Lately I've had a few inquiries regarding some preferences of mine, as well as some questions about women in general. I thought to myself, "self, maybe we should put it in a blog". Er.... did I say "we"..... damn. ;p The main question I get is why I prefer not to see men's NSFW stuff right off the bat. There was one man who was pretty offended that I had some posted of myself but wouldn't come and see his. At first I was a little taken aback, but when I thought about it I understood it more. The easy answer would be to say that I'm an exhibitionist and not a voyeur. But it's really not that simple. I'm NOT a true exhibitionist, I don't like to get naked or have sex in public, that doesn't get me excited. People who like my pics do though.... and sometimes the thought of having sex somewhere I COULD get caught is fun, but if I actually were caught I would be mortified. And I do have a little voyeur in me, I do enjoy the site of an attractive naked man..... but he has to be someone who's already peaked my interest or already turned me on. Here's a basic male vs female thing. Men are visual creatures. Generally the site of a naked or otherwise provocative female is arousing for them. Duh. Women however are wired different. And I swear I'm not making this up (someone thought I was and I keep promising I'm not, he really really thinks this is BS, but wtf? he's a man how the hell would he know?!), though I'm sure it doesn't apply to every female on the planet.... as a general rule here's the deal: women are cerebral creatures. You must engage OUR MINDS. I'm not saying we're all wanting Shakespeare... But it's all about what we think is happening or think is going to happen.... Now what any one specific woman WANTS to happen is specific to her alone. Me, I like intelligent conversation. I like smart asses. I like humor. It may take a month, it may take a week, a day, or even an hour or a few minutes, but a man who can peak my interest non-sexually by getting me thinking or laughing has me relaxed enough to open up sexually. Now as to why I understood where he was coming from, it's simple. People generally give what they like. In sexual play, especially in first encounters, people will do to the other person what turns themselves on.... makes perfect sense. You don't know what they want, but you know what you want so maybe that's what they want too. Sorry, poor sentence, but I hope you get the idea. It's a good trick to know because you can guess that if someone is sucking away on your ears... they just may want you to suck on back. This guy really liked seeing my pictures so he assumed he would return the favor. In his mind, why on earth WOULDN'T I want to see? Flirting is hard on the internet, I get that. Things you can say with eyes or body language are completely blocked out, sometimes you have to come right out and say that you're attracted to someone. But just shouting out into the shoutbox world that you want to fuck someone and they should go look at your pics isn't flirting.... to me it feels pretty invasive. I've never asked anyone to look at my pictures. I have informed a few interested parties that there were some there, but that's about it. But if my mind isn't completely engaged then looking at a pic of a limp naked dude sitting at his computer is just.... sad. Whereas the same guy by saying hello and using the brain god gave him could probably get me to look at that same picture and say THAT'S HOT! It's just like foreplay dudes. And if you don't know what that is then I probably can't help you.... ;p You can't just stick it in, you have to heat up the oven first. I'm sure there are quite a few women (especially on this site) who will make a liar out of me. And if you find one and that's what you're looking for then I'm so happy for you. But in general I think you can count this as a Basic Rule of Female Handling. ;)You know what I've noticed? The times when there's lots of foreplay, the man seems to have more fun too.... or at least a harder orgasm.