Ok... bare with me today as I feel like laying my thoughts out.
What is unconditional love?
So many of us think we know what it is. So many of us claim to be seeking it. Do we really understand it? I think I have a good grasp on it. I may not be the world's leading expert. Heh..I suppose if I were I wouldn't be single right? In my opinion, unconditional love or.. . "true love" is not defined by any material possessions. True love doe snot have stipulations or requirements. There's no application to be filled out. True love is an uncontrollable longing all day to see or talk to the person you care for. It's feeling sad in the event that you do not get that opportunity. It's when you find yourself staring at the person you care for with out any given cause. True love does not require change or sacrifice. It is all encompassing.
It's patient. It's accepting of every flaw, every insecurity, and yes...every issue. For true love does not discriminate against issues. So often I talk to people who think that love means you have to deal with a person's issues and carry their "baggage". This is not entirely correct. With myself... I carry the person I love. Their baggage is there yes but, it is their own to address. I am here to assist if needed. I don't love the baggage. I love the carrier. Because each and everyone of us has to carry or own baggage. Our own load. However, in love, it is our job to support, to believe, to catch our significant other in the event that they may fall. I do believe that when you love someone you have to accept that the person in question is not perfect. They have a past. They have a life that took place before you entered it. Should it be a constant presence at this time? No. However, the past does remind us of where we have been, where we are, and more importantly...where we wish to be. I guess what I am trying to say is that if someone loves you then they will love everything about you.
They will not be hindered or swayed by the past or baggage. True love is falling asleep staring into your partner's eyes and awakening holding each other. True love is when how you feel for someone radiates to everyone around you. They see what you see. They feel what you feel.There are no "buts" in true love. It frustrates me that so many claim to seek it but when it is right in front of them.. they are blinded to it. It makes me wonder what their basis for analysis is on the theory. It doesn't come from the brain. It doesn't come from over- exagerated movies. It comes from the heart. Love is a feeling, an emotion. It's not a choice that derives from the mind. Too many people overthink it. Too many people refuse to allow themselves to just feel. No one knows tomorrow and yesterday is gone. Too many people are scared to open themselves and allow themselves to just feel. They are too concerned with the "what if's". From my experiences and through much heartache, I have learned that you can never control the "what if's". I believe with love and a very strong level of communication..anything is achievable. There are no... "what if's". There are "whatever's" and when whatever comes...two people strong and unified in love can face it and overcome it much better than one. This will be continued.
Brian
