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1. “Shouldn’t you be at home with that baby?”
2. “Are you sure you want that glass of wine while you’re pregnant?”
3. “Spit or swallow?”
4. “Wanna sit on my face, love?”
5. “Are you you feeling hormonal or something?”
6. “Can you pick up that dollar for me?”
7. “What’s your bra size?”
8. “What are you doing around midnight?”
9. "Do you have black in you? Do you want some??"
10. "Girl.. I need to thank your mama!"
11. "What's your Victoria Secret?"
12. "Is your husband married too?"
Same reason women do. Ego, greed and no focus. That probably wasnt the answer you were hoping for. But you see, there is no proof that men would be inherently less moral than women. In fact, if that is how you see gender differences, then you are of the same mindset as a racist. Yes, a harsh word that we all hate. But think about how racism works: Negatively stereotyping a certain group according to wrong assumptions and acting on that error. And if as a woman, you generalize all latino or black men as less ethical, trustworthy than others, you have become sexist and racist. Keep in mind that the people who left a trail of destruction in our lives could never have done so if we hadn't picked them and allowed them to. Sometimes for superficial or just plain wrong reasons like looks, status, wealth or danger appeal. I understand that people can be deceptive upon first contact until they have earned your trust, but is labeling all people who look a certain way negatively the safe route? Of course not. So I'm saying all this to set your mind on the intelligent course of cultivating sensible intuition, or how to judge a book by its content rather than its cover.
So why do men cheat? Well in addition to what I mentioned above, most people put the cart ahead of the horse. Passion and sex usually comes first before getting to know who that person is. And once the need to copulate has been satisfied, there is usually nothing left in common to maintain the bond. A successful relationship cannot live in bed on sex. Eventually, reality bites. Bills come, compatibility, friends and family issues arise. Many times we can see the red flags down the road, but we ignore them as we press on, hoping for luck to fix what was defective from the beginning. Life gets harder as pressures build, not to mention if babies appear. Now the party is over. You either get serious about being a family or as many immature people do, you bail. Next, a romantic attraction to someone outside the home could develop. Or it might be that a woman is continually ignored or a husband is constantly criticized. Suddenly another person at work or maybe down the block, seems to possess the very qualities that are lacking in your relationship.
Soon the grass looks so much greener and a bond forms. The new relationship becomes almost irresistibly alluring. But wait... Look before you leap! How about instead of looking outside the realtionship to satisfy our desires—whether for affection, for friendship, or for support during a challenging ordeal, how about we get busy solidifying our relationship if we really are in it to win it. Grown folks who dont need everyone's attention know life aint easy and head up to the challenge instead of running away from their loved ones when the weather turns bad. They come home and make time to spend time together, and draw closer to each other. They look back and reflect on what caused them to fall in love and try to recapture the warmth they felt toward the person who became their mate. There is sentimental history full of the good times together over the weeks, months or hopefully, years.
One of my best buddies got married a year ago to an old high school flame. They found each other after almost 40 years on Facebook. I still think marriage is a wonderful thing if you manage to hook up with someone who a truly compatible fit. And she is unequivocally the head of the family. Yes, making way more money than him, she "pays the cost to be the boss" between them. Im not trippin on that and its not my place to voice it to them. No, here's the problem: Since I care about him and see that he is not alright with the bossiness, I think she needs to take a few security pills. She wants to know who he's talking to on the phone and for how long. She controlls all the spending and gives him a strict allowance. She dictates when they will engage in recreation including when sex will be granted. Some might say that he may be too irrisponsibe or immature at 53 years old. And he loves her dearly. She a cute lady. But also has a very vicious controlling temper. But I would never suggest he depart from her when he complains about her manipulative nature. I just shrug and say. If you love her, get over that and work with her. What would you say?
I didn't inherit the envy gene. And I am glad. No one on this planet is doing or has anything that I cannot attain or feel I should have instead. Envy is a painful or resentful awareness of an advantage enjoyed by another joined with a desire to possess the same or better advantage. Some people even enjoy creating evny. Maybe to feel superior. But I am like, why do they even need to? Ive had money, cars and cutie girls in bars. But Ive always had my own song to sing. I actually love to see people come up and get phat. What I dont like however, are arrogant conceited people who brag as if they are capabale of something no one else is. And that is nonsense to me. Not envy.
People confuse jealousy with envy. But jealousy like prejudice is not always negative. Sometimes jealousy is even legitimate. Not weak and insecure like most people like to accuse. If you feel indignant because you are a top performer at work and some newbie dork gets a raise or promoted ahead of you, that is not evil. Especially if you were obviously evaluated higher. Or if someone is coming on to your mate and your mate is returning flirts and you feel jealous and disrespected while they laugh it off and call you insecure, your not wrong. You just need to get gone. Boundaries exist for a reason. And people who hate boundaries need to stay single and free while they ignore them.
Some people seem to be having trouble remembering that online life isnt the real life. Its one that we create to look and feel however we wish. Not everything or everyone is exactly as they seem. Even me! And that is fine because I'm not here to share my whole life with virtual strangers who are also not sharing their souls. But I am here to have fun chatting, flirting and who knows? Some day maybe meeting up with someone here who is not bitter and is sane enough to make a real life friend out of. The problem is some get jealous and mad when they discover that I actually socialize with other people on a social website! No fair. I dont demand exclusive devotion from anyone anywhere unless we are more than just 'FuMarried'. But comitted in real life. By then, I will have excused my self from a site like this. Thats just how I roll. You can roll your own way. So I'm just sayin, dont waste your time and heart getting twisted because the person you dig is also dug by others. If your skills and charm move them enough, you will become 'numero uno rapido'. And there will be no worries thereafter. Peace.
Today, someone asked me, "why do we even need a black history month?" And I said that "It is probably because every other month is white history month, and society tends to ignore all the sacrifice and innovation made by Afro Americans that contributed the wealth history and pop culture of this country." And he said, "So what? We are all Americans." And I said, "true, but not all treated the same. And If you don't believe it, just watch TV. There's not much black on there anymore. You see, Afro Americans unlike Mexican or Russian people, don't have a country named after them. And we are really not African, but not fully American either. But still, we don't seek better treatment better than anyone else. Just equally. And that is the struggle for us, and the intent of Black history month."
So this so-called friend of mine named Lori, who's white, texts me last night to tell me about her rotten day at work. She works in one of the mini market/gas stations where they serve snacks with a semi-deli. This rough black woman strolls in and starts taking her rotten day out on Lori and it's a bad scene because Lori is not really a people person, especially with black women people, even though her job involves customer service. And it was probably all over her face for that sista to see, who started barking about what kind of chicken sandwich she wanted, how it better be cooked, with this sauce, that seasoning and so on. Cutting to the chase, they get into an argument involving some neck wobbling and waving snapping fingers on sista's part. Lori grits her teeth and walks away from the deli counter saying "I just need to get away from this woman!" "Yeah, you know you better!" the sista yells after her. It was very stressfull for Lori I'm sure. Later, she texted me saying that the harsh confrontation made it hard for her to respect not just the irate woman, but black people in general. See why I call her "so-called friend?" How did I get profiled in this?
That's what this woman from the UK said to me a while ago. Here's what lead up to it: So we've been chatting and joking online, right? Typical Fu stuff. I mean nothing's gonna come out of it since neither of us is planning any overseas virual blind dates. So after a while, I start to get hungry and tell her, "I think it's time I went to fetch dinner." She says, "Ok, fine sir." That's how she talks. Anyway, I head to the kitchen to hook up a burger and fries. I'm not a good cook, so it didnt take long. Lol When Im done scarfing, I return here and answer a few pokes and messages. The I see her saying in that chatbox, "You dont have to lie. You could have just told me you didnt want to talkt to me anymore." And I'm like, Wow! Not because she said that. It makes no sense, but I know how insecure some pretty women can be. But that she could just call me a liar without knowing any more about me than Koby Bryant! She just went for it like we slept in the same bed last night. As the late Huell Howser would've said, That's Amayzin'!
