Alright, I know I was slack taking so long to write my next roll of tangent to this topic, but for those that read these and are/were looking forward to it…good things come to those who wait. And here is your warning or wish…there will be more parts to come. This one is on the topics of Sexual Harassment and dressing as a woman in the work place. Hope you enjoy!
The majority of my true friends are male. The people that I am closest to are male. I end up spending more time with male friends than female friends. No, it’s not that I’m trying to get in their pants nor are they trying to get into my pants (skirt, or dress). It’s simple the reason why I prefer them to females. Less freaking drama!!!
I have more to talk to them about. Though there are times that we all talk out of the other’s interest levels so I feel like a monkey given a math problem. The conversations then do have a depth to them that most females can’t seem to get past or even to. The guys aren’t so caught up with the latest fashions, make up, hair styles, celebrity B.S. or other things that really don’t mater in the scales of life. Now, before women get their panties in a bunch, I am not saying that all women are that way. It just so happens that I tend to find more women to be on the shallow side of conversations verses men. Yeah, men do have shallow conversations as well. But I tend to fall more into line with their conversations than women’s. I frankly don’t give a flying rat’s ass about the latest fads and tends. I wear what I want, when I want, how I want them. My interest lay more into sports, politics, and other topics that I won’t mention here. I just have more in common with the stereotypical “men’s” interest than the stereotypical “women’s” interest.
Now it comes down to fashion, for once I am going to put my two cents in here. With the way we have become obsessed with sexual harassment it has come down to the point that you should be afraid to look at someone of the opposite sex. To even glance at them anymore has the consequences of having sexual harassment yelled at the top of someone’s lungs. Now ladies, if you don’t want a guy to look at you like a fine cut of beef, stop dressing to show off everything you have. You can dress sexy without dressing provocatively. Flatter your assets without showing them off. The wonder bra, while it is an interesting invention (though, I haven’t had a uses to wear one…personally I enjoy the minimizing bras), don’t go into the work place wearing one with a supper low shirt. If you do wear them, get over the fact that you are not taken serious. When a man is talking to you at work, expect him to be conversating with your breast and not you. If you are wearing a skirt that is so short it is barely covering your butt, except the wolf whistles, and remarks. Pants and skirts so tight you can see your panty line, expect the comments about what type of panties you wear, or commando styles. If you want to be taken serious, then dress serious. Wear clothes that properly fit. Look at men. They can look sexy in a well-tailored suit that accents his body and gives you a look at him, without giving anything truly away. Wear a skirt a little longer, pants that don’t show your camel toe, and shirts that are flattering any yet covering.
While the comments shouldn’t happen, aren’t we in turn asking for it? When you were the provocative outfits out to clubs, bars, etc., aren’t you looking for the same reactions from the men? The same reaction that you frown on, and yell harassment at work about? The exact comments and leers that you want from the men at the bar you are telling the men at work they shouldn’t do? Well, why I do NOT condone sexual harassment on any means, I have been forced to ask myself, can you really expect the man to shut off his behavior just because we aren’t dressing properly? Perhaps the problem is in us. And then evaluate is what the man saying at work just a complement or is it really harassment? Have they passed a line that should NEVER be crossed or is it a complement? If it is a line that has been crossed that should be, then that should include going out on the town. If these are the same comments you want in a bar, evaluate your work clothes, and manor of wearing them.
