This is just tooo funny. I wake up this morning, having had a good nights sleep. My best friend, Billie, hung out at my place, yesturday so it was cool seeing her. Then I get on Cherry Tap to see what is going on and my younger sister messaged me and told me about what a certain person was writing about me again in the mumms. But first of all, I want to cover some things.
My sister is pregnant with another little girl and for some reason "this person" seems to think that my sister is asking for the hand-me down clothes that she had given me awhile back when my little girl was born. Of course, I intend to give the clothes back to her but that doesnt mean that I don't have any clothes for my daughter that isnt hand me downs. This "certain person" aparently does'nt know anything. Yes, she is concerned that my daughter may not have any clothes if I give these clothes back to my sister. But that does not give her any right to write a mumm about something that she does not know about. I mean how stupid does "this person" have to be to make her way to the top?
Here is the problem: My sister only wants the 0 to 12 month clothes and not the 2t to 4t clothes. In fact, she is only asking for the baby clothes that were expensive at the time too....like Tommy Hilfiger clothes. Anything that she had gotten that was worth really keeping and not to give away in a garage sale. Stuff like that. My sister claims that she already has a couple of bags worth of baby clothes as it is. My sister knows that all of those hand me down clothes are helpful to me but at the same time that the kids are taken well care of. It seems that what I do anymore doesnt matter to this person because she likes to look out for herself and doesn't care about what others think. Well, she does care but she likes to make herself known in the situation like she is the one that is inocent. She likes to put her two cents into the situation because that is just the way she is and have always been, before she finds out the truth in what's actually going on.
Then there is the situation from when my ex and "this person" had my kids back in January. I had probably sent them over a weeks of clothes for each of the kids to last for the three months that they would have had the kids. Yes, some of the kids clothes were one size too small but they fit the kids regardless...they acted like all of the clothes I gave to them didn't fit the kids. My kids were 2 and 4, even then and my son is tall and skinny and he still has a hard time keeping his pants on. And my daughter is very petite. Sometimes she has a hard time keeping her pants on as well. The kids are fed well too.
Yet that was another thing they were saying about my children. They were saying that "I was starving them" because they eat like pigs for them. Kids are going to be kids though. You can not force them to eat when they do not want to. Of course, I get upset that they do not like to eat the food I make for them but most of the time when they are with me, they choose when to eat. And there is nothing really I can do about it. So with all of these allogations, they wanted to keep the kids in their care longer than the three months my ex and I had made a verbal agreement upon. Yes, it was cool that the kids would have get to know their father a lot more than usual but at the same time, they were trying to show how much they can over power me since they had the kids then. I told my ex that I could never ask for full custody of the kids at one time because I knew that he was a good father. SO at the time of when the divorce decree was filled out and signed, I still asked for joint custody even when my ex was going to give full custody to me. I was shocked really that that was what he was offering to me. But I did not ask for it though. SO when my ex felt that since he would have the kids for awhile, a little thought was put in his head that he should actually ask for full custody...but according to him that was not on his mind...it was more on his wife's mind than anything.
Anyhow, this has all got to stop. A few months ago all I did was send my ex an email about how I thought it would be neat if he got to see the kids on fathers day. This was like around mothers day or so. I thought it would be great at first if he had the kids for one month but I got to thinkin that maybe two weeks would be better since there was a problem in January with my son misbehaving for his father and such. Even for two weeks though, my ex would not be able to afford to take care of his family of seven; our two kids, the baby he had with his new wife, her two boys from a previous marriage that she can not seem to get any child support from and her ex is also in the military, and then my ex would have to take care of his wife too because she did not have a job then. But according to them, that was not the only reason they did not want to have the kids for that time...basically, they think that since there was a problem in January with me going to a higher authority to try and get the kids back and make my ex look like he kidnapped my kids, they just can't trust me. I had told them that I would be happy to put anything in writing for them as to how long they would be able to have the kids, too but that was not enough for them. Apparently, they want to be able to have the kids for as long as they want without the law being involved somehow. Well, that was what it seemed to be back in January. Hmmmm, and they think that I will trust them after what they tried pulling in January...which was why I can only trust the paperwork now. Anyhow, all I truly wanted was for my ex to see his kids again before the year is up, without all of this drama happening again. Everything was fine for a long time before MJ decided to come back on the "tap" too. I did not have to worry about all of this drama like I do now. MJ just had to find something better to do on her own time. Was it really that hard for my ex just to say that he wants to see the kids again, rather than throw it in my face about the past. Aparently it is, especially when you have your stuck up wifey telling you what to do all of the time.
