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‎.remember when.....Checking out at the grocery store recently, the young cashier suggested I should bring my own grocery bags because plastic bags weren't good for the environment. I apologized and explained, "We didn't have this green thing back in my earlier days." The clerk responded, "That's our problem today. Your generation did not care enough to save our environment for future generations." She was right about one thing -- our generation didn't have the green thing in “Our” day. So what did we have back then…? After some reflection and soul-searching on "Our" day here's what I remembered we did have.... Back then, we returned milk bottles, soda bottles and beer bottles to the store. The store sent them back to the plant to be washed and sterilized and refilled, so it could use the same bottles repeatedly. So they really were recycled. But we didn't have the green thing back in our day. We walked up stairs, because we didn't have an escalator in every store and office building. We walked to the grocery store and didn't climb into a 300-horsepower machine every time we had to go two blocks. But she was right. We didn't have the green thing in our day. Back then, we washed the baby's diapers because we didn't have the throw-away kind. We dried clothes on a line, not in an energy gobbling machine burning up 220 volts -- wind and solar power really did dry our clothes back in our early days. Kids got hand-me-down clothes from their brothers or sisters, not always brand-new clothing. But that young lady is right. We didn't have the green thing back in our day. Back then, we had one TV, or radio, in the house -- not a TV in every room. And the TV had a small screen the size of a handkerchief (remember them?), not a screen the size of the state of Montana. In the kitchen, we blended and stirred by hand because we didn't have electric machines to do everything for us. When we packaged a fragile item to send in the mail, we used wadded up old newspapers to cushion it, not Styrofoam or plastic bubble wrap. Back then, we didn't fire up an engine and burn gasoline just to cut the lawn. We used a push mower that ran on human power. We exercised by working so we didn't need to go to a health club to run on treadmills that operate on electricity. But she's right. We didn't have the green thing back then. We drank from a fountain when we were thirsty instead of using a cup or a plastic bottle every time we had a drink of water. We refilled writing pens with ink instead of buying a new pen, and we replaced the razor blades in a razor instead of throwing away the whole razor just because the blade got dull. But we didn't have the green thing back then. Back then, people took the streetcar or a bus, and kids rode their bikes to school or walked instead of turning their moms into a 24-hour taxi service. We had one electrical outlet in a room, not an entire bank of sockets to power a dozen appliances. And we didn't need a computerized gadget to receive a signal beamed from satellites 2,000 miles out in space in order to find the nearest pizza joint. But isn't it sad the current generation laments how wasteful we old folks were just because we didn't have the green thing back then? Please post this on your Facebook profile so another selfish old person who needs a lesson in conservation from a smarty-pants young person can add to this...lol


Reposted from a friend on FB.  

This has been an interesting year with the economic whirlwind with people trying to hang into their jobs and keep their finances afloat. I had the enduring task of many physical therapy sessions resulting from a car hitting me last Thanksgiving while yielding to oncoming emerging emergency vehicles off Loop 360. Was in the physical and water therapy until October and will begin again as soon as the months warm up to get into the pool again. Hopefully, it will warm up soon. While I it was a challenge to do during the day and work on the overnight shifts at night, I am grateful that my range of arm movement is beginning to slowly come back around (estimation is for another year to be fully recovered).

I am so grateful for family and friends who kept encouraging me throughout the year. Some may never realize how much they were encouraging me, but they were; some were giving me so much encouragement throughout the year that I feel that I can do nothing enough to repay them, but I really appreciated having them at my back and then some. 

I am so grateful and proud of my daughter. She has had a trying year with studying for nursing, keeping up with Kaeden, getting accepted in the nursing program to be a RN soon, getting a PT job at Seton Hospital as a CA beginning in January 2010 to get some hands on experience before graduating from the nursing program, and challenged by the relationship she has with Aaron at this time. While she has gone through a lot, she is standing tall and forging ahead with great determination and I can't tell you when I have been more proud of her.

I am grateful for my granddaughter who never ceases to amaze me as she grows throughout the year, speaking incessantly of an Abby she knows from school who I have yet to meet! lol.... She brings a great deal of joy and laughter into this world as she moves from the toddler twos to the terrific threes. Although she doesn't know where to stop drawing at times, she is really a great, lovable child.

I am grateful for the fellow advocates that I work with as well. We are constantly learning from each other on how to become better advocates, as if that is possible for some -- as I feel that I am learning from the best on earth.

I am grateful for those I work with dj-ing. There is a great sense of family among us and we love helping each other out whenever possible and maintain peace from those who try to bring drama influences. Working with these folks this year has made me really realize how many family units I truly have bringing peace, happiness, and the joy of music to as many that we can possibly influence.

I am grateful for Laurie Zieber too who brought me on her show this year, SHE SPEAKS TO INSPIRE on Blog Talk Radio. She certainly is a bundle of inspiration in herself and I was fortunate to be a part of her mission this year; and, hopefully, in years to come.

I'm grateful to Lymph World and other lymphedema advocates who have made it possible for me to get some treatments and garments that help my lymphedema be not so bad this year; or, at least, much more manageable. From them, I've learned so much more about speaking up for myself. While I find it easy to advocate for others, it has been a great journey about advocating for myself as well much more so than I have ever been able to do in the past - especially with regard to the lymphedema condition.

I'm also grateful for my friends that play Lexulous and the other games on FB. I haven't played games enough in the years past for some reason. They have allowed me to slow down and relax to enjoy some of the games from time to time... (lol... well, it seems more than just from time to time these days because the games can be addictive at times, but all in all it has been pure enjoyment to do so).

I'm grateful for Facebook bringing me back in touch with many of my high school friends, many of them that I lost contact with over the last 30 years. The youth of today have no idea how lucky they are to have all this technology at their hands to help them keep in contact with one another. 30 years might not seem all that long ago for some folks - but, you have to remember too that internet wasn't fully utilized until the late 80s at best, more so though in the 90s. We've come a long, long ways with improving our means to be connected with others over the years.

Oh, my goodness. I could go on a long list of family and friends and never be able to personally tell them all how much they have meant to me, but please know that you are all treasures in my heart in one way or another.

Moving forward to 2010 - can you believe???

Just think if all that we did in 2009 will be with even more awe in 2010, what could that possibly be?

In work we talked about making intentions and mission statements instead of resolutions for the new year, which often we set ourselves up for failure with. So as I am ending this 2009 year, I have beem reflecting upon what I could possibly come up with....

I think that it would probably be best to say...

I am going to continue to try to inspire others in all the ways that I can - whether it through blogging, music, photography, art, on the hotline, writing a novel, having my own show on blog talk radio, or any of the numerous creative ways that I can come up. My mission will be to find just how many ways creativity will allow. 

How many do you think that will be?

Best wishes to everyone for a wonderful new year; may it be both prosperous and fulfilling in what ever path your journey may take you this coming new year!!

Yours truly....

(aka Kat, Kathy, DJ Devine, Mom, Mema, etc. lol...)

For economical reasons, I am cutting back here on Fubar as a VIP member, although I have been a VIP member here for more than 2-3 years (since the days as Lost Cherry). I would prefer keeping the VIP, however, with my overtime curtailed, everyone's pay increases curtailed her at work, and the organization already forced with 9 layoffs, it is probably time that I tighten my belt a bit. I'll still be here from time to time, but not as a VIP member. Perhaps, with time, I will be able to spare that $14/mo extra charge once again.
OMG!! I can't believe that the first thing that I saw when signing onto Fubar tonight was a voice clip of Howard Stern. I am not impressed at all. Fubar may be a great way to meet folks, but he makes it sound so dirty the way he describes it. If that is what Fubar wants to associate themselves with and purport themselves to run in the same company of, I may not be on here much longer. Ughghghghhh.....
Although the days under Bush were tough, it is seeming to get even tougher under Obama - to no fault of Obama as he is doing what he can, under the circumstances. In fact, one of the smartest moves was him putting a ceiling on those making over $100k on the Hill and cutting their ability to make more during these hard times for everyone, demonstrating for the first time (by ANY President) that they are about for the people. While the people are taking paycuts etc at their place of businesse to survive this hard flow of times, the government is also going to feel the reprecussions as well. SMART, very smart, for Obama to do that. Where I work, they have already laid off 9 folks; and then recently there was a 10% paycut for anyone making over $40k. We're anticipating that we might have to go to a 32 hr work week instead of 40. This would still keep us at a fulltime status; however, we would get paid strictly for 32 hrs instead of 40. They are doing everything that they can to avoid heading for another lay off. This, being in the midst of many others being laid off. In fact, 60 Minutes did an expose tonight on the DHL losing a huge amount of its workforce through staggered lay offs. Other things will have to be considered as everyone tightens their belts. I may have to forego, for example, my VIP status, although I am going to hang on to the lounge for as long as I can afford to do so. Potentially having 8 hrs less of pay is going to hurt a lot. More penny pinching even more so. If you don't hear from me for a while. It isn't because I don't enjoy my friends and family here on Fubar; it is just that a necessary choice has had to be made to network among Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn. Y'all can find me on there too via my GMAIL account bluebonnetfields. I have created a bank account for another business and taking a lot of free workshops when I should be sleeping after working this overnight job I have on the crisis line. Although it might not be a great place to start a new business; it can't do no harm in trying. I will try to check in here as often as I can. I have been on here for almost 3(???) years now. Hard to believe, but I have truly enjoyed every moment of it. Missing it dearly as I am working some things that I must do at this time; however, will be here as much as possible. Sometimes, thinkg that have been such a habit in the past, are just hard things to put down and out of sight. I just don't see that happening. Y'all do keep in touch with me, frequent my lounge, and keep encouraging all to keep up the faith as we all tighten our belts for the upcoming ride. xoxox K aka DJ Devine
lol... Got an email this morning from a friend that I met originally through Yahoo 360 and he was complaining about the lying, cheating, good for nothing folks on Facebook and that he's going to stick to the friends he's met previously online and not seek out any more online friends, etc., etc. In response to him, I had reminded him that I hadn't ventured to Facebook yet but I understand what he's talking about, although I have met some wonderful folks here on Fu ... and then I looked at today's month and realized that I have actually been here 2 full years, as of October 1st. :D It is amazing how time flies by when you are having fun!!! lol.... Of course, I find that the lounges probably saved me to remain on Fubar because it brought a whole 'nother dimension to my life... from just a member, to a DJ, to a Head DJ, and now an Owner of the Texas Music Mania Roadhouse Radio lounge, as well as building a village of others (including, but not limited to our Lucky Hearts Chapel, and In Your Dreams Honeymoon place). I feel fortunate to know all the folks that I do here on Fubar and look forward to the future here. I wonder what the staff has in store for us as we might start look for more new challenges and dimensions on Fubar??? Hmmm... might just have to stick around and find out!!! :D DJ Devine ~Owner @ Texas Music Mania Lounge & Lucky Hearts Chapel~Owned by T-Bone~

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Attending the Texas Victim Services' Association conference this week to further enrich my skills that I do on the domestic violence crisis lines and through victim services at the police department, a call for action has been placed for volunteers for disaster relief teams here in Austin, Texas, because Ike is heading to Texas -- the question is whether it is heading now more towards Port Lavaca or Galveston. Galveston already has mandatory evacuations in place since yesterday, I think. Austin is generally unscathed by hurricanes because we are so far inland, but they are predicting that this might be like Hurricane Carla of the 1960's era and Austin may still have the effects of a cat 2 heading through Austin -- even as it heads through land. UT has rescheduled the UT - ARK game that was scheduled on Saturday to September 27th in efforts to keep as many folks off of the roads travelling to here for the game. Of course, all disaster planning may not be needed because we all know that the hurricanes can change direction quickly or do other unpredictable things such as downgrading quickly; however, it is better to be safe than sorry. If I am not on much through this weekend, you will understand as I am moving into disaster relief mode with the organizations that I work and volunteer for. Peace and prayers for all those bracing themselves for the potential wrath of Ike. May our prayers be answered by the potential wrath of Ike turning into a lamb.
Controls for Assisted Support Yes No LiveAssist Chat Status: Analyst Steve Anderson is here. Status: working user Kathryn has entered room analyst Steve Anderson has entered room Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:35:09 CDT 2008)>Do I need to type my message all over again??? Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:35:17 CDT 2008)>Hello! Thank you for choosing Time Warner Cable's Online Chat Support. My name is Steve. Kindly give me a few moments while I retrieve your account details. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:35:17 CDT 2008)>ok Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:35:27 CDT 2008)>Meanwhile is that fine if I address you by your first name? Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:35:26 CDT 2008)>sure Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:35:41 CDT 2008)>Thank you Kathryn. Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:35:42 CDT 2008)>Can you please explain your issue in detail once again? Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:35:42 CDT 2008)>ughgh.. :P Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:36:06 CDT 2008)>I have been waiting all day for the repair guy to get here today... still no sign of him.... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:36:17 CDT 2008)>I have been without cable and internet since last week... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:36:54 CDT 2008)>only reason I am on the internet now is through my wifi laptop computer ... accessing someone elses services.... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:37:53 CDT 2008)>I work overnights... so I normally sleep in the day, but I have been forcing myself to stay awake so that I don't miss the repair guy. (If I go to sleep in my bedroom, I'll never hear the knock on the door) Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:38:43 CDT 2008)>I keep going to the front door and double checking to see if I might have missed him somehow, but there is no tag on the door, so I think I am safe to say that I haven't missed him... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:38:55 CDT 2008)>just anxious for him to get here... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:40:05 CDT 2008)>BTW... you need to update your chat site to accomodate the new Google Chrome Browser... I had to start this all over again b/c your site doesn't accomodate the new browser.... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:40:53 CDT 2008)>Are you still there??? Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:41:12 CDT 2008)>Yes. Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:41:14 CDT 2008)>Kindly give me a moment. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:41:11 CDT 2008)>ok Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:42:38 CDT 2008)>If I understand, you have an appointment today. Is that correct? Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:42:44 CDT 2008)>yes Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:43:01 CDT 2008)>Thank you for the information Kathryn. Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:43:02 CDT 2008)>I would be glad to assist you in this regard. Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:43:03 CDT 2008)>May I have a couple of minutes to research on this. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:43:52 CDT 2008)>When I called on Saturday, they said that the first available time they could be here would be today (b/c of the holiday). But, they were pushing my appointment in today b/c I am completely without service. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:45:19 CDT 2008)>ok -- I am really exhausted and wish they could be here soon so I could get some sleep. I have to work another overnight shift tonight. analyst Steve Anderson has been temporarily disconnected. Please wait while the analyst attempts to reconnect. We are experiencing higher than usual service times. Please wait and an analyst will be with you shortly. analyst Steve Anderson has entered room Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:46:32 CDT 2008)>wb Steve Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:47:50 CDT 2008)>Thank you for your patience. Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:47:53 CDT 2008)>Can you please provide me with the account holder's full name and the account number? Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:48:09 CDT 2008)>Kathryn ******** 00831***** Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 18:53:44 CDT 2008)>Kindly give me a moment. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:53:42 CDT 2008)>ok Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 17:55:29 CDT 2008)>while waiting on you, I'm moving some wash to a dryer... will brb... don't go away.... 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Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 19:05:37 CDT 2008)>But as per the record the appointment was cancelled. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:06:59 CDT 2008)>I didn't cancel it. Who did? and why? I wouldn't have tortured myself by staying awake to make sure that I wouldn't miss him. That simply wouldn't make sense. Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 19:07:21 CDT 2008)>Kindly give me a moment. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:07:29 CDT 2008)>I am still VERY much without cable and internet service through Time Warner..... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:07:33 CDT 2008)>okay... Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 19:08:54 CDT 2008)>Can I send a technician at your place? Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:08:54 CDT 2008)>please do.... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:09:03 CDT 2008)>can you send one NOW??? Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 19:09:25 CDT 2008)>Just give me some moments. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:09:30 CDT 2008)>(before my head is with a keyboard attached to it) Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:09:37 CDT 2008)>ok Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 19:10:47 CDT 2008)>Can I send a technician at your place on 09/10? Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:11:03 CDT 2008)>NO! Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:11:05 CDT 2008)>Today... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:11:19 CDT 2008)>I'll be in a conference 9/9-9/12.. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:11:36 CDT 2008)>I have already been without internet service for about a week... Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 19:11:51 CDT 2008)>I sincerely apologize for the inconvenience cause to you in this regard. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:12:07 CDT 2008)> I am stuck with no tv and no internet... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:12:17 CDT 2008)>I work overnights... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:12:27 CDT 2008)>and was attending a conference last week.... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:12:53 CDT 2008)>I need someone to come out today... they promised today... and I think that they should be here today. 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Y'all think you have a monopoly over folks. Truth be known AT&T has been soliciting my apartment complex. Although I don't like DSL, their offer for a triple bundle package for the price of what I pay for just 2 services is looking pretty good right now. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:19:28 CDT 2008)>I have had service with y'all for more than 5 years since I have been back in Austin and I keep getting crapped on. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:20:11 CDT 2008)>You have the authority to get permission to get someone out here today. If not, I'll send the transcript to the President/CEO of Time Warner... Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:20:22 CDT 2008)>This is insane. Steve Anderson(Tue Sep 2 19:22:41 CDT 2008)>Your request has been forwarded to the appropriate department and will be addressed immediately. You will receive contact via email within the next 48 hours to resolve the situation. Kathryn (Tue Sep 2 18:23:15 CDT 2008)>so I have to continue without service???? 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It is my work. It is what I do best. I plant seeds in folks that have crisis situations such that their lives, or lives of their loved ones, can improve. Tonight is no different. Tomorrow will be no different as well, however, tonight will be engrained upon me for a while. Mother calls. Her 19 yo daughter is being abused by her boyfriend. Her daughter's friend, Tiffany, was shot 3 times by her own boyfriend and the boyfriend turned around and shot himself while her friends waited out in the car for her to return. Police had been called upon a situation with her daughter being beaten by her boyfriend and no arrest was made in spite of daughter covered in scratches and bruises. Mother is scared to death, but is willing to march in the front of the capitol with the name of her daughter's battering boyfriend on the sign with the passion that she wants folks to know about how much she wants to save the life of her daughter. Ultimately, she wants to be able to do something proactive. Of course, we reiterate -- (1) keep the lines of communication open at all cost (2) encourage her to call us or the teen hotline and (3) don't make demands upon her wherein it would appear that you are no different from the abuser. After discussing how to empower her daughter, we turn to discussions about coalitions and legistlation workings and how she can be a voice for changes in the domestic violence laws, as well as approaching the police department to discuss why no arrest was made (ie is it their policy to not to have to arrest someone in a domestic violence situation? and was it appropriate action in this case where her daughter was obviously hurt by him?). She asked about my experience with domestic violence and I shared with her my journey, as well as listened to her journey. Remarkably similar in many ways. She told me that I should be proud of how far I have come. I told her that I was; and, if I could only just plant one seed, I was proud to do so and my work is being done. She told me, "God bless you. You have planted that seed in me and I appreciate your taking the time to talk to me." She asked for me to pray for her and she would definitely be having me in her prayers. And, so I now pray that "Mary" can save her daughter, and in the event that she cannot, she can save the lives for others by being a voice for Tiffany and her own daughter. Another seed has been planted tonight, and there will be seeds to plant in the nights to come. Thank goodness for the voices here at the hotline and those out in the world who have faced their fears so that others may live without fear.
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