There isn’t a day that doesn’t go buy where an application to serve, or what I call a ‘petition’ doesn’t come across my desk. Normally, I see very few applicants that come close to meeting the criteria of serving Me, and as a rule of thumb, most don’t get past the first 5 items on my list. So, after thinking a bit, I thought I would give a general guideline as to what most Fem Doms/Mistresses’ expect and then from there, you can determine if you are going to get your foot through the front door.
Every week, I get dozens of applications, inquiries and offers from men who want to apply to real time slave or submissive sissy service for me. This is my basic check list for new applicants who want to apply for such positions. You can use this criteria as a guideline to apply to most any Mistress or Goddess of your choosing.
1. Address
* When first addressing Her, make sure you use Caps on any item referring to “Her, She, Mistress, Lady etc” Once you have received direction on what to call Her, then make sure you never forgo those caps.
* Spelling of the name is crucial, so when in doubt, double check before you send that email/letter!
* Make sure when addressing Her, that your name is lowered in caps including ‘i’ and even the letters of your first name.
2. Letter Content
* Make sure your letter is personal and not some form you filled in. The time you put into your words will actually be welcomed and embraced.
* Details are very crucial when writing. As much about yourself as you can share is important as then She will know just where you wish to take things and what you need from this. The more details the better. She may reply asking several questions but that is a good sign and should be answered in a timely manner as well. Fantasies are welcome, but one liners are preferred. If She wants to go into it further She will ask you to write more later.
* Deception in a letter can be smelled a mile away by a good Mistress and therefore if you attempt that scenario, you won’t get far. Remember, it is easy now a days to trace IP addresses and such and if you have spoken to Her before and She remembers you, then you should be up front and honest with everything. If you have applied to several Domina’s in between visits, it is wise to let Her know that for several reasons: 1) This lifestyle is NOT for those habitual liars, 2) Why were you not accepted or did it not go anywhere (as She can take this information and use it to help you make a match).
* Check your letter for grammar and spelling. We are not mothers, and prefer to show that you are educated and well learned in all aspects of necessities.
3. History
* Be clear about weather or not you have served before, and in what capacity (switch, top, bottom)
* Also indicate your sexuality, knowing that a slave is open to a bi-sexual experience is not only a good thing to know but it also opens up many additional avenues of play time excursions.
* Your sexual, mental and physical health is also important. Most Mistresses have no problem playing with those with limitations, but we HAVE TO KNOW about them. If you don’t tell Us, then We might run into problems and not be able to trust you for further interludes.
* Married, girlfriend, boyfriends? Anyone else important in your life that we need to know about? Reason: If you are marked or otherwise have some type of attack, we need to know about emergency calls/contacts and who might question it if they see cane marks across your backside and weather we can leave them or not…
4. Manners
* ALWAYS be polite. Anonymity and tone’s are sometimes the two hardest things to get past in this day and age. With email being the number one source of communication now a days, it is crucial that you remain on high alert with where please and thank you’s need to go. Treat Her like you would treat your own mother and like the Lady that she is.
* Make sure your email’s don’t have anything crude about them. This will get you a long way. Most of Us prefer addressing and dealing with gentleman and not the wanker boy who is just looking to get off.
* Don’t go into such detail about your fantasies as more into what you intend to do for Her and your service to her. After all, this is about Us… not you.
* Be prepared to send a picture. Make sure you have a clothed one as well as a possible nude one. I, much prefer the clothed ones and enjoy seeing the eyes of the individual I am talking to. Other Mistresses’ might wish to have other pictures sent, so being prepared is actually a plus.
* Make sure when answering Her questions you cut and paste the original question and answer it below. Don’t make us hunt for the answers either.
* If you don’t hear from Her within a week or so, sending a follow up email is encouraged on My end. I am more apt to think that you are even more eager than I had suspected and follow up sooner than later.
5. Closure
* Remember, W/we ALL change our minds. The best way to do so is to be sure you communicate that to Her and let Her know. You never know when you might regret that decision and want to return to Her feet to beg to service again.
Nearly all Fem Doms/Mistresses’ appreciate a well thought out and well mannered letters of petition and even though these are some guidelines, everyone wants things a little different. So if ever in doubt… ASK! Do it respectfully and you will find it will get you a long way!
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