This was posted in the bulletin, entitled
They "Own" You...from the desk of Scrapper:
Cherries...
I get email after email asking me to jump in the middle of member drama. I am not here to referee. Please read the following information and follow it to a "T" and your problems should go away.
If you feel you are being harassed or stalked, please BLOCK and IGNORE the person. When I say IGNORE, this means IGNORE COMPLETELY. When you react or respond to their instigating, they OWN you! Thicken your skin and DO NOT respond and the problem will go away. It might take a day or two or even a week, but I assure you this works.
Here are some useful tips!
1. DON'T GO TO THEIR PAGE. YOu will show up on their profile viewers. This always instigates more drama.
2. DON'T READ THEIR BULLETINS. You will show up on their profile viewers. This always instigates more drama.
3. DON'T post comments, bulletins, blogs, mumms, etc etc etc about this person. This will only instigate more drama.
4. DON'T Send your friends to this person's page to check things out or to fight your battle. This will only instigate more drama.
5. If the person starts harassing your friends, tell your friends to BLOCK and IGNORE.
6. Per the terms of service, bouncer staff is not mandated to mediate member disputes. Refer to point #7 in the TOS, so please keep that in mind when you go and ask for help.
We have over 550K cherries on the CT. Don't waste your energy trying to argue with a hater. You will only tie yourself in a knot. If you have any other useful ideas, please post a comment.
Have fun and don't let the haters ruin your day!
Keep your pimp hand strong
SCRAPPER
as originally posted by
Gypsy Queen **~Stang~**
@ CherryTAP
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NOTE: I don't think that the title of the bulletin is truly reflective of what Scrapper was trying to say. What I read into what Scrapper says is that one shouldn't play into the hands of the drama and creating more drama which allows the "haters", stalkers, harrassers to thrive and continue. It is true...
if one plays into their hands, they win.
Creating bulletins alerting is one thing, but to ask folks go to their site, allows the folks to have more fuel to access to other innocent folks because of the site viewers and the cycle of abusive behaviors continues.
I would suggest that you report the abusive behavior to the powers that be...
and let the powers that be contend with what they can.
It certainly isn't helping the powers that be to send more folks to the troublers' sites, only for the troublers to continue to reak havoc on the site. If the troubler's are fueled, they will continue.
How what Scrapper says plays into they "owning" anyone, I am not sure. It seems that someone has misconstrued what was originally said. Noone owns anyone on this site; it is a community for all to enjoy....
Let's us all stop the insanity of the drama caused by the troublers....
Kat
