In any relationship, whether it is a romantic one or just a friendship I try to put as much effort as I can to talk to everyone and show interest. I really hate it when I feel like I am the only one making an effort to be a friend or even a partner. It makes no sense to me. It's so easy and takes so little time to just let someone know that you care and are there for them.
All of you who know me well and many of you have known me for years, know that I try my hardest to show and treat everyone as I would want to be treated. I do not discriminate as to who I talk to and who I do not. Many of you know that , even if I am busy, I will still take the time to respond to you whether it is here or on messenger. Maybe I am a bit old-fashioned as I believe in being courteous to others. I believe in only speaking truthfully in matters of the heart and emotions. I never tell someone I like them or care for them if I do not mean it. My life has enough regrets without adding to them by deceiving someone. I've been hurt and used so many times. I do not wish it on anyone else. I think that when it comes to the heart and matters of love... it's an area has no room for games. Do you know that you can accidentally poke a friend with a needle and they will forget about it. Even though it hurts like hell? However, if you hurt their heart, they carry that pain with them for the rest of their lives. It effects their entire nature. Their entire being. They begin to question who they are and if the decisions they make are right or justified. The will always ask themselves if they were foolish to ever allow you the opportunity to have access to that heart to begin with.
I have made it a rule to never lie about my feelings to anyone. No matter if it is or is not what they want to hear. I have to be true to myself...to my own heart. If I have love for someone. I am not ashamed to admit it. If I do not.... I would never tell them I do. When i tell someone I love them, it means to me that I love everything I know about them up to that moment. It also means that I wish to continue to discover so much more about them for the rest of my life. It means that I can envision telling that one person I love them for the rest of my life. Love should be unconditional. I have read, seen, and heard so many people claim they are" looking for the love of a lifetime". Yet when it is presented to them they run from it or do not even attempt to allow it a chance to blossom. This tells me that their "love of a lifetime" comes with conditions. Sure they may be looking for the Mr or Mrs Right, but they want it to be so perfect that it is almost text book. Society has implanted this false conception that love comes from looks or from money. That's not love. That is infatuation. SO many people try to plan love or "think to much" when it comes to love. That also is not true love. Love comes from the heart and the heart alone. The brain only ruins it.
So what is love exactly? It has many different meanings to everyone. For me it is doing everything in my power to make the person I love happy everyday for the rest of their lives. My love is unselfish. My love is devoting all my energy to the survival and happiness of the relationship I am in. I give 100%. Unfortunately, in my past relationships, I was the only one to give. For so long I thought that this was how it should be. After all, I was the man right? I realize now how wrong that concept was. Love is not one person giving all. Love is not both parties giving 50%. Love is both parties giving 100%. Love is picking the other up when they fall not kicking them while they are down.
It's like everyone is scared now to even try to get know anyone. Why? Why not take a small step towards happiness? I'd rather take a chance to see what could be...then go my whole life wondering what could have been or what if. What if I had only talked to that person? What if I had only met them? What if I had given them a chance? You never know. You may just be turning your back on the greatest relationship you could ever know. What would you do if, in the end, you were actually shown what your life could have been or should have been had you only taken a chance on someone? What would you do if you found out that the one you did not take a chance on, actually turned out in that reality to be the greatest love of your life? I am reminded of the movie, "Family Man," with Nicholas Cage. I cry every time I watch that movie. The one scene where he is looking at the baby in the crib who should have been his tears me up. Yes, I am a very emotional person. Especially with babies and children. Of course many of you have known that for years. Anyway, the point is, the movie really demonstrates what I am trying to convey here. What if? Why live life in limbo when heaven could be but a phone call away.
Thanks for your time.
Love you all,
Brian
