How do you change that between two people. If you are uncomfortable being around some one but they are friends with your friends what do you do?
I have problems warming up to people this much I know. It takes me a while to get to know someone before I can be comfortable around them. Now this isn't always the case. There has been a few instances when I met some one and was immediately comfortable with them. It doesn't happen often but when it does it is great.
In my current situation I am not comfortable around one of my friends friends and I feel bad cause this person seems to be nice and wants to be friends with me or maybe more who knows but I am just not feeling good about it. I hate this feeling of dread I get with letting people in. I can't trust people right away. I don't function that way.
Here is a verse and chorus to my new favorite song (of course it is from a local band hahaha):
I have been down this road before but the feeling isn't quite the same
enticing me to go and follow you
the motives in concrete disguise
deception at its early state
this barrier will not be broken down
how can I know if this is sincere and true
closing my eyes I have been so blind
pursuing without a clue
when I awake from from this demise somehow I feel
it won't change my way I just won't let you in never again!! ~~~ Let You In, (un)SAID
Being as hurt as I have been in my past I feel this song!! I am sure one if not all of those guys have been a through a world of hurt in order to write lyrics like this! I have a 12ft thick wall around my heart, mind and soul at all times and it takes a lot for me to allow anyone to peak around it and see what it is that I have to offer. You can't force it as much as you might try but if I am uncomfortable to begin with you have to work twice as hard. I hate having these issues but I am trying to get past them. I don't know if I can now or ever but if and when that day comes then I know I and the one I am with will be truely happy. I cannot be forced to like people or be comfortable around them it has to come naturally and sometimes it just take time. I think this is one of those times.
I could use a little advice though, maybe one of you could help me?
