Here's how to use the power of your intuition
to not only better know and understand what a
man is thinking... but to help you both be
more "in tune" with each other.
And if you'd like to take your ability to talk
and share with a man in your relationship quickly
to the "next level" - to where you both have an
easy time understanding each other, listening,
and relating to where the other person is coming
from... then you need to learn the real secrets
of COMMUNICATING with a man and avoid the common
mistakes and "myths" most women believe in that
make men want to stop opening up. It's all here:
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Dear Crystal,
Have you ever felt "magic" with a man?
Where the connection and chemistry you and
he share is so strong that something inside
tells you that it's something special and real?
You both can't stop thinking about each
other and your lives start to "naturally" fall
into sync.
So let me ask you...
Have you ever noticed that when you're really
connected with a man that you both can actually
start to feel and experience what each other are
going through?
It's like your minds are connected somehow.
Well, have you ever thought about what that
"magic" connection that you have is, and how it
works?
Or how you could use it more to improve your
relationship?
Good. You and I are in sync too.
I'm going to get serious with you for a
second...
Did you know that learning to tune-in and use
this "magic" could make or break things when it
comes to a lasting and secure relationship with
a man?
It could mean the difference between moving
forward into a loving relationship by identifying
the common barriers that almost all men and women
have in relationships.
OR...
Getting your heart broken, never seeing it
coming, and spending months or years after the
fact wondering what happened and if maybe it
was your fault.
The unfortunate reality is that lots of women
who are "in touch" with their own feelings, and
like to talk with the man in their life about
how they FEEL don't always end up using their
abilities in a way that improves their relationship
and brings a man CLOSER to them.
In fact, lots of women who have an easy time
being open and honest about their thoughts and
feelings end up PUSHING THE MAN IN THEIR LIFE
AWAY on accident.
Why?
Because they don't know the simple and subtle
but powerful "shifts" they can make to ENGAGE a
man with their FEELINGS and EMOTIONS - instead of
PUSHING HIM AWAY with them.
Have you ever sat down with the man in your
life and started talking to him and sharing
things that you knew were special and important...
But instead of him listening and relating
to you and your feelings bringing you CLOSER-
it made him become DISTANT and WITHDRAWN?
You know what I'm talking about here, and
you know it frustrates you to no end when this
kind of thing happens.
I'll suggest something to you here that is
what I think is the greatest single lesson you
could ever learn when it comes to men, dating,
relationships... and COMMUNICATION.
It's something that a few of my favorite
teachers and mentors have said in a few different
ways.
It's that communication IS the response
that you get.
But what does this mean? (Because the power
of this single insight and lesson is in the
way that you understand it for yourself)
In short, it means that when you get to a
place in your life where you are mature enough
and healthy enough to take RESPONSIBILITY for
creating the things you want in your life, and
for how your relationships go...
That at this point, what really matters most
when it comes to communicating in a relationship
is NOT that you know what you are trying to say
and that the other person figures it out.
What matters most to you when you're a
healthy and mature person in a relationship
is making sure your communication (what you
say and do) is actually HEARD the way you want
it to be heard.
And what's the only measure of whether or
not you've been HEARD the way you want to be
heard in your relationship... and that the
other person (the man in your life) really
understands you?
I'll tell you-
It's THE RESPONSE that he gives you.
Unfortunately, the women who have the most
trouble with men in their relationships are
not the women who care the least.
The women who have the most trouble with
men and communicating in relationships are
women who don't take the mature and healthy
attitude of "owning" the way the things that
they SAY and DO with a man make him RESPOND.
So let me ask you...
How is the man in your life, or in your
last relationship, responding to you?
And do you find yourself becoming endlessly
frustrated with his inability, or unwillingness
to listen to you and understand you and what
you're thinking and feeling?
And do you find that the more you try and
talk to him - the more he ends up tuning you
out and WITHDRAWING?
Then guess what?
There's a huge part of all this that YOU
are creating yourself.
And until you decide to take the bold step
of taking responsibility for the RESPONSE you
create inside a man with the way you share
your thoughts and feelings... you're likely
to NEVER have the man in your life listening
to you and giving you what you want instead.
The quickest and easiest "crash course"
in becoming a great communicator, getting the
kinds of RESPONSES and LISTENING you want in
your relationship... while at the same time
showing a man that you're the kind of woman
he wants to be with because you're so easy for
him to talk to... your best bet is right here:
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Now, let's get into using the incredible
and unique power of using your own INTUITION
to connect with a man on a deeper level and
build the level of intimacy and attraction
he feels with you...
WHAT WILL GET YOU TO "THE TRUTH" OF A MAN
Let me ask you....
Have you ever been with a guy and he seemed
to have it all together?
He was caring, loving, generous, present
and aware, and you had such an amazing time
together.
But then his issues popped up out of NOWHERE.
Maybe his issues were some of the dreaded
and predictable tell-tale signs of a confused
and withdrawing man.
Tell me if any of the following seem strangely
familiar to you:
-He starts acting restless and talking about
how he isn't really ready to "settle down" and
wants his "freedom"
-He tells you that he didn't see things getting
"serious" so fast
-He doesn't make an effort to connect with you,
give you praise or attention, and stops sharing
any personal thoughts or feelings
-He stops making you a priority. He wants to spend
all of his time with friends or other people and
doesn't value time together anymore
-He never initiates anymore. He isn't as physically
excited and into you as he was at first
-He starts flirting, talking to or even hanging
out with other women
Recognize any of these?
Ouch, right?
So what in the world can you do about it when
a man is acting so withdrawn and closed off like
in these situations above?
Well, tell me...
Did you ever sense any of these things coming
before they happened, or when they started, but
you didn't have any "proof"?
Fascinating how that works.
What's going on here?
Well, what's happening centers around an
important idea I want you to understand-
That you instinctively know more about what's
going on in the world around you than you or your
conscious mind fully recognizes.
So here's the deal...
You ALREADY HAVE a magical ability inside
you that comes up for you every once in a while.
So all you have to do is learn how to
consciously tune into it.
This "magic" is what we also refer to sometimes
as INTUITION.
So how does it work and what is it?
In short, intuition is something that comes
"pre-wired" in your brain.
The way your conscious and subconscious mind
is hooked up to the rest of your complex body
systems and senses make it possible.
So the good news is that this ability is there
for you anytime you want to use it.
But the bad news is that you have to take
time to fully tune into it and recognize your
ability.
It a kind of "practice".
Music is a good way to explain it.
You can't just pick up an instrument and start
playing, right?
But once you start to become more aware of the
instrument, the music and how to play, things start
to naturally fall into place.
And soon sounds, melodies and rhythms just start
to flow out of you in the moment.
Like they appear out of thin air, and nothing
could feel more natural.
And your mind is able to process all the
information coming at it that used to overload it.
But now it can take it all in and use it to
actually ANTICIPATE what's next.
Well, this is EXACTLY what this magical ability
of yours called intuition is like.
Your mind is constantly picking up on information
from your environment, even when you're not really
conscious of it.
And all that information is being "processed" over
and over to try and calculate the risk, danger, and
expectations from your environment to try to find a way
towards the outcome you want.
So let's get to it.
THE MAGIC POWER OF YOUR INTUITION
Here's something you already know...
Men don't make it very easy for open and
honest communication about what's happening
and what's going on in your relationship.
That's why I don't have to tell you that
men can be bad communicators when it comes to
their feelings, emotions and their intentions
around love and relationships.
But give them a sports game and they'll give
it all kinds of meaning and emotion that you've
never seem them share before.
What a bunch of apes...lol
So knowing that men can be BAD COMMUNICATORS,
and that they can have serious shortcomings with
sharing their feelings or knowing simple how they
are feeling in a given moment and being able to
articulate it... this leaves you with a personal
choice to make.
You can either:
A) Do nothing about it and continue to be
shocked, frustrated, surprised and hurt by
the things that men do and say (or don't do
or say) and have your relationship stay "stuck"
in the same place.
Or...
B) You can start to create a more perceptive
and insightful way of being in your own life
and relationships by using your natural
intuitive abilities... and changing the way
you and a man COMMUNICATE.
Here's the thing...
Using your intuition will not only help you
understand a man better, but help guide you
to an even more rewarding benefit - to help
them understand YOU.
So which one will it be?
Choice A - do nothing and stay "stuck"?
Or Choice B - grow and learn?
Nod if you're choosing B - more perception
and insight.
And if you're still stuck in the trap of
Choice A where things aren't great but you
always get to be "right" when the man in your
life disappoints you... then go ahead and stop
reading.
I don't want to waste our time.
Good. Glad you're still here.
Let's get to it then...
USING YOUR INTUITION WITH MEN
Using your intuition might be the best, and
in some situations, the ONLY way, that you'll be
able to know what's really going on inside the
mind of a man.
And even better, the best way to find a way
to help him understand YOU and your feelings.
I know it sounds counterintuitive, and I can
hear it now...
"You mean I have to give some understanding in
order to get it?"
Ummmm, yeah. You do.
It's called maturity.
And if you're completely honest, I think
you'll remember that deep down even YOU don't
always know exactly what your feelings mean or
how to make sense of it all.
So how do you expect a man to take in the
small part of your feelings that you can explain
with words and understand and relate to you?
Here's an answer to get you started-
Use your intuition and let it guide you.
So how do you do that?
I'm going to give you a short-cut guide to
getting in touch with your intuition.
That way, you can start getting the benefits
of understanding and becoming understood.
SIX-STEPS FOR USING YOUR INTUITION WITH A MAN
Step 1: Clear Your Mind Of Fear And Doubt
Some women end up worrying almost obsessively
that something is wrong or going badly with a
guy they're interested in or dating once they
see some negative sign or pattern.
And once this happens, they want to know
what's going on so intently, and often expect
the bad, so they let their negative thoughts
take over.
If you want to be able to use your intuition,
you need to start interrupting that voice in
your head that's the "fear-monger".
You know the one - that voice that's always
worrying just to try and keep you safe and
protected. And to predict all the bad things
you've seen and felt before so that you don't
have to go through them again.
The thing is, you can't find the truth in
a situation if you and your mind is buried inside
your mind in fears and doubts.
Have you ever seen how arrogant people often
cover up or ignore real problems around them
just because of their "ego" and the false belief
they hold to that they're always right - no
matter what the cost.
Same idea.
Keep a balanced and objective mindset.
That way your beliefs systems aren't all
mixed up with negative thoughts and fears.
If they are, there's no way for you to see
the real "cause and effect" around you.
You'll just see what your mind is fearful
and afraid of - and this only helps bring the
same kind of negative situations and experiences
you've had in the past into your life again.
Don't do it!
By the way... if you're having a tough time
moving past any painful or negative thoughts
or experiences from your past... or you see
that often times it's YOUR negative and fearful
emotions that end up getting in your way and
ruin things with men, then I would STRONGLY
SUGGEST that you take a minute and read the
letter at the link below to help get those
negative thoughts and patterns out of your life
once and for all.
Don't let the things that don't define you
and aren't your personal best push away the
man you're meant to be with.
Check out free tips and the in-depth program
I've created to help you get into a positive
and healthy state that will naturally draw the
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Step 2: Accept That Men Don't Make "Sense"
All those frustrating things that men do
that don't make any sense to you as a woman
will NEVER MAKE SENSE.
Stop trying to make sense of them.
Trying to make sense of a man in your own
terms is entirely counterproductive and will
only make you frustrated.
To learn about things you don't already
know, like intuitive ideas, you have to have
to look with a different set of eyes - not
the same ones you always use for yourself.
Step 3: You Can't Figure Everything Out
Have you ever REALLY hit it off with a guy
but after a few weeks or months, even though
things seemed great, the man pulled away and
starting acting distant and cold?
Most men, at one time or another, do things
like this that are impossible to analyze and
figure out.
So...
EXPECT to NOT UNDERSTAND everything a man does.
If you can become more comfortable with the
idea of not knowing everything about WHY a man
does what he does, then you'll feel a strange
sense of calm relaxation - along with an increase
in your own self-confidence.
And guess what? This ends up being VERY UNIQUE
and very ATTRACTIVE when a man sees and senses
that you can be confident and "centered" in
those times where other women he knows have acted
a little "too emotional" for him.
Now, I'm not saying that it's OK for a man to do
whatever he wants, and that you should accept any
negative and withdrawing behaviors without having
your own feelings about it - and "pretending" it's
all ok.
But the more relaxed and positive you think
and feel around these things, no matter what the
man is doing, the sooner you'll stop fighting
everything in your mind and start creating better
situations for yourself.
It's frustrating and counterintuitive, but
accepting what's going on and moving forward
from that reality in a positive way changes the
whole frame of the situation.
There's a funny thing about the way the world
works... and especially about how men are when it
comes to relationships with women-
Any "force" or "energy" that you apply to a
situation with a man... there will be a response
that's equal in force to what you're doing.
This is a basic law of the universe - every
force produces a response of equal force.
So if the "energy" you're applying is anxious,
fearful, uncertain, etc. than guess what you're
going to get back from a man?
You guessed it - the same kind of energy
in response.
But some women get stuck in the "I need
to understand why he did this and THEN I'll
figure out how to feel and act" mindset. So
they keep on pressing and using the force they
feel... thinking it will somehow transform into
connection and understanding from a man.
I'll put it to you straight - this NEVER
leads to clear thinking and positive action.
And more importantly, it never gets you
the kind of connection and response you want
with a man.
Quick note here - if you use the kind of
energy or force that includes the things that
will make a man feel ATTRACTION, then guess
what he's going to feel and EXPERIENCE with
you just by being around you.
Right - he's going to FEEL ATTRACTION for
you.
And I wonder what kind of "energy" you'll
get back from a man then?
To learn what it is that makes a man feel
that intense gut-level attraction for you to
where he literally can't stop calling you and
thinking about you.... go here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/NALA/?cid=ZVQAZZ&lid=4&ll=1
Step 4: Listen For More Than Words
Intuition doesn't talk in straight answers,
or in plain logical English.
It's much more abstract.
Your intuition talks to you through feelings,
images, and bodily sensations such as "gut
feelings".
Most people, especially women I know, are
usually in an open and relaxed state when they
get intuitive gut feelings and understandings.
I couldn't talk highly enough about meditation,
but I know it's not for everybody.
If you don't think you have a strong
intuitive sense, simply try asking yourself
more questions and keep them mulling around
in your mind.
When you've got something in the back of
your mind, something amazing happens without
you even trying.
Your brain takes notice and uses all your
senses to find any sign or trace of information
that relates to your questions as you go about
your day.
It's kind of like a search running in
the background on your computer - even though
you're doing something else it doesn't stop
looking.
After you've asked your questions, your
mind will start sending you ideas, feelings
and images without you even thinking about it.
But sometimes it usually takes more time
than you'd like.
Finally, your intuitive voice will eventually
just pop up and start to give you hints and
information without you even asking for it.
And then it's up to you to pay attention,
acknowledge it and make good use of it.
The huge mistake too many women make is
when they get intuitive messages that they
don't like, or that scare them.
When this happens, a mature Woman will look
at the intuitive message she's getting and go
to a place of figuring out how she can use
the message she's getting in a constructive
way for herself - and for her relationship.
An immature woman (a Girl) will get very
upset about receiving a negative message, and
will get thrown off emotionally to the point
where she will say things that shows she's not
in a very fun and attractive place personally and
emotionally.
When a man sees this, it would be great if
he would always stop and say,
"Hey, are you ok? Do you want to talk about
it honey?"
But I think you know that this is NOT what
most men will do in these situations. Especially
if you're in a "newer" relationship... or you've
been in a relationship where you've been acting
hurt or upset often around a man.
At these times, most men will either PULL AWAY
to try and avoid the negative emotions they can
see and sense in you...
Or they will get irritated or frustrated with
you and want you to simple get rid of your own
feelings.
Either way, it doesn't work out well. At all.
Step 5: Ask Your Intuition Questions
One of my favorite things to do is to train
and tune my intuition with each new person I
meet.
And I've personally found that body language
has become the thing that gives me special
intuitive hints about people and situations.
If you're new to using your intuition or you're
concerned with if or how to act on it, start
with smaller things that might be less important.
Like whether or not you should go away for
the weekend or if your friend will like the gift
you've been thinking about for them.
That way, you can be practicing and learn
to use your intuition without doing it in
high-risk or high-pressure situations.
This will help you develop your abilities and
become more comfortable to trust what you find.
One of the areas that lots of women have
the most problems using their intuition and
tuning into where the man in their life is
really at is in UNCOMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS.
Yes, I said UNCOMMITTED. As in new men
you're dating early on.
In my eBook "Catch Him & Keep Him" I discuss
the natural "Relationship Temp" that men have,
and how this differs from the speed at which
women start to feel and act "committed" in a
relationship.
If you don't know how to stay "in tune" with
a man, and you start acting in ways that say to
him that you see things as a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP
when he isn't there yet - then no matter how much
the guy liked you before, he's going to have a
negative reaction and become much much less likely
to want to grow closer and more involved with you.
I know it sounds silly, but it's the way men
are when it comes to the delicate process of
getting close to a woman, deciding if and when
he wants to move into a more serious relationship,
and then actually becoming "committed" on a physical
and emotional level.
You can read more and download my eBook here
if you're interested in knowing more on this:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/eBook/?cid=ZVQAZZ&lid=5&ll=1
Step 6: Act With The "Long-Term" In Mind
Years ago I had a huge learning experience
when it came to using and listening to my intuition
in the right way.
The situation came up when I was worried that
a few people I worked with, who were my managers
at the time, we're talking about me and
scrutinizing my work more closely than they had
before.
Feeling and sensing the scrutiny, I immediately
felt worried about my job and wondered if they
were thinking about letting me go.
The company had lain off several employees
a few months before, so I began to think that
their extra attention to my work must have
something to do with another round of
cost-cutting.
Anyways, aside from my own professional
insecurities at the time, my gut told me that
something bad was coming.
So what should I do, I asked myself.
I was really worried.
I decided to push myself even harder at work
to try and show them how valuable I was in hopes
that I would keep my job.
But that uncomfortable and nervous feeling
in my stomach that came with my intuition about
their scrutiny of my work stayed with me for
the next several weeks.
Well, it turns out that my managers were
watching me and judging my performance. But
it wasn't for the reasons I feared.
A few weeks later I was called into a
meeting with the managers who had been watching
me closely.
Walking down the hall to the meeting, I
had a lump in my throat and a turning stomach.
My intuition was leading me to the
conclusion that this was it - I was sure that
I was about to be fired for the first time in
my life.
I couldn't believe it.
So I walked into the meeting feelings anxious,
defensive and tense.
As I sat down, one of my managers could
immediately sense my discomfort and asked me
what was wrong.
Without provocation, I immediately started
defending my job and showing my insecurities.
My emotions got the best of me and I even
said a few negative things about the managers
themselves, as I wanted to place what I saw as
equal blame on the managers for the companies
problems.
Luckily, they finally stopped me before I did
too much damage.
Then they let me know that they had been
watching my performance because they wanted to
put me in charge of a new division.
They wanted to be confident in their decision
so they paid extra attention to my work to be sure-
and now they were.
I breathed a huge sigh of relief and my mood
completely changed.
End of story.
Thinking back, my intuition had alerted me so
that I'd be aware of what was going on.
But the mistake I made was taking that
information and using it to justify my own fears
and insecurities.
If I would have taken the information, been
patient with it and applied it towards my goals
in a positive context, then the entire experience
knowing that the managers were watching my work
would have been different.
Maybe even productive for me.
But I didn't use my intuition to see my way
to something better. I simply used it as a means
to worry and stress myself out over my own fears.
So all this talk about intuition.
How does it really apply to the men in your
life, dating and relationships?
Well, take a man with some of those common
negative male behaviors-
-fear of intimacy
-inability to commit
-flirting, cheating
-withdrawal
Intuition can help you see past these things
and understand them in the larger context of the
deeper real psychological and emotional "stuff"
that's hiding beneath the surface.
Your intuition could even help you cut
through a man's ego and persona to get to the
real person that's often hard to find.
Intuition is probably the best tool for
being able to identify good and bad qualities
in a man.
A man's external or surface behavior and
attitude can be very different than his deeper
desires and intentions - as you probably
already know.
Some men are, unfortunately, just good at
playing the part of an emotionally stable,
available and loving guy for a while, even if
they aren't.
So it's really up to YOU to learn to get
to the "deeper emotional truth" of any man
you're interested in or dating.
And yeah, I know men can be soooo frustrating.
In a better world, men would be able to tell
you honestly and sincerely where they were at.
But as you know, MEN SUCK sometimes.
And a man will basically NEVER be able to
tell you clearly and honestly everything he
feels or what he wants when you ask him.
So if you're constantly surprised, blind-
sided or confused by what men around you do,
then it's time to get in touch with not only
your intuition, but the other knowledge and
skills that you can put to work for yourself.
Your heart and your love-life deserve it.
In my ebook, Catch Him And Keep Him, I've
dedicated a whole chapter to the idea of better
understanding a man's "inner psychology".
Remember, learning to understand is one of
the best ways to be understood.
In Chapter 3, I also explain how to create
the right mental and emotional state for yourself
to better take advantage of your intuition.
Getting into the right state will also help
you start to learn and identify what a man is
thinking and feeling with you - without letting
those self-destructive fears pop up that so
often cause us to react in fear, anger or
frustration.
Have you ever built up all kinds of
frustration inside your mind with a man, and
when you finally talked to him, it all came out
in a destructive whirl-wind that only pushed
him away?
Then it's time you checked out my book and
took the next step away from those helpless and
frustrated feelings.
I think of learning these "emotional skills"
as the equivalent of learning to write in the
dating and relationship world.
And intuition and understanding is the
"learning to read" of the dating and relationship
experience.
In other words, don't go through your life
emotionally illiterate and stumbling over every
feeling that pops up and every man who acts out
around you.
Learn to read what's going on for yourself
and know what's important and what's not.
The rest will start to take care of itself.
Go here to check out all the details on my
ebook and how you can download it and be reading
in just a few minutes from now:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/eBook/?cid=ZVQAZZ&lid=6&ll=1
I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck
in Life and Love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter