TAZ's blog: "me"

I can't take credit for this but I had to share it. I found it on a GUYS profile on another site. Guys , please take note of the following things that girls DON'T want when they have just started chatting with you as a friend on the net . All the following have happened and been related to me by female friends :- 1. A proposal of marriage 2. An invitation to webcam naked whilst you play with yourself 3. A full and unexpurgated list of the things you would like to do to them (including pictures) 4. A request for them to mail you used panties 5. An 18 paragraph story about what a total bitch your ex was 6. Bragging about how big your cock is 7. A trawl through the underworld of filth that is your fantasy life 8. A tale of how your dying mothers last wish was that you find a nice girl online 9. A 3 page monologue on why Angela Lansbury is sex on legs 10. An inquiry as to whether she has genital herpes or not Now guys I realize that those of you that do these things have not had sex in a very,very long time (in some cases ever) and maybe its time you started asking yourselves why that is . Just because the last woman you had an intimate relationship with was in a magazine and had staples across her stomach doesn't excuse gross crassness . I know this will come as a shock to the magazine guys but real girls don't sit at home naked with a finger in their mouths and their legs spread just waiting for a hunk like you to stop by. Try pondering these inalienable truths tonight whilst you are whacking off over Vivid Vixens 5 ....... again

* I have learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them. * I have learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back. * I have learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. * I have learned that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts. * I have learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something. * I have learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do. * I have learned that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it. * I have learned that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life. * I have learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides. * I have learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be. * I have learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think. * I have learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them. * I have learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't. * I have learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel. * I have learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you. * I have learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place. * I have learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. * I have learned that learning to forgive takes practice. * I have learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it. * I have learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score. * I have learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time. * I have learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up. * I have learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel. * I have learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love. * I have learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. * I have learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated. * I have learned that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it. * I have learned that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological. * I have learned that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that. * I have learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself. * I have learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief. * I have learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become. * I have learned that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to. * I have learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do. * I have learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions. * I have learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change. * I have learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever. * I have learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. * I have learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process. * I have learned that there are many ways of falling and staying in love. * I have learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves get farther in life. * I have learned that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most. * I have learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you. * I have learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help. * I have learned that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains. * I have learned that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us. * I have learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being. * I have learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon. * I have learned that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used. * I have learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe. -- Author Unknown

I had an awesome vacation. Didn't work out exactly as I'd hoped, but hey, you only live once. I got to experience something new and get away from the day to day. Now it's time to party back at home this weekend before having to return to work Monday. Y'all keep smiling and remember that it's rarely as bad as you imagine it to be.

What it means to just be friends and how to move out of the friend zone If you’ve ever wanted to breakup with someone before you even date them, telling them “let’s just be friends” is the way to do it. Unlike a breakup with a boyfriend or girlfriend, you’re able to crush this person’s idyllic fantasies of your hypothetical romance when it’s at its peak. No longer will they scribble your name in their notebooks, nor will they try to count the freckles in your eyes when they talk to you. By saying these words, you have a 99 percent chance of hearing this person’s heart break, even if you’re saying it over instant messenger. Yup, it’s that powerful. Think about it, they’re just about the worst four words that you could ever tell someone. So why do we say them? They’ve crossed my lips, I’ll admit. For each victim there was a different reason why I knew ‘we’ just wouldn’t work out. For one it was lack of chemistry and for another, it was lack of maturity. Of course, I’ve never said the words with the intention of hurting someone, but undoubtably that’s what ends up happening. I know this because I’ve fallen prey to it as well. I suppose it’s the universe’s way of balancing the concentration of heartbreak in the atmosphere. It works. If you haven’t even made it to the relationship level, it can be confusing when someone says that you’re just going to be friends. Wait, weren’t you already? You wonder for a moment if you actually were going somewhere with this person and they suddenly changed their mind. Perhaps, you had a chance once. That was, before you blew it. You’re hard on yourself, and then it hits you. Not only has it now been reinforced that what you two have is a friendship, but he or she said “just.” That one word alone makes you feel lower than low. Being ‘just a friend’ doesn’t even seem like a worthy position to be in…for anyone, anywhere. And now, you are that friend. And They Say You’re Just A Friend Now that your crush has reinforced you’re staying exactly where you are, you begin to wonder, is there a difference between being ‘friends’ and being ‘just friends’? According to SoSuave.com there can be a difference. “Friendship is you and her/him being there for each other; you two are inseparable and have many things in common with each other,” says the site in their article on ”Friendship vs. Let’s Just Be Friends.“ JUST being friends, on the other hand, equates to, “NO sexual feelings or interest in you. [They] find you boring…and will use you to kill boredom.” Watch out, because if something better comes along, you know you’re going to be dropped. Stat. Yeah, it sucks to be you. :( So why would someone say such a thing.? They Feel Like Less Of A Jerk: They know that being told “I’m not attracted to you” is something that no one ever wants to hear. So, they say this instead. Of course it hurts just as much, but it takes away some of the guilt factor. Lucky them. They’re Unsure Of A Permanent Break-Up: Sure, you’re only “breaking up” the possibility of a future relationship at the moment those words are said, but by not breaking off completely…there might still be hope. Let’s hope. The Possibility Of Friends With Benefits: So you’re not exactly what they think of as relationship material, but you’re still hot stuff (go you!). They want to keep you around—to fool around. You Might Freak Out: It happens. Your dreams are crushed and you go a little cuckoo. People will say anything to make sure they’re not the target of your crazy beams. They’ll even tell you that they care about you when they don’t. They Really Want To Be Friends: It’s the last thing you’re thinking, but it’s very likely that they could be telling the truth. You guys have obviously been hitting it off enough as friends, so why not keep up the fun? Just because there’s no face-sucking in your future, doesn’t mean that what you two have isn’t special. Regardless of the reason, you’ve now been put in the position to decide whether or not you want to accept your new title (even though you never wanted to be nominated for it in the first place). It JUST isn’t fair. How could this person do this to you when you didn’t even get a chance to take the possibility of a relationship for a test drive? It’s at this point that you start wondering how they could know it wouldn’t work if you haven’t even tried. Right? They know. I knew. You know. You knew. When you hear “let’s just be friends,” you know that this person is not interested in you in “that way,” even if they might be interested in you in another way. Maybe there’s attraction, but there’s no chemistry. Maybe you don’t have that much in common, or you have too much in common. The reasons why you can’t go to the next level with this person may be as simple as the fact that the time’s not right—and maybe never will be. How To Avoid Always Being ‘The Friend’ When someone says to you “let’s just be friends” it can be hard to stop yourself from responding, “uh, let’s not.” When you still feel like you have a connection with a person, but you think they’re questioning whether you’ll ever be material for more—don’t fret. There’s a way to learn from this experience and apply it to your future courtships. “Few phrases can shred a guy’s ego faster than ’Let’s just be friends,’” writes Myatt Murphy, relationship expert of Msn.Match.com. So what can you do? Heed Murphy’s advice and avoid hearing them at all costs: Take Control: Are you always nice? Always sweet? You do whatever your crush wants to do because you want nothing more than to please them? WRONG. Hello! Don’t you have a say too? Taking the lead, even in a friendship, can show you have a strong personality and that you can assert yourself. Those are attractive qualities, totally. “Plus, fighting about what to do next is something [they’re] used to doing with her family and friends,” says Murphy, “so it instantly makes [them] shift you into those categories.” After Hours Only: Have a lot of day dates? Park, picnics, etc? Yeah, that’s stuff’s cute, sure. But don’t you want to create some sparks with this person? The chances for romance are increased if you make your date an evening affair. Ah, yes, that’s what they meant by mood lighting. You got it. Opposites Attract: “Having tons in common with a woman may make her feel you're simpatico,” says Murphy, “but having too much in common is another sure way to get viewed as a friend.” Point out what makes you different—and therefore special. Body Talk: Body language, AKA the language of love. Bow, chicka, wow, wow…You want it, but do you know how to do it? Engage your whole body when you’re in conversation. Shift your hands and feet towards the object of your affection, stare into their eyes (in a non creepy manner, duh), and best yet, “let your eyes linger on [their] mouth every few minutes,” suggest Murphy, “it subtly signals that you’re thinking about kissing.” That’s hot. Right? So next time you feel like you might be slipping into the friend zone, get a hold of yourself (and preferably your crush too). In friendships and relationships alike, the title of what you are or mean to one another person is constantly evolving. Sometimes it’s up, sometimes it’s down. So if you do hear the words “let’s just be friends” take a second to appreciate what you still have. If you’re still hurting, go find someone hotter than your new “just friend” and show off. Kate Heath

Remember to say "I love you" and "I need you" often. Walk hand in hand in the rain. Write a love poem. Call a radio station and dedicate a favorite song. Write "I Love You" in lipstick or shaving cream on the mirror. Hide love notes in a lunch box, briefcase or purse. Make heart-shaped cinnamon toast for breakfast. Place a love note in the personals section of the newspaper. Take a carriage ride around the city. Plan a surprise getaway. Do your mate's household chores. Write notes on future dates in their date book ("I love you," I miss you," etc.) Make reservations at a favorite restaurant. Let them choose the movie. Give a foot massage. Make a heart-shaped bookmark, and place it in their book. Pop in a romantic music CD and slow dance. Throw a just-because surprise party for two. Buy a stuffed animal for your honey. Read each other's horoscopes. Make a list of the top 10 things you love about your partner. Display it in a prominent place. Tattoo your mate's name on your body. Make an album or scrapbook of your favorite memories together. Go camping together and only take one sleeping bag. Send a mushy message in a bottle...a balloon...a sandwich... Cut out a silly cartoon that you know they'd enjoy. Shower together. Dim the lights, and snuggle together on the couch. Be the first to say "I'm sorry" and kiss and make up. Give each other a full-body massage. Kiss every hour on the hour all day long. Send a gift basket of indulgent items. Write "I'm hot for you" in the steam on the bathroom mirror. Ribbon wrap your bed with a big bow. Fill up the gas tank of your partner's car. Act like teenagers. Maybe even pierce something! Show up with a bouquet of flowers -- for no reason at all. Play Scrabble® together, using as many "love" words as you can. Run a warm bubble bath for your partner, with lots of lit candles. Meet in the park for a picnic. Hold hands. Leave a trail of rose petals through the house, leading to a romantic candlelight dinner. Make a donation in your mate's name to a special cause or charity. Pick up their clothes from the floor -- without saying a word about it. Watch an old black and white romantic movie and share a bowl of popcorn. Reenact your first date. Surprise your partner with tickets to a special event. An unexpected hug can brighten any day. Buy a silly, impromptu gift. Send an email just to say "I'm thinking of you." Bring home a balloon bouquet. Serve breakfast in bed. Make an ornament with a picture of both of you for the Christmas tree. Play tag. Wash and wax your partner's car, and leave a little note on the dashboard. Plant a garden together. Leave a mushy message on voicemail. Stay at a hotel for the night, just because. Make angels in the snow. Every time you say "hello" or "goodbye", seal it with a hug and a kiss. Take a drive in the country. Spend the evening looking at the stars -- and make a wish together. Cast a playful wink any time, anywhere. Think up a list of silly little pet names for times when you're alone together. Read poetry to each other. Celebrate your half-birthdays together. Put a picture of both of you in your wallet. Buy that favorite book or CD for no reason at all. Send a care package to work filled with treats like food, photos, candy, a love note, heart-shaped confetti, etc. Go out for the evening and tell people you're on your honeymoon. Take a hike together and carve your initials in a tree. Write a thank you note for all the things you take for granted. Make a fire in the fireplace and roast marshmallows. Tape your favorite TV show and spend the evening talking. Do the dishes together, then apply hand lotion to each other's hands. Write a love letter to your partner and cut it into jigsaw puzzle pieces. Decide on secret signals and use them to communicate with each other in large groups of people. Schedule a regular mid-week "date night" for just the two of you. Do the laundry together. Romance Theater Weekend: reenact each other's favorite love scene - hers on Friday, his on Saturday. Call your partner at work and ask for a date. Pretend you haven't seen each other for a month. Act accordingly. Send a written invitation to do something special. Take turns reading to each other. Stand outside the window and sing a romantic song. Hide favorite candy in your partner's coat pockets. Put a tape recording of your voice (saying anything) in the car stereo and turn it on so it plays when the car starts. Go to a drive-in movie. Get up to turn off the last light after you're both comfy-cozy in bed. Hold each other tight during a thunderstorm. Make a tape recording of favorite love songs. Leave a bunch of bananas on the kitchen table with a note, "I go bananas over you!" Hide love notes in a magazine. Declare your undying love via a telegram. Make a romantic dinner together, and serve it on your finest china. Surprise your partner with a big kiss on the neck. Give unexpected compliments. Share an ice cream cone. Have a picnic on the living room floor. Draw a silly picture of the two of you. Frame it

When does a relationship move from love to codependence, and how can you tell the difference? Alone. I couldn’t stand the feeling. For the past month I had spent every night with my girlfriend—every night, that is, but this one. The bed seemed desperate without her. As if the gap left by her needed to be filled, that anything would do. Piles of pillows, stuffed animals, nothing worked. I tried stretching over the whole thing, thinking that maybe if my body could make the bed seem smaller, then the hole left by her being away would be too. It didn’t work. Being without her scared me. She was only away on vacation, and I had every reason to trust her. Yet the space that she had come to fill in my life had grown so much that I didn’t know what to do when she was gone. I did things before her, but what were they? Watch TV? Read? Nothing seemed attractive unless she was there. I had never been this way before. I was always the independent one, the one who didn’t need people or a relationship to be happy. In fact, I’d always been a loner and preferred the time away, but tonight was killing me. I didn’t know who I was without her. Some see it as a sign of love, but that night I saw it as a sign of weakness. It was a feeling more than just missing her. I wanted her there, but the need for her to be present for me to be happy was what changed everything. How had I become so dependent on one person? Codependency can turn a healthy relationship into a destructive one. Sure, wanting the company of the person you’re dating doesn’t sound like it would be a harmful thing, but when you literally can’t function without them—that’s when you know you’ve crossed a line. It’s as if you need them to breathe. It sounds romantic, but it can be suffocating. “I had to talk to him every second of the day,” recalls Kendrick Sledge, 14, to CNSNews, who refers to her relationship with her ex as “possessive, controlling, and manipulative.” Sledge’s boyfriend would persuade her to keep him informed about her whereabouts through text messages, constant phone calls, and even emails. While wanting to check in with your sweetie is not unusual, being forced to by your bf/gf is just plain ridiculous. “One in three teens say that they are text messaged between 10-30 times an hour by a partner inquiring where they are or who they are with,” reports the Teenage Research Unlimited, a survey company hosted for Liz Claiborne. “These really are like electronic leashes," Dr. Jill Murray, a psychologist with expertise in teen dating violence, said of cell phones and computers. "It is a means for abusers to abuse, intimidate, or threaten their partners all hours of the day."Thankfully, Sledge was able to escape this abusive relationship with the help of : www.loveisrespect.org “For many people, developing healthy relationships is a simple matter of finding balance between what they give to other people and what they receive when it comes to love, attention, and trust,” says Jen Sutton, LPC, LAC for TeenHealthandWellness.com. However, when a couple loses sight of their boundaries, these lines can become blurred—two become one. “Going too far with caring is what codependency is all about,” says Sutton. “When you are codependent, you feel the same emotions that everyone else does, but you take them to the extreme. You become so interested in meeting the needs of someone else that you don’t take care of yourself.” A relationship starts because two individuals connect. They’re attracted to each other for what makes each person unique, and that individualism is still important in a healthy, balanced relationship. “In some sense, all relationships are codependent,” says Carol Cannon, MA, a counselor and program director at The Bridge to Recovery in Bowling Green, Kentucky to WebMD.com, "Many people have what I call a 'low-grade infection.” That’s why it’s so vital to your relationship that you do status checks to make sure everyone is getting what they give. If the relationship becomes too focused around one person, or one’s insecurities, that’s when you know you’re headed for trouble. "It really is about unhealthy emotional dependencies," says Cannon. When she came over one night for our usual blueberry pie and coffee date, I knew I need to tell her how I felt. I didn’t want to ask her for space, that was the last thing I wanted, but it was exactly what we needed. I could barely touch my food that night. I just kept stirring my coffee thinking that eventually it would be cool enough to drink, drink fast, and then refill. No talking would be necessary, we’d just sit there. No. I cared for her too much to just excuse this issue in our relationship. Ignoring it would only let it fester, and soon it would grow strong enough to pull us apart—even when were so tightly together. I spoke up, “Babe, I think we need to watch our boundaries a little,” I said trying to gage her reaction without looking like a single blink from her would destroy me (even though it would). “We’ve been hanging out a lot lately, and I’ve loved every moment of it, but we’re still really early in our relationship…It’s just…well, I want us to make sure that we keep “us” as strong as we can be.” That’s when I told her that a few nights apart each week for a little while would ground us a bit, and bring us back from la-la land. Surprisingly, she perked up when I said this. “I’ve been wanting the same thing!” Sounding a little too enthused,she sat back down and kind of laughed at herself. “No I get it,” I said laughing too. If you’re thinking about talking to your boyfriend about the need for space in your relationship, prepare for their response. It might not always go so smoothly. I consider myself lucky for my girlfriend’s response. But I’ve also known couples to fall apart after someone asserts their need for space. You want to protect yourself and the relationship when you find it’s become codependent. However, one’s need for change leaves a gap for vulnerability. And that, my friend, can often lead to hurt. “Codependency occurs when two people form a relationship with each other because neither feels that he or she can ‘stand alone,’” says John M. Grohol, Psy.D. of PsychCentral.com. But that’s exactly when you need to stand apart. It can be hard to recognize when your relationship is approaching the danger zone, especially when it’s something as innocent as spending a lot of time together, but if you’re losing sight of your own life outside the relationship, it’s time to face the truth. It’s always better to take action in your relationship to make it better than to sit wayside and do nothing. You’re only putting your future in jeopardy if you don’t attempt to treat the relationship with the respect, work, and commitment that you feel it deserves. Codependency serves to show that there’s compatibility in your relationship, but it also shows that there’s a need for strengthening too. Make the best of your relationship and protect those boundaries. You’ll be happier if you do. Kate Heath

Nothing can ruin a relationship or marriage faster than jealously. Jealousy creates anxiety, anger, loneliness, hate, fear. No one thinks clearly when jealous. Having a relationship with a jealous person is tough. The jealous person acts untrusting or unworthy. Jealousy makes the person unattractive, even repulsive. No one wants a jealous mate and no one likes being jealous. So what causes jealousy? "Jealousy is the largest factor in breaking up marriages. Jealousy comes about because of the insecurity of the jealous person and the jealousy may or may not have foundation. This person is afraid of hidden communication lines and will do anything to try to uncover them." — L. Ron Hubbard When you are jealous, a line of communication is going on with your spouse or lover that is hidden from you. The mystery causes the pain. If you witnessed your spouse’s communication line, so it was not hidden from you, you would not feel jealous. Hidden communication lines or mysteries make you think of questions. "Will she find someone she likes better than me?" "Is he having an affair?" "Is she going to leave me?" "Does he think I’m unattractive?" When you are jealous, the mystery makes you assume the worst. "Maybe he’ll fall in love with his cute receptionist and leave me." "She’s going to lunch with her old boyfriend because she’s still attracted to him." "He’ll come home and tell me he wants a divorce." So how do you handle your feelings of jealousy? How do you deal with a spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend who is jealous? Solutions "Communication is the root of marital success from which a strong union can grow, and non-communication is the rock on which the ship will bash out her keel*." — L. Ron Hubbard (*Keel: The main structural part of a ship that goes from bow to stern—front to back.) If you are jealous, you need to communicate. You need to stop assuming the worst and ask questions. Communicate your feelings so you can work out solutions. Bob says to his wife, "I don’t want to feel this jealously. I want to get rid of it by asking you a question, okay? Good. So are you attracted to Joe?" His wife says, "Heavens no! Joe just wanted some help with his son. I love YOU like crazy!" Bang! The hidden communication is revealed. The mystery is resolved. Bob feels much better. If Bob doesn’t communicate, his wife’s communication with Joe makes Bob jealous, afraid and angry. Their marriage suffers. If your mate is jealous, make sure you have no hidden lines of communication. "Would you like to read this letter from Jill?" "Can you meet with Joe to help with his son?" Use communication to resolve the problem. For example, you notice Marcia is acting upset and not talking. You ask yourself, "What communication line might be hidden from Marcia?" You realize she’s been acting annoyed ever since you started working for an attractive female boss. "Marcia, have I told you about my new boss?" Marcia jumps up and now wants to talk. You communicate the facts and remove the mystery. Marcia is cheerful and wants to go to a movie. As well as using communication to resolve mysteries, communicate your feelings for your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend. Tell him or her how you feel. Express your love. Show your affection. Resolve the mysteries of the past. Discuss your feelings in the present. Make plans for the future. Because of communication, your relationship will be a big success.

A father passing by his son's bedroom was astonished to see that his bed was nicely made and everything was picked up. Then he saw an envelope, propped up prominently on the pillow that was addressed to 'Dad.' With the worst premonition he opened the envelope with trembling hands and read the letter....... Dear Dad: It is with great regret and sorrow that I'm writing you. I had to elope with my new girlfriend because I wanted to avoid a scene with Mom and you. have been finding real passion with Stacy and she is so nice. But I knew you would not approve of her because of all her piercing,tattoos, tight motorcycle clothes and the fact that she is much older than I am. But it's not only the passion... Dad she's pregnant. Stacy said that we will be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. We share a dream of having many more children. Stacy has opened my eyes to the fact that marijuana doesn't really hurt anyone. We'll be growing it for ourselves and trading it with the other people that live nearby for cocaine and ecstasy. In the meantime we will pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so Stacy can get better. She deserves it. Don't worry Dad. I'm 15 and I know how to take care of myself. Someday I'm sure that we will be back to visit so that you can get to know your grandchildren. Love, Your Son, John P.S. Dad, none of the above is true. I'm over at Tommy's house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than the report card that's in my center desk drawer. I love you. Call me when it's safe to come home.

I saw you, hug your purse closer to you in the grocery store line. But, you didn't see me, put an extra $10.00 in the collection plate last Sunday. I saw you, pull your child closer when we passed each other on the sidewalk. But, you didn't see me, playing Santa at the local mall. I saw you, change your mind about going into the restaurant. But, you didn't see me, attending a meeting to raise more money for the hurricane relief. I saw you, roll up your window and shake your head when I rode by. But, you didn't see me, riding behind you when you flicked your cigarette butt out the car window. I saw you, frown at me when I smiled at your children. But, you didn't see me, when I took time off from work to run toys to the homeless. I saw you, stare at my long hair. But, you didn't see me, and my friends cut ten inches off for Locks of Love. I saw you, roll your eyes at our leather jackets and gloves. But, you didn't see me, and my brothers donate our old ones to those that had none. I saw you, look in fright at my tattoos. But, you didn't see me, cry as my children were born and have their name written over and in my heart. I saw you, change lanes while rushing off to go somewhere. But, you didn't see me, going home to be with my family. I saw you, complain about how loud and noisy our bikes can be. But, you didn't see me, when you were changing the CD and drifted into my lane. I saw you, yelling at your kids in the car. But, you didn't see me, pat my child's hands, knowing he was safe behind me. I saw you, reading the newspaper or map as you drove down the road. But, you didn't see me, squeeze my wife's leg when she told me to take the next turn. I saw you, race down the road in the rain. But, you didn't see me, get soaked to the skin so my son could have the car to go on his date. I saw you, run the yellow light just to save a few minutes of time. But, you didn't see me, trying to turn right. I saw you, cut me off because you needed to be in the lane I was in. But, you didn't see me, leave the road. I saw you, waiting impatiently for my friends to pass. But, you didn't see me. I wasn't there. I saw you, go home to your family. But, you didn't see me. Because, I died that day you cut me off. I was just a biker. A person with friends and a family. But, you didn't see me. Re-post this around in hopes that people will understand the biker community.