Approaching Women - A Bikini Model Story
>NOTE: If you're interested in getting a VERY in-
depth education on how to approach women in every
possible situation, then make sure you read this:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/ApproachingWomen/?cid=ZZV84Z&lid=1
Now let's talk about how to meet women...
***COMMENT***
Dave,
I have been reading your emails for a while now.
Honestly I have been skeptical, Ive taken bad
advice from people in the past, and truthfully
only read your emails for the fun of it. I was
reading one morning while sitting kind of nervous
about this girl who clearly is interested, however
I have always been sort of self-conscious, not
realizing that in the past I have missed soo many
opportunities w/ many fine looking ladies, ya dig.
As I was reading it hit me, that what you are
saying is the truth. All it is simply put is Have
fun with the girl...just relax, and lead the show.
I dont think i have ever quite grasped any such
truth as this one. Although I am a slow learner,
I like you, am a scientist of how people
(including females) react and interact with
different situations, scenarios and environments.
I'm going to be real with you, your research
results are intriguing, and I for one am
thoroughly satisfied with what you are teaching us
males who, at one time or another did not have a
clue on how to get laid, but now do. I salute
you brother,
Holla back from Connecticut. M.N.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, it's been a LOOOONG time since I've
read the words "skeptical", "scientist",
"environments", "ya dig", and "Holla back" all in
one email.
I feel ya, dog. Poignant, yet profound.
I sure hope you don't use that unique balance
of proper English and Jive with the lizzadies.
And by the way, I'm not trying to teach men how
to "get laid". I'm teaching guys how to keep their
power for themselves, and how to give women what
they REALLY want...and how to trigger that emotion
called ATTRACTION, so that when the day comes that
they meet a TRULY AMAZING woman, they know what to
do to get and KEEP her (and if you want to have
some fun while you're learning, that's cool with
me too!).
***QUESTION***
Holy Crap!
Who would have know that a clueless guy like me
concerning women and dating, could go from being a
DUD to a STUD in only a matter of months?! I know
that the word "MONTHS" seems like a long time, but
I 'm one of those slow learners that really needed
to "Get It" at a deep level, before I started to
have success with women. I own both your book and
your advanced CD series, both of which have
literally changed my life forever! The
information that you taught us about Reframing our
limited beliefs was primarily the most POWERFUL
thing to me. The second most POWERFUL bit of
information that you shared on your advanced
series is what I have a question about. I noticed
that when dealing with, say, 7's & 8's, I have
"all" of the power. But when I interact with 9's
and 10's, I begin to feel unsure of myself a lot
of times.
David, you teach us in the CD series to assert OUR
reality up front. You said that the person who
believes that their reality exists the most and
who is able to communicate it the best, will
convince everyone around them that THIS reality is
what is real. So how do I build my reality? So
far, I have just decided that I won't tolerate
manipulative behavior, flakiness, rudeness (due to
that Cosmo girl - "superiority" mentality), etc.
But do I actually need to read a book about
building my reality, or do I just, from my
numerous interactions with women, DECIDE how I
want to build my reality (which means that I will
continue to make amendments to it over time until
I find the reality that suits me)? I think that I
MIGHT have answered my own question already. . . .
But ANY input would be GREATLY appreciated David.
V, from Oklahoma
>>>MY COMMENTS:
As you've heard me talk about in my Advanced
Series, it is VERY important that you look at the
world as "Your Reality", and behave as if this is
the case.
One way to "build" that reality is to IMAGINE
it vividly.
Einstein said that "Imagination is more
important than knowledge"... and a great marketing
genius named Roy Williams says that our minds are
far better suited to imagination than reality
ANYWAY.
So let me ask YOU...
If you could have your life be any way you
want, how would that be?
What would happen in your reality?
I was talking with a good friend of mine about
two weeks ago, and we decided that as humans
living in modern times, we can live almost any
life we want... if only we decide what that life
is going to be, and put our full attention on
making that our reality.
I know I'm starting to sound a little bit
"self-helpish" here, but this is the way it is.
And since I'm already ranting and raving like a
crazed guy who wants to give your inner child a
hug, I might as well go off on a random tangent
that I'm thinking about...
The night before last, I went out with three
friends.
All guys.
We went to watch a mutual friend's band play at
a bar, then went to another bar... and then
another.
At the third place, one of my friends saw a
girl that he wanted to meet.
She was what you might call an "L.A. Hottie".
She had on a bright red jacket that looked like
something an Indy car driver might wear... and she
had that look on her face that said "I'm pissed,
but I know I'm sexy when I'm pissed, so I'm going
to stay that way".
I looked at my friend and said, "Let's go".
As my friend and I were walking toward her, he
was asking me what he should say to her.
I realized something in that moment:
1) He was in a place mentally that was beyond
something that a "pick up line" would fix.
2) He was about to talk to a "professional" when
it comes to being approached by men.
3) He needed to learn something, not get the girl.
In the end, he said something to her (I won't
go into detail because it's not important), she
acted stuck up, and we walked away.
BUT HERE'S THE IMPORTANT PART...
It was obvious that he was feeling a little bit
uncomfortable about the whole interaction... about
approaching a hot, "unapproachable" girl, then
having her "shoot him down".
So I said, "Now what's the big deal? Does it
matter at all? NO!" Then I said, "Let's go talk to
someone else!". And we got back into the game, we
didn't sit on the sidelines feeling sorry for
ourselves.
I think that it's important to realize that
your reality is what you MAKE OF IT.
I have done a lot of "inner work" on my own
reality, and I've come to a deep understanding and
realization that no woman can take away my joy and
positive outlook on the world UNLESS I GIVE HER
THE POWER TO DO SO.
So guess what?
Women don't upset me anymore.
Use your IMAGINATION to create a reality that
you WANT to live in, and then start living there.
No one is going to call you up and say "Hey, I am
granting you permission to live the life you
want... so get to it."
You're going to have to CREATE the reality that
you want to live in... and then start living
there.
***QUESTION***
David-
I began reading your newsletter about 14 months
ago, and I purchased the ebook about 6 months ago.
The personal development that has occurred in me
since then has been astounding.
My confidence has increased dramatically. When you
are confident, people notice, and they
automatically respect you and want to be around
you. This breeds even more confidence. Women's
reactions to me has also changed significantly.
All of the sudden they want to talk to me, do
things for me, and be around me. Often times I
can't understand it, but I just keep acting the
same because it works. The mailbags have been key
to keeping me sharp so that I don't have wuss
attacks.
I have had a girlfriend for 6 months who is
incredible in personality, intelligence, and
looks. You were right when you said that getting
hot women does not make other guys like you more
but rather they become secretly jealous. This is a
good problem to have, however, and I guess the
price of success is having some people dislike you
for it, which I can deal with. Anyway, I realize
that you don't often talk about relationships but
here is the question: Will the physical
transitions that I make with her become old and
predictable?
For example, I have used the smell technique
successfully a few times, but sometimes she seems
impartial to it. I always do the teasing/soft
touch thing too, which used to get her anxious and
excited but now seems to be less exciting and more
predictable. How can I mix things up? The hair tug
has also worked magically well, when done at the
right time.
I guess I would like your thoughts on getting her
physically turned on other than with my
personality, and I would like your thoughts on
predictability when getting physical.
Thanks for all you do.
-T, Minnesota
>>>MY COMMENTS:
DANGER WILL ROBINSON... DANGER!
I just can't avoid relationship questions... I
try, but I can't do it.
STOP BEING PREDICTABLE.
You've only heard me say it about a bazillion
times now.
My thoughts on "predictability when getting
physical" are as follows:
DON'T.
Here are three things that would be MUCH better
than becoming predictable:
1) Shooting yourself in the foot with a BIG gun.
2) Buying a Pinto Station Wagon.
3) Taking a moment every day to CONSCIOUSLY avoid
set patterns in your life that KILL attraction.
Take it from me, a man who has screwed up more
than one relationship by becoming predictable...
DON'T.
And one more quick thought: I've discovered one
other secret to making sure that a woman NEVER
loses her attraction for you. It's a deep concept,
and it's part of a very in-depth program I've put
together called "Mastery With Women And Dating".
It's my most intense program, period. If you want
to learn this secret to keeping a woman attracted
to you, then go take a look at this website:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/Mastery/?cid=ZZV84Z&lid=2
***QUESTION***
HI
My initials are J.E.S. from Illinois and i was
wondering does your method help put magic back in
a relationship? I have been married for 17 years
and my wife tells me she doesn't love me because
she doesn't find me sexually attractive. My
problem is that I still love her and find her
incredibly attractive is there anything I can do?
Sincerely, J.E.S.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, I know... ANOTHER relationship question.
I must be in too good of a mood or something.
I just couldn't help but answer this one...
For women, SEXUAL ATTRACTION has more to do
with your personality, communication, and body
language than your LOOKS.
I've had many married men use my materials to
re-ignite their relationships with their wives
(even though I have never intended this to
happen).
If you want to get the "spark" back, stop
acting like a Wuss, stop being predictable, start
doing things that build ANTICIPATION... and learn
how to amplify attraction when you create it.
Oh, and hurry up.
***QUESTION***
You are my new babe GURU!
I am 43 years old, decent looking guy, make a very
average income. I was on a date with a STUNNING
bikini model and used aloof body language, played
it very low key, while being C & F. After our date
I leaned away from her against my drivers side
door and drove up to her home to drop her off.
Just pulled up and said good night. She wouldnt
leave the car and kept talking. I was polite and
aloof. she wouldnt leave and she kept staring at
me when there was a lull in the conversation. i
just sat there thinking, OK you can go now. she
didnt know what to do. finally she said can we go
out again?, I said maybe. and she said can I call
you to see you again?. i said call me if you have
something fun for me to do. it felt so good to not
be needy or pushy and it worked like a charm. Cant
wait for my next date. I will not call her and I
know she will be calling soon! Thanks for changing
my life, i look forward to more results like that.
I have started to think I have what women need
when I talk to them and it feels really great!
Thanks a million!!! RK in Hollywood
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, you're a stud.
But next time, when you're out in the car in
front of the house with a BIKINI MODEL and she
asks you if she can call you to see you again...
say "Yeah, maybe. Don't you have a cool new stereo
or fish tank that you want to show me?"
I feel ya on the non-needy thing, but you'd
better be writing in soon with a letter that
starts out with:
"...It was a good thing I let her go that
night, because NEXT time I saw her..."
I'll be waiting.
And GREAT job leaning back, not being needy,
and giving this particular girl an experience that
was MUCH different and MUCH more interesting and
exciting than any she's had recently.
***COMMENT***
DAVE MAN, PLEASE STOP MAKING UP URE CASE STUDIES
AND CUSTOMER RESPONSE STORIES THEY ARE FALSE AND
PORTRAY U AS A GENIOUS! U CAN HAVE A PERFECTLY
GOOD MAILBAG WITHOUT MAKING UP FALSE STORIES FROM
FALSE PEOPLE.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
DORK MAN, I do not and have not made up any
"case study" or "customer response story" ever.
Not even one, not at any time, no no no.
Every one of these letters is real, and they're
all from real people.
I actually go to extra efforts to keep every
single email that I get just in case I need to
prove this point to a dork like you in the future.
Of course, the privacy of my readers and
customers is more important than anything to me
(in other words, I'll never reveal the identities
of anyone who writes me publicly).
But if you want to put a little money on the
table and bet me... and fly out here to Los
Angeles to give it to me... I'd be glad to prove
it to you in person.
Let me know!
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave:
I've been receiving your e-mails for a while now,
and a buddy of mine bought me your program after I
broke up with my ex fiance saying I had been out
of the game for too long and needed a little help.
I just wanted to tell you about an experience that
I had a while back. I am 27 years old and dating
a 10 latin hottie that is 8 years older than me. I
ran into her at a local club last June and she had
a mutual friend introduce us. After talking to her
for a while I asked her to dance and she said she
couldn't because she came with a friend and didn't
want to disrespect him. I said "oh and talking to
me isn't disrespecting him?" I told her that if
she wanted to dance with me that I would be at
another part of the club and if I didn't have
another good looking girl on my arm to ask me to
dance. I said it being funny and she started
laughing, but this pretty much got her thinking.
I walked off and she wouldn't leave me alone for
the rest of the night, she kept on coming over to
where I was but never danced with me. At the end
of the night she came to me and said she wanted to
give me her number, I said that I was too old to
play her games and I didn't even want it and said
that I'll be there in a few weeks and if she
wanted to dance to meet me there.
Ok, using your techniques I had this girl pretty
much eating out of the palm of my hand because she
kept calling a mutual friend that was with me
asking him for my number. I told my friend not to
give it to her and to tell her that I was to busy
helping poor orphan kids find their parents. She
showed up a few weeks later at the club by herself
and the first thing she did was give me a kiss. I
still use the c&f on her to this day. She is
eating out of the palm of my hand and has been
with me since that night. This girl has men
hitting on her constantly, even when I am around.
She was a model in Mexico and I am just an average
looking guy, so yes your program does work and I
urge everyone to get it as soon as they can. I
can't thank you enough for all your help.
PCIII Texas
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well what can I say to that?
Someone should give you a kiss. And it had
better not be me.
You have told a story that demonstrates a
principle that most men will NEVER get...
Women don't PURSUE men who pursue THEM.
I don't really say what I'm about to say too
often, because it's really beyond most men to even
understand, and quite frankly, a lot of guys just
don't believe it...
But if you REALLY LEARN these concepts and
study the materials... and really take the time to
PERFECT your skills with women... you will start
having them chase after YOU.
I know many guys who have so many women calling
them that they literally have to AVOID the calls.
Yes, it is possible, and you can learn how to
do it. Thanks for your email... and thanks to your
buddy who got my program for you. He's a true
friend!
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I don't know how I got on your mail list....i am a
female and don't need to know how to attract other
females.... But I do find it interesting the
advice you give guys. How absolutely ludicrously
asinine you are!!!!!!! but I do read it and pass
some of the info onto my single male friends.
i am a reasonably attractive lady who loves men. i
have no problem getting dates or long term
relationships when i want them. but reading your
tombs makes me wonder if any one guy reading them
will ever get lucky.... a female has to be so
stupid or desperate to fall for your tactics. At
least my REAL MEN don't resort to such stupidity
and if they did they would be out of my life
totally.
one guy last week tried such tactics. i said no
thanks and walked out. he is still begging for my
attention and i am not going to give it. but yet
one man which you would call a wussie has slowly
been cultivating me for months. when i finally
decided to go out he was a gentleman and would not
talk to other females or give me the attitude of
being too good for me. i see him about once a
week and i am very comfortable with him I will
be with him tomorrow because he does not play
games.... he talks softly, gently and honestly.
he lets me know i am good and he is lucky to be
with me.... this is all any of us want to hear
whether we are male or female. we all want to be
exalted in the eyes of our dates, the world and
ourselves.
All the advice you give about the man making the
girl feel inferior and tentative is garbage.
i dare you to print this in your newsletter and
respond to it publicly
J m California
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Do you mind if I ask you a personal question?
WHAT KIND OF CRACK ARE YOU SMOKING?
It must be some really good stuff... because
you are out of it.
Let's talk, shall we? One adult to... well, a
crack smoker.
OK, so you call me "ludicrously asinine", and
then in the next sentence say that you pass on
some of the info you learn from me to your male
friends...
Huh?
Next, you start talking about a guy who "tried
such tactics" on you, and you "walked out". You go
on to say that this guy is "still begging for your
attention"... and that you're "not going to give
it".
Look, if any guy was practicing what I teach,
he would NEVER, EVER, EVER BEG ANY WOMAN FOR
ANYTHING... ESPECIALLY ATTENTION.
Tell me the truth: is this guy your crack
dealer? Is that why he knows how to get in touch
with you after you "walked out"?
And I guess you set me straight alright with
your example of the Prince Of Wusses who has been
"cultivating you for months" (sounds like some
kind of fungus experiment to me... try talking to
a specialist about it). He sounds like a real
keeper to me.
Your comment of "All the advice you give about
the man making the girl feel inferior and
tentative is garbage" has convinced me beyond the
shadow of a doubt that you should LAY OFF THE
CRACK, and pay more attention.
I have never, and will never, advise any man to
"make a woman feel inferior and tentative".
You know, I just remembered that I made a new
rule... that if a person demonstrated that they
were a JACKASS within the first three sentences of
their email to me, they could not be considered
for public humiliation in a mailbag like I'm
providing for you... but this was so tempting...
how could a guy help himself this time?
***COMMENT***
Dave, Got the book. Got the DVDs. No longer a
wuss. Nuff said.
Just sharing a quick story. The point is subtle,
but it's made a difference for me more than once:
(over instant messenger) Me: ok, so how am I being
mean again? Her: um, let me think... Her: i dont
know Her: maybe mean isnt the word i am looking
for Her: i think it's more that you do not adore
me as much as others and that annoys me
Translation: Obviously I don't really annoy
her...or she wouldn't be turning down other men
for me (she's an 8.5 looks). I just bust on her
whenever she attempts to make me her Drooling
Subservient Wuss Slave. (Be a man, get a woman.)
I do find it rather ironic that women spend so
much time trying to turn us into wusses they then
don't find attractive. It's not like us men go
around trying to make supermodels eat ice cream
and wear moo-moo dresses...
M Chicago
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Man oh man... you've opened up a can of worms
here.
I'll try to keep this short, but I can already
tell that I'm going to be rambling. Get a drink
for this one. We need to talk.
You have brought up a really important (and
subtle) point about how women behave around men.
When you stop chasing after and kissing up to
women, you will OFTEN hear things like "you're
being mean" and "I'm upset, and I don't know why",
etc.
And when you challenge women on this point,
you'll find the REAL reason: Women get upset when
they don't have CONTROL of a situation.
This is a paradox, as well... because women are
usually feeling ATTRACTED to you at the same time
they're saying these things.
A woman will test and challenge a man over and
over, virtually on a continual basis... just to
see if he's going to "crack" and reveal his Inner
Wuss. This has been going on since the first
human-like woman looked at the first human-like
man and hinted that if he was interested in making
babies that he'd better bring home some meat for
her...
Women aren't TRYING to turn us into Wusses...
on the contrary; they're trying to see if we
actually ARE wusses, and just PRETENDING not to
be.
Get it?
When you realize this SUBTLE distinction, you
are well on your way to learning to use The Force.
By the way, what's wrong with a super model in
a moo-moo eating ice cream?
Just think of it...
No more shopping at Bloomies for Chanel
Hydrabase Lipstick in "Beige Mythique" for
$22.00...
No more "Venti Skinny Two-Pumps-Of-Sugar-Free-
Vanilla Half-Decaf" lattes...
No more "I want a BABY GREEN salad, no
dressing, no croutons, no nothing... and a
chocolate mousse"...
"Moo moos and ice cream" is the way, man.
***QUESTION***
Just recently you had a person write to you about
how long it takes you to make up an email. Well
because you know what you are talking about, the
most of your time is reading the email then
copying it into your "news" letter. I think your
stuff really works if used right. The only thing
that has me confused is why should i buy the e-
book? It seems like you are teaching the whole
thing and their is no need to spend my money. Can
you give me some examples of what i am missing by
not buying your book? I am reading your emails and
wonder what all else could he possibly have to
teach me?
StG, >From some small little town all the way up
in Montana.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, how perfect.
A question I just LOVE to answer...
Imagine this, if you will:
Let's say that a friend of yours told you to
join an online discussion group, because it was
really interesting.
Let's further say that after you joined, you
realized that the topics they were discussing were
all about the Star Wars movie series.
They might be talking about things that Yoda and
Luke said... and having discussions about the
implications of various things... and even adding
new ideas that built on top of the basic
foundation that the actual movies created.
I could TELL you about Star Wars for 100 years.
I could do my best to describe the characters,
what they looked like, how they talked, and on and
on...
But to really "get" Star Wars you need to SEE
IT.
You need to make a decision to invest your
valuable time and money to EXPERIENCE it.
The same goes for my materials.
You are CHEATING yourself if you don't learn
the FOUNDATION... the SOURCE.
Two emails I've received come to mind...
One of them was to thank me for insisting that
guys read my book "Double Your Dating" in addition
to reading these emails, because that made him
actually do it... and he learned the FOUNDATION,
which made these Dating Tips and Mailbags REALLY
make sense.
The other was from a guy who came to one of my
live seminars. He wrote to tell me that when he
came to my live seminar he was expecting me to
just go over the things I covered in my book. But
when he arrived he was shocked to find that it was
almost ALL NEW material... and that the book was
just the beginning. (By the way, that was the
special live seminar I did that was Digitally
audio and video taped and edited to create my
Advanced Dating Techniques Program).
Do I want you to buy my book and other
products?
Of course.
Do I honestly believe beyond the shadow of any
doubt that it's worth 10 times the money, and will
help you become more successful with women and
dating better than anything else in the world?
Yep.
Look, I know this sounds a little crazy, but
I'm so sure that my materials are going to help
you become more successful with women that I'm
willing to let you try them out for FREE.
Yes, I'm talking no money up front. Try it
first. Then decide if it's for you.
Do I get screwed once in awhile, and some guy
orders my program, copies the whole thing, then
sends it back to me the SAME DAY and asks for his
money back?
Sure, of course it happens.
But, my offer is the right thing to do, and I
want to encourage you to invest in yourself... and
I make it so totally risk-free and easy that
you've got to do it.
My eBook and Advanced Series CD/DVD Program
will open your eyes on a whole new level. They
will repay your investment in no time flat... no
question.
You can get the Advanced Series here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=ZZV84Z&lid=3
You can download my eBook immediately here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=ZZV84Z&lid=4
...both websites have several good free samples
and feedback from others who have them. Enjoy.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David