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What are you waiting for?
When your young you wonder what true love is and if you’ll ever find it. You date, and think each person is ‘the one’ but then as time goes on you realize that it was all an illusion and he/she wasn’t the one you to fulfill all your hopes, dreams and desires. As young people we looked, dated, loved, got disappointed and eventually got burned. But, these experiences taught us that life goes on despite break ups and heartaches. And it also taught us more about ourselves and what we really want out of life. In our young adult hood we were so self assured and felt we knew for sure exactly what we wanted from a mate. We still dated and finally found ‘the one’. If your lucky, your still with ‘the one’, but most of us found that our judgment wasn’t quite what we thought it was, and learned over the years that ‘the one’ was most definitely not the one we wanted to spend the rest of our lives with. As the Neil Diamond song goes, “We all know the song…” We fight with our mate, struggle to work it out because no one really wants to divorce. We wonder how we could have messed up so bad, how could we have been so wrong., what will people think, will the kids be OK, ect. Finally the divorce is final, the kids are settled into a new routine and life goes on. The daily routines are still there, work is still there, chores get done, but life is empty without meaning. Where do we go from here? Is true love just an illusion, does it really exist somewhere, or are we destined to just go from person to person in hopes of finding true love but never really achieving that? I ask these questions because this is where I find myself these days. I don’t want any answers, just to ponder on these things for a moment. I’ve thought in my life that I’ve been in love on a few different occasions but only to have it fizzle out and die. Did I expect too much, too little? Did the other person just not have the ability to love enough? When you care for someone else, when are you showing too much or too little love? Even though most of hate playing games, love seems more like a game than reality these days? Almost like a roller coaster ride most of don’t know how to get off of. I haven’t figured out all the intricacies of love, I don’t think anyone has. But, I would be willing to bet most of us have been down this road and ended up as confused as I feel most days. Hang in there, maybe some day we will all find that one special person who truly loves us for who we are and except what we have to offer free from conditions.
