Being in a relationship is like walking in a mine field, one wrong move and it could be over! Most would say that the aftermath of it all is the destructive force to kill it, but the one thing people don't grasp is that 9 times out of 10 it was'nt the actual move made that ended the relationship but the contents with in. The contents spoken of is the pain, the grief, and the fucking bullshit our last relationship caused! Some of us hold on to that pain, the grief, and the bullshit to keep us sane and safe in our new relationship, but forget that depending on how we use it, it is also the one thing that can ruin, has ruined, and will ruin every and any new relationship we get into. Eventually our partner will feel as if he/she is and has to walk on egg shells to keep from setting off the mine field, not knowing why he/she is put in such a position, and it well take its toll on them, you, and in the relationship! We all keep one eye open to the normal signs we have grown to know and love(sarcasm inserted) when our partner has other itineraries we should be aware of, but at the same time, those same signs mean nothing to and in the new relationship you are in simply because not everything can remain the same as it started. Every one stays on their toes in the begining of a relationship to ensure their partner stays interested and focused on them and with time the routine changes, and with those changes comes the red flags......red flags that should not be there without proper proof other then " well that's what my last partner did when I found out they were cheating"! Whatever happened to innocent till proven guilty?!?! How can we move forward freely in a relationship when any little thing could ruin it simply because we don't let go of the past! How can our partner truly make us happy if never given a true chance to do so because the past lingers so closely? How can we truly love if the past has become our shadow? We tend to pay such close attention to anything out of what we call the norm in the relationship we are in that we forget that our partner may be doing the same to us, and looking to see if the trust you claim to have is truly there. In the end if you can so not let go of the past, that means your ex/ex's, you should live by your fucking self and avoid causing that much fucking grief to yourself and someone who does not deserve it! Learn to live and love free, without restrictions and give not your pathetic ex that much control over you!!!
P.S.
Remember this....they are your ex for a reason
and punish not the new for something they had
nothing to do with!
