or just a relationship for sex????
Believe it or not there truly is a difference. Many folks seem to be on the internet sites for the casual sex thing...even outside the marriage relationship.
I know, I know... there are exceptions for going outside of the marriage relationship and that is fine for those situations. I am not judging anyone for that one way or another so please don't barrage me with your reasons to do so.
My thing is though that I want a relationship with someone who truly enjoys sex...and not just an ongoing relationship where life is merely centered around the sex. Apparently, I am not too bad in the sex category (even with all my imperfections) or I wouldn't have men that would want to make a sexual thing a regular event;
however, sometimes, I just want to know where are the relationships where a true courtship is held???
The other night, a man, IMs me and states, "Would you like to go to dinner with me." My response included a reply of "It is a little far to travel for dinner." thinking I wouldn't hear from him again.
Then, he IM'd me stating, "I'd travel there for you. Look at my pics on my profile and let me know what you think." Oh, my! They were extremely graphic with a partner interacting. Not that I mind looking at that sort of thing, but I kindly responded, "Very nice, but I am not into casual sex." Never heard from him again.
Then...
There was the dinner date who wanted to meet me at his place or mine. Sorry I don't do that on a first meet most definitely. I suggested a restaurant to meet; he agreed but was still on the thing about going to my place afterwards even though I kept indicating, "No, I am not comfortable with that." A little ways into the dinner, his leg starts bouncing up and down with nerves. He said that it happened often and it wasn't anything, but later he confessed that he couldn't cheat on his girlfriend!
Where is the simple dates where folks that truly get to know you instead of putting the pressure on for sex on the first night??? I am starved for great sex myself, but I have a bit of control to save it for someone that the chemistry is definitely there and one that I hope to make a committed relationship from.
Auugghgghhghgh....
Is the true romance of the courtships long gone? Will they ever return?
Are there any men left who still believe in courtships???
