A while ago I received this e-mail from a
reader asking my advice about a guy she had
met online.
If you've ever tried online dating, or met
a man through the internet, I'm sure you can
relate to the frustration of the "disconnect"
between meeting a man in the "real world" and
getting in touch with someone online.
There seems to be a lot of confusion and
hesitation about what "online dating" is...
and how it works.
Lots of women seem to think that there's
some secret or weird "code" or language going
on... and that to "date" online you have to
get involved in this whole other world.
Guess what - they're partially right.
Some of the "rules" of finding and meeting
and ATTRACTING a man online are different.
And if you don't know how it all works, then
you're going to have a bad time with online
dating - just as you would with anything else
where you don't know all the "rules".
But the GOOD NEWS is that it's VERY SIMPLE
to learn about WHAT WORKS to find, attract
and really get to KNOW the right man online...
And it's very easy, once you learn what works,
to get started right now meeting and connecting
with one (or more) great guys who are out there
online looking for a woman like you.
So... what is the secret to successfully
attracting the right kind of man online and
not just "dating"... but finding something real?
Read on and find out.
>>>Email From A Reader
Dear Christian-
I have bought and read your e-book, and even
after trying to apply as many of the principles
in it, I find myself struggling so much with
it because I haven't got the guy I am dealing
with face to face.
I met him online (where a lot of people meet
these days) so a large part of the attraction
and initial correspondence etc is done via
telephone/emails.
I try to use your techniques of playing hard
to get etc but most of your techniques involve
actually having the person in your own town to
actively SEE and DATE. What happens when he's
in another town, you haven't met him yet, and
you want to keep him interested....? There's
nothing in your book about these types of
relationships. Where can I go for this kind
of help? What do you advise here?
Regards,
NJ
Sacramento
>>>My Response:
First of all, I want to make that distinction
here about what "online dating" IS and what it
is NOT.
Online dating is not a great way to start
and build a "relationship".
With a few winks, emails, and phone calls...
there is no relationship YET.
The internet is just a way to MEET and QUALIFY
potentially great guys who share your interests
and passions, so you can then see if there is a
spark for something more after you meet in person.
Do not... I repeat... do not get yourself
"involved" through email and the phone. What I
mean by that is that often people can start to
believe that they have a deeper relationship
(or have even fallen "in love") when online
dating...sometimes BEFORE they have ever
met in person.
It's a recipe for disaster if you don't
already know who a man really is, what he's
really like, and what he's REALLY looking for.
You can talk and email all you want - but
there is NO REPLACEMENT for what you'll find
out and learn when you're physically around
a man.
I can't tell you how many women make this
mistake of becoming "emotionally involved"
with a man they've met online... only to find
out he's not who they thought he was once they
meet him and get to spend a little time with
him.
Don't do this to yourself.
And you're right, your comment about how the
nuances of meeting a man online and how to take
it to the "real world" are NOT addressed in my
eBook.
That's why I recently put together a new
program called "Finding Love Online" for women
just like you, who want to know about any of
the following-
-How to separate the right kind of guys online
from all the wrong ones (you need to know how to
quickly and easily "screen" and find only the
right ones)
-What QUESTIONS TO ASK a man you've met online
to know if he's even worth meeting in person for
coffee or a drink - without sounding weird or
scaring him off
-How to instantly get a lot of only the right
men EMAILING YOU and wanting to get to know
you better - without "browsing" and trying to
get men's attention the way other women do
-How to take it from cyberspace to the real
world quickly and safely in a way that builds
a man's interest for the right reasons
-How to keep Mr. Right engaged and interested
in you way beyond that first meeting
-And lots more
Here's the truth about meeting the right
man online...
Thousands of women have used the internet
to find and connect with the man of their dreams.
Seriously.
I personally know and have met over 20
couples who are now married who met in the last
2-4 years online.
And these are couples of ALL AGES... from
people in their mid to late twenties, to others
in their 50's and 60's.
But here's the other part you need to keep
in mind...
Countless other woman have used online dating
and FAILED - either by not getting any quality
responses, or meeting men who didn't quite live
up to the "image" the women had built up in their
mind about the man (and getting a nasty surprise
when they met in person).
Even though using the internet to meet and
attract a man is NOT difficult, it does require
an understanding of the right "language" and the
right set of skills and techniques to identify and
attract the right kind of man... and then build
his interest and keep him wanting more.
Go here now and read a special letter I wrote
about the KEYS to successfully using the internet
to find the right man for today.
I'll also show you all the critical mistakes
other women make that you must avoid unless you
want the right kind of man to instantly "disqualify"
YOU when he finally comes across you online.
So stop wasting your time... and learn how
easy it can be to find and attract the right man
online and bring him into your life today.
Go here to find love online:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/FindingLoveOnline/?cid=ZVQVZZ&lid=1&ll=1
I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck
in Life and Love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
