Meeting Women Online, Getting Them To Call YOU
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***QUESTION***
Dave,
Let me start by telling you, you 'da man! I really
got to hand it to you, your stuff has given me
confidence I've never had before, and I'm just
trying to absorb as much of it into my head as
possible. I really want to thank you for being
able to share this stuff with guys like me and not
keeping it to yourself.
There's just one thing wrong with your material:
its way TOO CHEAP!!! Seriously Dave, I think WE'RE
ripping YOU off! Thanks to you, I started to apply
the Cocky and Funny in chatting rooms and in the
real world, and it is a hell of a lot better than
the Mr. Nice guy act. However, I use emails and
chat to practice my Cocky and Funny and it is
improving. For example, I have one trick I use and
it works on a girl whether she's younger, older,
or the same age as me.
I asked one girl her age, and she turned out to be
as old as me, 21. I then replied by telling her
"ahh forget it, your too young for me" I assume
that this girl wasn't used to a rejection like
this
and she was intent on knowing how old I was. I
told her that I was also 21, and she reacted like
most girls do at this part, by laughing and
turning into a stuck up and asking me how she
could possibly be too young for me. I then respond
saying something like "I guess your right, its not
your age, you just wouldn't be able to handle me,"
then she reacts like most girls do at this point,
continuing to be even more stuck up and laugh
sarcastically, while I tell her that Ill give her
a chance because she wants it so much, and she has
2 minutes to convince me she can handle me. Now
this is a great conversation starter, and while
she argues the fact that she can handle me, I
occasionally send her teasing comments like,
"honey, your wasting my time" or "Why are u not
entertaining me" or "ZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzz". I kind of
understood how being Cocky works, and if the girl
really meant the insults she said to me at first,
she still wouldn't be talking to me, right? After
doing this to one particular girl, who turned out
to be hot as hell from a pic she sent me, she
completely forgot about being stuck up and told me
"ok, Im sorry, lets start over" this is when I
realized I had her in my grasp and I continued
being Cocky but turned it down a notch, was this
the right thing to do? Around the end I asked her
for her email and she replied by telling me she
canceled it yesterday, a terrible excuse. I
persisted and said "yeah sure, just type it down,
it'll be ok." she stuck to her story and I gave up
and gave her my email which she "supposedly" wrote
down. Now I know I probably shouldn't of backed
down on her email, but I thought the conversation
was going so great she would actually want me to
have her email. Is there something I did wrong for
her to refuse giving it to me, and what other ways
could I make a girl give me her phone # and/or
email? Also, you stress how you should never
answer a girls question directly, to leave her
unsure. This happens to be my weakness and I would
appreciate a few tips on this too.
Thanks for everything Dave, your reply would
really mean a lot. W.C.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Great story... and great job.
One thing you have to remember about chat rooms
and online IM sessions is that they're great
PRACTICE.
Now, I've met some UNBELIEVABLE women on the
internet... so don't get me wrong here.
But don't worry too much about any particular
girl... or any particular situation.
She could have had a boyfriend, or even a
husband... and was just online because she was
bored... or any of 100 other scenarios.
When something like this happens, just move on.
The point is that you're using the Internet for
a GREAT "practice environment", and you're
training your mind to be Cocky & Funny in the
moment... which begins to translate into the REAL
world as you do it.
To answer your question about how to get a girl
to give you her email address and/or number, just
do more of what you're already doing...
Keep throwing down the challenges...
Write back and say, "Yeah, you're probably not
that adventurous".
She'll say, "Yes I am!"
Then say, "Well, if you were then you would
have asked me for my number and called me already.
But you're not. So you didn't...."
Keep this up until she asks for YOUR number.
Then, as soon as you hit the "send" button, IM
her again quickly to say, "I don't hear my phone
ringing! Hurry up!"
You'll love the results you get from this kind
of thing.
But be careful. And get LOTS of CURRENT
pictures. Take it from someone who knows... lol...
don't just take her word for it.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave man!!!!
I'm taking your advice and not being an ass
kisser, so I won't say how much your book rules
(even though it does). I'm seeing 2 girls and
potentially 3, but I have some questions. First
off, any advice when dealing with a really shy
woman? It's tough to do some of the things like
the kiss test when they're timid (but oh so cute).
Second, the potential one I'm kind of interested
in, but definitely not long-term, and I think she
knows that, but I'd like to get to know her and
have a little fun...any words of wisdom? Third,
this may be covered in the book and I haven't
gotten to that chapter yet, but any style advice
when it comes to clothing? I'm clueless there.
Thanks in advance dude!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'll answer them in reverse.
Yes, style advice is in the book. Turn to pages
33 and 34.
To contestant number 2, just keep on doing what
you're doing. Women usually know what's going on,
and she'll start making relationship noises if she
really wants one. Until then, keep doing what's
working.
And about the oh-so-cute shy girls: I know, I
know... but you must remember that if you're the
one that brings the shy girl out of her shell,
she's probably going to want to marry you... and
if she's not very experienced with guys, you might
mess with her head too much. Do the right thing.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
I was just wondering if you think it's a good idea
to call a woman before a date to confirm or should
I just show up at her doorstep and hope shes
there? A while ago I had a date with a woman and
I didn't call before I left to pick her up then
when I got to her house she wasn't there. Do you
call before the date to confirm?
Z. >From Florida.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, it's been so many years since I've
gone out to a woman's house and picked her up for
a first date, I can't even remember.
I recommend that you DO NOT do something
expensive and typical like going and picking a
woman up, taking her to dinner, etc. for a first
date.
Instead, either:
1) Have her come to your place, and leave for a
cup of tea from there.
2) Meet her at a coffee shop that's CLOSE to your
place, and if she flakes out, you can still enjoy
yourself and you're not far from home.
Another rule of thumb I have is to not make a
date too far in advance.
I've found that often times, you can call a
woman up and say, "Let's go get a cup of coffee
RIGHT NOW".
It's rare that I would ever make plans more
than a day in advance... this also helps prevent
flaking.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
You DVD program has made me get up from the sofa
and do something about my love life. No real
success yet but I can now see beyond my fears and
actually approach women.
As you recommended I started using the Internet as
A 'women simulator', it's great and I think I'm
doing fine with the cocky and funny stuff. For
example, I call my self "too witty for you" and in
my description I write "don't please don't... well
OK - are you cute?" and it works :-) Sadly, I
can't give example from the chats since they are
in Hebrew but you know... it's even funnier in
Hebrew.
My question is simple: you said to move quickly
from the chat to the phone. Well, do you have a "3
minute phone technique" adopted for the chats?
(the problem is that I can't say something like "I
going back to my friends" like I do in a bar).
Thanks,
U.W. from Israel.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice!
Maybe you can work with me soon on the
"Ultimate Comprehensive Guide To Cocky & Funny
Online Chat In Hebrew".
I answered this question above, but loved your
email so I had to include it.
When you're online, you have to REALLY go the
extra mile and EXXXXXAGGGGERATE everything.
You can't just say "You seem cool, let's talk
sometime".
You have to say "You're a pain. I'll bet you
can't keep this up live on a telephone. You're
probably too much of a scaredy-cat to even TRY
it..."
Work it. Try things. You'll find that these
kinds of challenges work VERY well online.
And if you really want to learn how to write a
great online profile, flirt with women online, and
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***SUCCESS STORY***
Hi Dave,
I've been reading your newsletter for a long time
now, have bought the e-book, the CD series and DVD
series, and the stuff just keeps getting better
and better. I've turned several of the guys here
in the office onto your material and they all
profess to be "totally changed" or "a new man" or
otherwise similarly positively transformed.
Anyway, after reading some of the stories in your
latest newsletter, I thought about one technique
that I've been using lately, to great effect.
It started about 5 months ago when I was at the
dentist. Basically, I have this gap between my
front teeth that I had never given much thought
to. Well, the hygienist girl, who is totally cute,
asked me if I ever considered "getting it fixed".
I said "no. It's part of my charm. It makes me
more attractive. I know you agree." She totally
blushed, and was super nice to me the rest of the
time. Well, I left, didn't want her digits, so I
didn't ask. But I thought I'd try something like
this out later to see if it would work.
Jump forward a couple of days to a local art
fair... by the way, these are good places to meet
attractive, intelligent 30-something women... they
are also awesome places to bring dates (and mostly
cap on the artwork). The plan worked like this...
I picked out the most attractive, single-looking
woman in the room, went up to her and capped on
the sculpture she was looking at, then quickly
turned the conversation around to her, eventually
saying "I love your hair, but I don't usually date
smokers". She said "what do you mean? I don't
smoke." I answered, in a cocky and funny way, by
saying that I was sure she did, from the way her
teeth looked. Oh yeah, this went against the
"conventional wisdom" that says it's okay to
insult a woman's accessories, but not her natural
attributes... anyway, she got embarrassed, and
tried to cap on me about my teeth, something like
"who are you to talk, your teeth aren't perfect."
Which was the perfect set up for "Yeah, but that's
part of my charm, it makes me more attractive. I
know you agree." She rolled her eyes said "Oh
brother" or similar... but, two minutes later, I
was walking away with her e-mail. I've used
variations on this theme about a dozen times over
the past few months. I think it's absolutely
ridiculous, but it works great. I told one buddy,
who has great teeth but a substantial gut about
it, and he used it successfully... capping on the
girl's tummy. I laugh when I think about this
technique, but hey, it seems to work brilliantly.
Cheers,
P in Raleigh
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is FANTASTIC stuff.
I have a friend who is approaching 50 in age,
and who's not exactly "dashingly handsome". He's
not ugly, etc., but it's obvious that he's not a
male super-model either.
One of the things he loves to do is tell women
that they're probably not used to getting
attention from unusually good-looking guys like
himself... and they eat it up.
Imagine this:
An average guy who's almost 50 years old
walking up to a beautiful woman in her 20s, and
then telling HER that she's probably not used to
getting this kind of attention from attractive
guys like himself. It's fantastic.
In marketing, there's a concept called "brag
about your weakness". When you openly talk and
joke about something like this, and even talk
about it as if it were a huge strength, people
love it.
Remember the old Avis slogan "Avis is only #2,
so we try harder"?
Your email was great... this is good stuff.
***QUESTION***
I take the train downtown and then walk 10 minutes
or so from the station to my work. I see LOTS of
girls along the way, either waiting for the train
on the platform, or walking on the sidewalks. What
approaches would be good in this situation?
One drawback seems to be that people are always in
groups, and no one is ever talking to each other.
If I approach a girl, everyone is gonna hear what
I say. I find that that undermines my confidence!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
As a general rule, if you approach a woman who
is with other people and take an "I'm interested
in you, and I could care less what the hell other
people think... I'm not here to please them" kind
of attitude, women find this VERY attractive.
Just be very cool and matter of fact, and treat
the others well. Don't try to please them or
pander to them, just smile and say hi... then get
on with getting the email/number of the girl
you're interested in. I don't know who originally
said this, but I like it: "What other people think
of you is none of your business."
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
I bought your Advanced Series DVD program, and
after watching it I now really know what I need to
know to be successful with women. It sounds silly,
but I didn't know what I need to learn until I
watched your DVD. I'm sure there is a lot of
people out there in the same situation. I don't
know what could I tell them to convince them they
need to buy the program. I thought I was crazy
when I spent the money on your DVD, but hell, what
you say there WORKS, and I really don't know how
someone could learn all that without your DVDs...
its almost impossible!!!.
I still have a lot to learn, but I used some
of the things you said in the DVD, like using my
body language to say "You don't impress me much"
and so on, and it works, even without me knowing
everything about body language!!!. Girls react to
me much better. Sometimes they come to me without
me saying anything, just with the way I looked at
them, even bartenders (that happened last night).
Well, what happened last night with the
bartender... Hell, I didn't expect to be
successful. I just couldn't believe that really
cute girl came to me, started to talk to me, and
even told me when she ended his work for me to go
get her. Finally, I screwed it all up, because I
don't have my self confidence handled the way I
should yet. But its improving, and I know exactly
what went wrong. I cant believe how different is
the feeling of knowing "this didn't work for this
reason, and I can handle it with some more work".
Before your program, I would just have said "Oops,
I screwed it up again, and I will next time". And
what is better, all this is the outcome of just 2
weeks of using your program. I just can't imagine
where I will be in 6 months :)
Now, the question: I have bought some of the books
you recommended about self-confidence (from
amazon.com, hope they arrive soon). Now I'm
looking for some books about body language, but I
cant see any in the workbook of the advanced DVD
program...
A, from Spain
>>>MY COMMENTS:
As far as I'm concerned, there aren't any
REALLY good books on body language as it relates
to ATTRACTION.
Hell, there aren't any good books on ATTRACTION
either.
Go figure.
Do this:
1) Watch James Bond movies.
2) Watch all the guys I interview in my Advanced
DVD Series.
You'll learn more from WATCHING those guys live
than from reading any book.
You must remember, the five guys that I
interview live are all there for a VERY GOOD
reason... they're all great with women.
You may not have thought of this, but you
really have an amazing chance to actually see how
they hold themselves, how they talk, how they
gesture, etc.
Watch again.
And if you REALLY want to get an in-depth
education on using body language to create
ATTRACTION with women, then you need to go and
check out my new Body Language DVD program.
It's here:
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***QUESTION***
dear dating guro,
i have newn this chick for 3 months and every
time i ask her out she says she dosn't know me
well enough. do u have any sure fire ways to get
her.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I have no "sure fire" ways, but I have a couple
of ideas:
1) Learn how to spell "known" and "guru".
2) Get my eBook and Advanced Dating Techniques
Program.
Sounds like you need a little more help than I
can give you in a paragraph.
***COMMENT***
David,
I started getting your email about 5 months ago
and bought your book about 3 months ago. all i
have to say is your a genius i now feel more
confident with myself toward woman. although i am
still mastering your techniques it takes time but
it is starting to pay off. and by the way the one
thing i noticed is that i got a tattoo recently
and this creates mystery to the woman. this is an
excellent conversation starter because they always
ask questions about it. just telling you to keep
up the good work
Sincerely K.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
There are certain things that make it more
likely that a woman will strike up a conversation
with you...
1) Tattoos
2) Interesting piercing
3) Outrageous clothing
4) Magic tricks
5) Art or music
6) Your dog
7) Beating your dog
Now, I'd personally stick with numbers 4-6, and
I might even take a few minutes and come up with
some more that fit my style, if I had a mind to...
(Hint, hint).
The point is that THERE ARE A LOT OF THINGS
THAT WILL GET A WOMAN'S ATTENTION AND GET HER TO
START THE CONVERSATION WITH YOU. Can you think of
any? Hmmm...
***QUESTION***
Your ebook is great. I went on a second date the
other day and I used the "is she ready for a kiss
where you stroke her hair first" technique and it
worked like a charm. She actually kissed me. I
may have skipped over this part of the book on
accident but anyways, is there a way to know if a
woman has a boyfriend or not? Thanks.
D.B. Tucson, AZ
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Great job!
You know, with all the emails, success stories,
and questions I get, I still enjoy the simple ones
the most.
When a guy writes in because he just got his
first number from a girl, or his first kiss, those
are the ones that make me the most excited.
If you want to know if a girl has a boyfriend,
the first thing to notice is whether or not she's
open to flirting with you.
Girls who are "taken" and "happily taken" at
that are usually less flirtatious than women who
are "available".
Now, this is a generalization, and there are a
lot of exceptions.
But if you ask a woman for her number, and she
gives it to you, then goes out with you, then
kisses you, then she's probably single.
If you REALLY want to know, just ask.
I like to look a woman directly in the eye when
I'm first talking to her and say...
"Are you single?"
It's great. Most women don't expect it AT ALL
in the beginning, and it says all the right
things.
Most guys say things like "You probably have a
boyfriend, huh?".
This is WUSSY TALK. It's the same thing that
the last 100 guys have said to her, and it's lame.
When you look a woman directly in the eye and
ask "Are you single?" it communicates strength.
Then you can go into the 3 minute email/number
technique and get her information.
...and by the way...
If you're reading this right now, and you are
in a place where you have ZERO success with women,
then we need to talk.
I think that it's sometimes hard for guys who
have had little or no success with women to even
BELIEVE that it's possible to change, turn things
around, and start dating interesting, attractive
women.
Hell, it's even hard for guys who have been
MARRIED for a few years and then divorced to
believe that they can "get back in the game".
Well, the GOOD NEWS is that I personally
believe that ANY guy can learn how to be
successful with women and dating.
It's not magic... even though it seems like
magic if you've never had success with women in
your life.
It can be done. But you've got to take the very
first step. It won't happen all by itself.
The first thing you need to do is read these
newsletters three times a week.
Next, you need to go download my online eBook.
It's totally risk-free. In fact, you can download
it and try it now. If you don't see results, you
don't have to pay for it. Really.
Get it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=ZZVRRZ&lid=4&ll=1
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level, you need to take advantage of some of my
other programs.
Each one is designed to help you strengthen a
very specific area of success with women...
My program "Approaching Women And Starting
Conversations" will teach you how to fearlessly
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spot:
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Like I said, if you're just starting out, these
programs will show you things that you've never
seen or heard before. You'll get a completely new
perspective on what it takes to be successful with
women and dating.
If you're already successful, my programs will
make you BETTER. There are a lot of very advanced
concepts included... and you'll get to hear me
interview guys who are AMAZING with women in my
Advanced Series. In other words, no matter where
you are with women, you'll improve.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.