"Mind Games" To Help You Attract Women
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In this newsletter we're going to deal with
possibly the BIGGEST problem guys run into with
women.
I'd like to talk a bit about how we program
ourselves and become programmed when it comes to
dealing with women... as well as how to overcome
the negative programming that we often don't even
recognize within ourselves.
Let me ask you a few questions. Take a moment
to think about the answers... maybe even write
them down.
1) When it comes to women, do you have an overall
"positive" outlook towards your success? Do you
believe that there is "abundance" when it comes to
women, and that you can go out at any time and get
a date if you want to? Why or why not?
2) Do you have any negative beliefs or programming
when it comes to the idea of APPROACHING women
you'd like to meet or asking women out on dates?
Do you believe that you're going to be intruding
or annoying a woman if you approach her? Do you
believe that a woman will most likely accept or
reject a date request from you?
3) Have you CHOSEN the beliefs and attitudes that
you have towards women, or have they been "chosen
for you" by others, situations, programming, TV,
the media, etc.?
4) Would you like to change some of the attitudes
and beliefs that you hold in your mind? If so,
which ones and what would you like to change them
to?
If you're like most guys I know who would like
to improve their success with women, then you
probably have one or two "negative programs" in
your subconscious mind (if you're like I used to
be before I learned the things I know now, then
you might have A LOT of them).
I can remember when I used to believe that
women would be VERY offended or alarmed if I tried
to strike up an unexpected conversation with
them...
I can remember feeling that if a woman rejected
me in front of other people that I WOULD DIE of
embarrassment.
I can remember thinking, "Why would a woman
find ME attractive?" And believing that the
truly desirable, beautiful women out there just
wouldn't find a guy like me interesting or
attractive because I wasn't rich, tall, famous,
buff, or of royal descent.
And as a matter of fact, even though I've spent
literally YEARS reprogramming myself and learning
as much as I could about women and attraction, I
still know that somewhere deep in my subconscious
mind this old programming exists. Of course, it
doesn't affect my behavior the way it used to, but
my point is that once you program yourself or open
yourself to programming from others and from our
modern culture, it's sometimes a challenge to
overcome that programming and go on to be
successful.
Let me give you a little Tough Love:
NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU FIGURE THIS
STUFF OUT WITH WOMEN. AND NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR
NOT YOU'RE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN... OTHER THAN
YOU.
Really.
If you learn how to meet and date the kinds of
women that you've always wanted, it won't matter
to anyone. Your friends won't think you're any
cooler (well, maybe a little), your mom won't stop
nagging you, your boss won't pay you more money,
and you won't lose that extra 10 pounds that
you've needed to lose for the past 10 years.
It just doesn't matter. No one cares.
THE ONLY PERSON THAT CARES IS YOU.
And the only one that's going to be able to do
anything about this programming that we're talking
about IS YOU.
Your buddies aren't going to come over tomorrow
night and say, "Hey, you know, I've been thinking
about it. You really need to do something about
your subconscious programming in the area of women
and dating, and I'd like to help you."
Your mom isn't going to call you up and say,
"You know, dear, I've been thinking about it, and
I really put some bad ideas in your mind about how
to treat women... I'd like to address those things
in this call and help you become the mac daddy
you've always wanted to be."
Nope.
You're not going to get a call from the guys
that run the ads that say, "Show her that you love
her by spending five grand on a pair of diamond
earrings" to tell you that the ads really aren't
true and that no amount of diamonds will help you
meet women if you're programmed to act like a
WUSSY.
It just ain't gonna happen that way.
If you want to do something about your
programming and your success, you're going to have
to DO IT ALL YOURSELF.
Here, let me say that again... just in case you
didn't get it...
YOU HAVE TO DO IT ALL YOURSELF.
And what's the best way to do it yourself?
This is a fantastic question...
There are a lot of ways to get it going, but I
have a few favorites... and since we only have a
little time together in this newsletter, I'll get
right to the point...
1) Look around and pay careful attention to what's
REALLY going on. Just like a comedian looks at the
fine details and tells stories about things that
we never see... but are right there in front of
us, you need to look closer.
Here's a little story.
I was in Vegas awhile back for a visit. I
hadn't been to Vegas in about 4 years, so
everything seemed new to me... there were about 5
huge new hotels that had just opened, and I spent
the day walking around and just seeing the sights.
As I walked around, I looked at the people...
and especially at the couples. I'm not sure if it
was because I was looking at all of the new sights
or what, but for some reason I was really noticing
a lot of little details... and I was paying
special attention to the couples that were
strolling around on the strip.
It's always amazing to me how attractive women
will be with guys of all shapes, sizes, and
ages...
When you really look around and pay attention
to what's actually going on, you'll be amazed.
And you don't have to be in Vegas to see this
phenomenon yourself. Just go out on a Friday night
and look around.
Now, before you say, "Yeah, but if you're rich
or handsome or tall you'll get more chicks", I
will acknowledge that these things can provide
certain advantages, but they're not NEAR the level
of advantage that WOMEN get from being physically
attractive... not even close, actually.
The more I pay attention, learn and try
things, the more I realize that women respond to
PERSONALITY far more than they respond to LOOKS.
I've even made it a point to ask guys who are
tall, handsome, etc., if they believe that their
success with women comes from those things. Almost
universally they tell me that their ATTITUDES and
SKILLS are far more important than their looks.
I've also met a lot of tall, good-looking guys
at my seminars who have INCREDIBLE problems
meeting women. The more experience I have with
this, the more I realize just how little LOOKS has
to do with the equation.
You've probably read some of these newsletters
where good looking guys write in and say, "I'm
buff, good looking, and I have women talking to me
all the time, but I can't get any dates... they
only like me as a friend."
So, part of this step is for you to take a day
or so and go out in public... to a place that is
PACKED with people, and look around at the
couples. Look with your own two eyes and see all
of the attractive women that are with guys who are
NOT what you would consider to be "physically
attractive."
You need to see with your own eyes what's going
on in the REAL world.
This is a big step in changing some of your
programming.
2) Watch some guys who are successful with women.
One of the best things I've ever done is make
friends with some REALLY SUCCESSFUL guys (I'm
talking about success with women here). As a
matter of fact, most of the techniques that I've
learned, developed, and write about originally
started out as something I got from friends by
watching them interact with women.
When you watch guys who know how to make women
feel that magical emotion called "ATTRACTION",
you'll start to see the patterns in their
behavior, and the patterns in the responses from
women.
Nothing can replace watching a guy walk up to a
woman, start talking to her, and walk away 5
minutes later with her number.
So make some new friends if you have to. Just
do what it takes to watch some guys interact with
women. It's a big one.
If you're at a point in your life where you're
too busy with work, etc. to get out and meet guys
who are successful with women, then do yourself a
favor and subscribe to my monthly CD interview
series... that will help a LOT. It's here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/InterviewSeries/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=2
3) Stop looking for a "magic pill". Realize that
you're going to have to CONSTANTLY learn and
improve.
I know, I know. You'd like to take a pill and
have this whole part of your life handled.
You'd like a computer chip implanted in your
brain that will change you into a chick-magnet.
Well, until these things exist, you're going to
have to do it the old fashioned way... you're
going to have to actually DO SOMETHING.
At first, it might seem a little uncomfortable.
You might feel weird going out to a bar alone just
to look at the people.
But don't worry, no one will care (remember
what I said earlier... nobody cares whether or not
you're successful, only you do).
The more you improve, the more you'll WANT to
improve, and the easier it will become.
Read books, try things, experiment. Keep a
journal, write down what works and what doesn't,
think about the things you'd like to change and
write them down.
JUST KEEP IMPROVING A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME.
If you do these things, you'll begin to
REPROGRAM YOURSELF and change your negative
programming into POSITIVE programming and success.
Of course, the best place to start is with some
of the materials that I've put together...
It took me years of trial and error to really
figure out what works with women.
Repeat: It took me YEARS.
Years of trial and error.
I'm talking about trying out everything you can
imagine...and having MOST of it NOT work.
Every time I found something that DID work, I
took the idea, refined it, and wrote it down...
then worked on it some more.
As you already know, I've taken all the stuff
I've learned for myself and put it into the
programs that I've created to help YOU learn this
stuff much quicker and easier than I ever did.
One of the things I discovered while I was
learning how to attract women, was that most men
walk around with a DEEP INSECURITY inside.
It took me a few years to figure out something
even MORE important:
That insecurity can't be fixed with "pick up
lines".
And the reality is that it's MORE than just an
insecurity issue...
It's actually that most men have never gone
through the process of BECOMING a man who
NATURALLY attracts women.
One of the programs I've created is actually
called "On Being A Man Who Naturally Attracts
Women".
This program has very few "tricks and
techniques", because once you learn how to get
this powerful INNER stuff handled, success with
women often just takes care of itself.
I honestly believe that this particular program
is my most PROFOUND... and possibly my most
ORIGINAL program.
And I'll tell you this: It has PROFOUND effects
on the guys who learn and INTERNALIZE the
materials inside.
I would love to rant and rave some more about
it, but trust me: If you need to get your
"masculine development" handled, go read all the
details and watch the video preview clips for
yourself. You can check them out here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/OnBeingAMan/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=3
Now, if you REALLY want to take your success
with women to the next level FAST, you need to
ALSO get my CD/DVD Advanced Dating Techniques
program.
This takes the concepts you're learning about
in these newsletters of mine, and goes MUCH deeper
with them. I spend several hours teaching the
theories and concepts BEHIND the techniques, so
you can work to change on MANY levels.
I'll even teach you some great techniques for
this very IMPORTANT area that we've just discussed
in this newsletter: YOUR BELIEFS.
All the details, plus video samples, are here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=4
By the way, the best part about these programs
and all of my other ones is:
- I'll send them to you to try at MY risk. You
don't have to pay until AFTER you've checked them
out and ACTUALLY USED them for a month.
- I'll send them to you in a plain package, (so
your mom won't know what's in it).
- I'll guarantee that it will help you get more
dates starting IMMEDIATELY. And I put my money
where my mouth is.
Again, the "On Being A Man" program is here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/OnBeingAMan/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=5
The Advanced Dating Techniques Program is here:
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Oh, one more thing... if you haven't downloaded
a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating",
then what the hell are you waiting for? You can
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I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
David D.