you know im older ive been around the block a time or too and one thing that startles me the most is the lack of integrity in people today. come on girls you all know what im sayin, how many times have you heard the same lines over and over again? how many times have you heard those lines and thought this could be a fun, cool person to hang out with for awhile? then you meet, women know right off the bat if they would ever be willing to sleep with a guy but do they know what they are gettin themselves into? ive been there, ive met some really great guys who i would just adore hangin out with and if sex is something we both want than all the better, but then there are the guys who you meet and think damn they are hot, should I? will i ever get the chance again? and then the little devil voice inside your head says o go for it you only live once and lifes way to short not to have a good time. so you sleep with them. one thing i can give advice to a guy about, not all, cause everyone has their own likes and dislikes, but dont try and have just your kind of sex your way. involve the person you are trying to bed down with and you may get just a totally different even better result. dont just assume every woman likes the same kind of sex you do, dont assume that just cause you met this chick off the internet that she is an easy lay or totally desperate, and for gods sake never assume that just cause you need to get laid and you think hell ill go for a fat chick, they'll put out cause who else would have them. thats one group of girls never to discount, especially for a good time in and out of the bedroom. if there is one word of sage advice i can give anyone, it is please please dont take anyone for granted, and dont cut down anyone that you deem not worthy of your companionship cause i tell you what people there are true gems in rough exteriors. you know i could give you a play by play of what i mean but would you take what im saying at face value, or put a new spin on it and make it play out differently as to fit your ego. i spent 12 years with a guy who i know a lot of times i bash in these things but hey i was hurt, and hurt bad, but why should i judge him for what he did when maybe i should be looking at myself and think about what i did. no i am not saying im at fault for my breakup and i cant totally put the blame on him either, it was a lack of communication. if you read my last blog youll know what im talking about. so guys and girls before you give each other the fuck me eyes, talk about what turns you on and doesnt turn you on. ask what you expect out of the date or relationship, and tell each other truthfully if they have met your needs. guys ask the girl, what can i do to satisfy you, believe me in the throws of passion a woman will let her guard down a lot easier than if you ask them before hand whether she like 2 fingers or 3. listen to the sounds during sex and you will know real quick what really pleases a person sexually, but listen good cause you will hear a lot of fake made up ohhs and awws before you hear that one certain gasp of their breath and the look of ultimate pleasure on their face. dont candy coat sex make it fun, fun for both people, not just hey thanks for blowing me ill get you next time, knowing damn well you aint gonna call for a next time because you got what you wanted and you can find another girl that will give you the same thing when you need it. dont ever forget that foreplay is probably the most fun thing about sex, its the soft or hard touch, its the breathing and whispering in the ear, its the soft nibble of an earlobe, or the ultimate experience of a massage while you are both getting heated up. dont just go for the old standard missionary position. damn why do you think the kama sutra is there. do something fun, different and exciting. go to the adult bookstore and buy a new toy or video. buy a new scented oil to rub each other down with and never force a woman to go into an adult store if she doesnt want to by saying well i guess you really dont want me then do you? trust me everyone has issues with people knowing they are going to have sex in one way or another hence the deep breath most people take before going into the store, or you see the blushing smiles, hear the giggles and oh my gosh phrase. ive seen men who claim they would have sex on an airport landing strip that run into the store with their head down, hands in their pockets and avoiding eye contact with anyone else in the store, because oh my god what if someone i know is in there at the same time. hey i may have a lot of opinions on sex and i may tell alot of people what i like and what i dont like if they ask me. if i meet someone and i know there is that chance of bedding that person down im gonna tell them my every fantasy and how to get me off just to see if they remembered what i said, and for those of you that do read my blogs that i have been with i would like you to know that each of you in your own little way has helped me live out a fantasy or two. growing up i was so crushed when people told me i was ugly because i was so fat, that i vowed to myself that i would never put another person down for anything. i hate hurting peoples feelings and toying with emotions cause i know by first hand experience how deeply that cuts a persons soul, and i want both of us to have an awesome time. but if you ever want to stroke your manliness at the end of sex by asking was that good for you baby? or how was that? be careful asking that cause you just might get a boldly honest truth filled let down. so for what all this shit im saying, bottom line being, communicate, ask questions, experiment only if both parties are up for it and never force someone to do something they dont want to do, you will do more damage emotionally than physically by chance...
