considered null and void and any and all agreements made herein shall be considered terminated; if the Slave should so desire. Permanent bodily harm shall be defined as: death, loss of mobility or motor function, permanent marks on the skin, loss of hair, sexually transmitted diseases.
Additional Partners
The Slave may not seek another Master, or lover, or relate to others in any sexual or submissive way, without express permission from the Master. Doing so constitutes a breach of contract and may result in extreme punishment to be performed or enacted at the Master's discretion. The Master may accept other or lovers, but must consider the Slave's emotional response to such actions, and act accordingly. Under no circumstances shall the Master allow any additional partners, or the inclusion of additional partners; to unbalance the Slave emotionally or allow such actions to result in neglect of the Slave. The Master may give the Slave away to other provided that the rules of this contract are upheld. In such a situation, the Master will inform the new Master of all provisions, rules, and regulations stated herein. And any breach of contract by the new Master shall be considered a breach on the part of the Master as well.
Exceptions
The Slave may exercise their own free will under the following circumstances without fear of punishment from the Master: family obligations, professional obligations, physical safety, mental health considerations, financial control, legal obligations, moral obligations, religious obligations.
Alteration of Contract
This contract may not be altered expect in cases where both the Master and Slave agree.
Termination of Contract
This contract may be terminated at any time by the Master but never by the Slave except in instances that constitute a breach of contract on the part of the Master. Upon termination of this agreement, all evidence of any BDSM related play, Slavery agreement, sexual activity shall be destroyed. Any and all materials and belongings shall Be returned to the Slave. Upon termination of this contract, the Slave shall be reinstated with full rights to their own body.
Slave Signature
I have read and understand this contract in its entirety. I hereby agree to accept the terms outlined above and relinquish all rights to my body my mind my soul and accept the claim of ownership made by the Master. I understand that I will be commanded, trained, punished, treated, regarded as a Slave. I promise to always be true and accept the will of my Master at all times. I promise to always fulfill the needs and desires of my Master at all times, and to the best of my ability. I understand that I may not cancel this contract except in instances that constitute a breach.
X____________________________________________ (Slave's signature) _________________ (Date)
Master Signature
I have read and understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to accept the body, mind, soul as my own personal property and care for them to the best of my ability. I shall provide for their security and well-being. I agree to command, instruct, train, punish, raise them as a Slave. I understand the responsibility implicit in this agreement and agree that no harm shall come to the Slave during the course of ownership. I further understand that I can withdraw from this contract at any time.
X____________________________________________ (Master's signature) _________________ (Date)
~bae's thoughts: Almost two years ago, i asked my Master, as W/we were discussing entering back into this lifestyle, whether a contract was needed or required. He told me then it wasn't necessary. i have asked Him a few more time in these last two years whether we need one. As i was doing a search for something else, i stumbled on this little gem of a website: www.slaveregistry.com. Here you can create and print a slave contract. Look for a slave. i decided to, on a whim, create the contract that i would have signed if my Master had required it.....would still sign if He required it. My contract does not have all the provisions on it that are available, mind you.
Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in a relationship or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you submissive to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?
All my life i have submitted, but it’s not always been an easy submit. i have a rebellious streak in me that wars with my need to submit. It’s made especially difficult when i am not made to respect my Dominant. Usually, i am not submissive only in a relationship, there are a few times when i have submitted during a scene. However, I prefer to be in a committed relationship. i’ve never submitted to a play partner, but would not be against it. My submission is only truly fulfilling when it’s total and complete. For me that means in my daily life, not just in the bedroom or just in a scene or with a play partner.
As it was a year ago, so it still remains that i am not an easy slave to Master. My rebelliousness is not quite what it was a year ago in some respects. i have learned to address my Dom with the respect He of His station. As i said a year ago, i prefer to submit within the confines of a committed relationship, not with just a play partner or just in a scene, though i am not disagreeable to the idea of doing those things. i think it would be exciting if my Dom made me submit to another while He watched my submission and service. My submission is throughout my daily life more than any other context. Though my Dom and i do not live together, He still controls many aspects of my life, but it’s a loose control. i feel like i could make most decisions about what wear, who to hang out with, where i can hang out, etc. without His permission, but out of respect, i try to get it. He pretty much lets me do what i want, when i want as long as it doesn’t interfere with work, family or Him. There are, of course some exceptions to which i won’t divulge.
PERFECTANGLEK’S RESPONSE:
Right now I submit to daddy. How this is by following orders and directions ofor his choice.Also by doing the tasks that are asked of me. When daddy speaks I obey or try to at lest. I'm a submissive in everyday life. I would say that I'm a submissive with context of a relationship.
The following weeks are going to be devoted to 28 questions. The 1st 5 i had already completed a year ago when i had my old profile. i am doing these questions with my new sub sister and will post both my old answer (for the questions i did answer), my new response and my sister's responsse as well.
Does your submission – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label? Do you view your submission as Take in Hand, domestic discipline, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, master/slave, owner/pet, or some other description of combination? If you do not use a label, why?
It does have a label. Once it was slave, and probably still is to some extent. i strive for more of a baby girl though, which is more of the dynamic i’d like to have. If i was asked what the label is at this time, i would say it’s more of a top/bottom dynamic. i say this because my dominant does not always display dominant behaviors. Top, yes, but He does not always follow through on what He says He is going to do nor is He always consistent. It often leaves me floundering to define and remember what my position should be based on His perceived definition of O/our dynamic. See, i believe that the less “Master” He is, the less “slave” i tend to try to be. If He is indifferent in His Dominance of me, then it creates an indifference in my submission to Him. If He fails to show the care a Daddy should show His baby girl, the brattier His baby girl becomes. It’s then that i need to see the “Master” display His Dominance!
A year has gone since the first post and it’s amazing how much has changed, yet stayed the same. I have a new sub sister now and as part of her training i have been tasked by Daddy to help. These questions are part of that training. Since i never completed the questions myself, i thought i would also do them alongside my sister. The next entry is how i see myself now as opposed to a year ago.
My submission has a label still. It’s still a slave in many ways, but the bond between a Daddy Dom and baby girl has become stronger, so that there are is less a slave dynamic. i still am not allowed to tell Daddy no, i still obey (or try to) everything He tells me to do. i am still registered as a slave and wear a slave’s collar. A year ago, i labeled my dynamic as more top/bottom and i suppose that hasn’t really changed much. Daddy, has after a year begun to take O/our dynamic and O/our relationship a little more serious, i think. He has finally become more involved, more hands on and stricter in His rule over His slave. Thank God and it’s about time! Still, He can be indecisive at times. i can’t number the times i have told Him to make up His mind. He sometimes says things having not fully thought them through until i bring up an objection about it. Most often, i can negotiate my way into or out of things. Of course, i have good arguments to back up my reasoning. Because of the little attention He has begun to demonstrate, i am a little more the slave i am supposed to be. No longer is He indifferent to Dominance, which means i am no longer indifferent to being His slave. i still long for Him to exhibit more control, though i am not sure in what way or how He could. All i know is that my heart tells me there is more to Him and His ability than i have experienced. i think i am ready for Him to explore my thresholds and break some boundaries. Once He really begins to do that, then i can honestly say we have a Master/slave to Daddy/baby girl labeled dynamic and not just a top/bottom relationship.
PERFECTANGLEK’S RESPONSE:
My label would be dominant and submissive. The reason being is I need that structure and and guidance also with a little brat in there. The brat I think comes from past experience where I wasn't re receiving that structure that was needed I need that fire under my ass I think. I need more than what I was receiving. I'm hoping to continue that dom and sub in the future and become better than what I am right now!
