This is a posted conversation from another website, I found the advice and support to be very good and wanted to share it with my sister subs for future ref...
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ORIGINAL: Imsosly4u
it has been almost a year and i've yet to see my Master face to face.
when i have talked to Him about this, He says that i have to earn it,
okay, i have completed every task and am still waiting. How long is to
long? i never was seeking an internet Dom, and that was not supposed to
be how would be.
I scanned through the other replies... I waited a long time to meet my former dominant, longer than a year. He was not married, but it did not work out anyways, he was not just economically able to go there, and it ended up with me hurt even though we managed to take it into the real world.
My thoughts echo some others here, and knowing what I went through in my situation I would guess that perhaps you are very attached. I would tell him that I no longer considered him my master and was looking for others because it is taking too long and you need someone who will be in the real world with you. If he rejects you for that then he is not even your friend. If he accepts this as what you need and remains your friend perhaps in the future when he gets his own affairs in order it could be more.
What I learned from my situation is this: If someone is not meeting my needs it is up to me to find a situation in which my needs are met. If someone is not commiting to me then they have no right to expect a commitment in return, to call him your master infers ownership, how can someone who owns you not have even met you or fill even your most basic human needs? I do not think you want to give yourself so cheaply to someone you have never met, I did the same thing, so no I do not think you are crazy, but in the future you will not let yourself get this attached to someone who has not even seen your face or touched you.. it is just too painful
The feelings I felt for this person in my past were real feelings, I felt that way when we were together in the real world too, but my needs were still not met. I let go of that relationship and embraced a new one in which my needs are being met and I feel loved and cared for. This is a real life thing, not an internet thing, so there are men that will be appropriate for you. I would just advise you not to put all your eggs in one virtual basket again, and date many men until the right person comes along that is willing to be there for you.
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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, .., it is not proud...it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs... It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails 1st Cor 13.4
