Up until recently, I had always negatively questioned my own power and my sensitive energy. Through the process of heavily questioning myself, I discovered some of the awesomeness of being a very sensitive person. However, that doesn't mean this discovery process is over, it will continue for the rest of my life!
Are you a highly sensitive person? Do you feel like you process situations more intensely than the average person?
Here is a list of some of the awesomeness of sensitive people:
Most highly sensitive people are capable of knowing what's happening below the surface and in between the lines without being able to articulate a solid reason.
2. An ability to read the vibe
When entering a situation, conversation, or a room full of people, most highly sensitive people can tell what type of mood or vibe was taking place just before they arrived.
3. Picking up on the subtle
Highly sensitive people usually are capable of responding to someone's questions or needs before they even ask. They can usually tell when someone is hiding something or lying to them.
4. Empathy for what others are feeling
This goes far beyond the typical cordial sentiments. The empathy of a highly sensitive person is much closer to being able to walk a mile in a person's shoes with out ever touching their boots.
5. Experiencing the extraordinary
Highly sensitive people often are capable of experiencing, feeling, and seeing things that are beyond the ordinary. A sound, a sense, or a color not coined yet.
6. Mental telepathy
This one is quite interesting. It seems that highly sensitive people may have the capability to sense when someone is going to stop by for a visit, send them a text message, or call them before any of this ever takes place.
The highly sensitive nature of some people allows them to graciously and elegantly use descriptive words to create a divine narrative.
8. Going solo with confidence
Highly sensitive people are never feel lonely when they're by themselves. Sometimes their own company is all they need and sometimes even preferred.
9. Above average mindfulness
Someone who is highly sensitive will usually make room for a group of people coming onto the bus, or move the other side of the sidewalk so someone else can pass with ease. All in the name of making it easier for everyone around them.
10. Easy to cry
Showing emotions in the form of crying usually comes easier for highly sensitive people. However, it isn't sign of weakness, it can be a healthy release of constrictive emotions and thought patterns. More of a personal cleansing than anything else.
11. Work excellent in a team setting
The ability of being able to sense how other people are feeling enables a highly sensitive person to respond to the team's needs in the optimal way.
12. Hard working
Highly sensitive people usually tend to be deep thinkers and tad bit of perfectionists. They tend to put 110% into everything at hand, especially projects that involve other people.
13. Easily moved by artistic expression
The artists of the world find their inspiration and creativity from those who are moved by it and make it known. Acknowledging myself as a highly sensitive person has enabled me to also see it in others. These others are by far the most profound artists, dreamers, and teachers I have ever met.
[h/t Rebelle Society]
Are you Thing 1? Or Thing 2?
We have no preference, do you?
We doubt that you do
being the thing that you are
You'd rather have fun
than take this that far
So lets have some fun!
Which is what you do best
Living life in the fast lane
Wearing thrills like a vest
Others think you're crazy
and they're slightly correct
No thing desires normalcy
What do they expect?
Just keep your hair crazy
never drop that big grin
For those who are happy
Are in for the win!
"So how do we, as people of faith, reconcile these realities— the profound good, the strength, the tenacity, the compassion and love that can flow from all of our faiths, operating alongside those who seek to hijack religious (sic) for their own murderous ends?
Humanity has been grappling with these questions throughout human history. And lest we get on our high horse and think this is unique to some other place, remember that during the Crusades and the Inquisition, people committed terrible deeds in the name of Christ. In our home country, slavery and Jim Crow all too often was justified in the name of Christ. Michelle and I returned from India—an incredible, beautiful country, full of magnificent diversity—but a place where, in past years, religious faiths of all types have, on occasion, been targeted by other peoples of faith, simply due to their heritage and their beliefs—acts of intolerance that would have shocked [Mahatma Gandhi], the person who helped to liberate that nation.
So this is not unique to one group or one religion. There is a tendency in us, a sinful tendency that can pervert and distort our faith. In today's world, when hate groups have their own Twitter accounts and bigotry can fester in hidden places in cyberspace, it can be even harder to counteract such intolerance. But God compels us to try. And in this mission, I believe there are a few principles that can guide us, particularly those of us who profess to believe."
You can say its because of a global shift in consciousness, a destiny we have arrived at due to spiritual evolution, or the outcome of strange times, but, many people all across the globe are going through intense personal changes and sensing an expansion of consciousness. Personal changes of this magnitude can be difficult to recognize and to understand, but here are 21 traits of an awakening soul, a 'sensitive', or an 'empath.'
1. Being in public places is sometimes overwhelming. Since our walls between self and other are dissolving, we haven't really learned to distinguish between someone else's energy and our own. If the general mood of the crowd is herd-like or negative, we can feel this acutely, and may feel like retreating into our own private space. When we have recharged our batteries with meditation, spending time in nature, far away from other people, or just sitting in quiet contemplation, we are ready to be with the masses again. In personal relationships, we often will feel someone else's emotions as our own. It is important to have this higher sense of empathy, but we must learn to allow another person's emotions while observing them and keeping our empathy, but, realizing that not all emotions belong to us. Social influence can dampen our own innate wisdom.
2. We know things without having to intellectually figure them out. Often called intuitive awareness, we have 'a-ha' moments and insights that can explain some of the most complex theories or phenomenon in the world. Some of the most brilliant minds of our time just 'know.' Adepts and sages often were given downloads of information from higher states of consciousness after meditating or being in the presence of a more conscious individual; this is happening for more people with more frequency. As we trust our intuition more often, it grows stronger. This is a time of 'thinking' with our hearts more than our heads. Our guts will no longer be ignored. Our dreams are becoming precognitive and eventually our conscious thoughts will be as well.
3. Watching television or most of main stream media, including newspapers and many Hollywood movies is very distasteful to us. The mindset that creates much, but not all, of the programming on television and in cinema is abhorrent. It commodifies people and promotes violence. It reduces our intelligence and numbs our natural empathetic response to someone in pain.
4. Lying to us is nearly impossible. We may not know exactly what truth you are withholding, but we can also tell (with our developing intuition and ESP skills) that something isn't right. We also know when you have other emotions, pain, love, etc. that you aren't expressing. You're an open book to us. We aren't trained in counter-intelligence, we are just observant and knowing. While we may pick up on physical cues, we can look into your eyes and know what you are feeling.
5. We may pick up symptoms of your cold, just like men who get morning sickness when their wives are pregnant. Sympathy pains, whether emotional or physical, are something we experience often. We tend to absorb emotion through the solar plexus, considered the place we 'stomach emotion' so as we learn to strengthen this chakra center, we may sometimes develop digestive issues. Grounding to the earth can help to re-establish our emotional center. Walking barefoot is a great way to re-ground.
6. We tend to root for the underdog, those without voices, those who have been beaten down by the matrix, etc. We are very compassionate people, and these marginalized individuals often need more love. People can sense our loving hearts, so complete strangers will often tell us their life stories or approach us with their problems. While we don't want to be a dumping ground for everyone's issues, we are also a good ear for those working through their stuff.
7. If we don't learn how to set proper boundaries, we can get tired easily from taking on other people's emotions. Energy Vampires are drawn to us like flies to paper, so we need to be extra vigilant in protecting ourselves at times.
8. Unfortunately, sensitives or empaths often turn to drug abuse or alcohol to block some of their emotions and to 'protect' themselves from feeling the pain of others.
9. We are all becoming healers. We naturally gravitate toward healing fields, acupuncture, reiki, Qi-Gong, yoga, massage, midwivery, etc. are fields we often find ourselves in. We know that the collective needs to be healed, and so we try our best to offer healing in whatever form we are most drawn to. We also turn away from the 'traditional' forms of healing ourselves. Preferring natural foods, herbs, and holistic medicine as ways to cure every ailment.
10. We see the possibilities before others do. Just like when the church told Copernicus he was wrong, and he stood by his heliocentric theory, we know what the masses refuse to believe. Our minds are light-years ahead.
11. We are creative. We sing, dance, paint, invent, or write. We have amazing imaginations.
12. We require more solitude than the average person.
13. We might get bored easily, but we are really good at entertaining ourselves.
14. We have a difficult time doing things we don't want to do or don't really enjoy. We really do believe life was meant to be an expression of joy. Why waste it doing something you hate? We aren't lazy, we are discerning.
15. We are obsessed with bringing the truth to light. Like little children who say, "that's not fair" we want to right the wrongs of the world, and we believe it often just takes education. We endeavor to explain the unexplainable and find answers to the deep questions of life. We are seekers, in the Campbellian paradigm. 'The Hero With a Thousand Faces."
16. We can't keep track of time. Our imaginations often get away with us and a day can feel like a minute, a week, a day.
17. We abhor routine.
18. We often disagree with authority (for obvious reasons).
19. We will often be kind, but if you are egotistical or rude, we won't spend much time with you or find an excuse to not hang out with people who are obsessed with themselves. We don't 'get' people who are insensitive to other people's feelings or points of view.
20. We may be vegan or vegetarian because we can sense a certain energy of the food we eat, like if an animal was slaughtered inhumanely. We don't want to consume negative energy.
21. We wear our own emotions on our sleeves and have a hard time 'pretending' to be happy if we aren't. We avoid confrontation, But will quietly go about changing the world in ways you can't even see.
These 21 traits of an awakening soul are a reminder of how important it is to maintain awareness, clarity and strength in these interesting times. If you are experiencing something that is not on this list, please add it to the comments section below.
You came here for a reason, didn't you?
You can feel it in the depths of your being.
Your life is inconceivably meaningful. You arrived on Earth for a purpose. What that purpose is, you have to uncover (and create) yourself. It's an epic quest from cradle to grave, and that's what makes life worth living.
There is a deep yearning within everyone for that deep-seated sense of purpose. When people know what it is, they become an unstoppable force. Absolutely nothing can stand between them and the manifestation of their destiny.
How do you reveal your life's purpose? I can't tell you exactly how, as it's incredibly distinct from person-to-person, but I can provide you with the tools for you to guide yourself along your journey. And your purpose isn't static either. It may very well change and evolve throughout the course of your life. Heraclitus hit the nail on the head when he said "No man steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man."
Ask... And you shall receive...
Here are 15 questions to ask yourself, which will set you in the direction of your life's purpose:
1. What gives me energy?
Activities that align with your purpose will energize you. On the other hand, activities that don't resonate with your essence will drain you. Be aware and use your energy level as a guide.
2. What excites me?
This is a better question than the lukewarm "What am I passionate about?" Excitement is easily discernible for anyone. And the funny thing is that you find out what you're passionate about simply by being mindful of what excites you.
"The question you should be asking isn't, "What do I want?" or "What are my goals?" but "What would excite me?" – Tim Ferriss
3. What kind of ideas come to me in the shower?
The shower is probably the most relaxing part of your day-to-day life. Inspiration strikes when you're relaxed, as that's when you're most receptive. So be aware of what kind of inspiration comes to you while you're gettin' so fresh and so clean.
4. What kind of things do people always ask me about?
What kind of advice do others seek from you? This is indicative of the value you can potentially provide to the world at large.
5. What kind of conversations do I have with those closest to me?
What subject matter do you immerse yourself in with loved ones? What information do you share with the people you care about most? What do you talk about when you're being your true self?
6. What do I do with my free time?
Actions dictate where priorities lie.
7. What topics do I regularly read about?
An obvious way to shine light on your biggest interests.
8. What recurring dreams do I have?
The themes of your dreams will reveal a lot about your subconscious. Search the meaning of dreams to get a better grasp on the esoteric wisdom being conveyed.
9. During which experiences in my life have I felt the most alive?
A different spin on following your excitement.
10. What unique interests, or abilities, did I have as a young child?
If you're memory is fuzzy, ask your parents for more clarity. This question will reveal a lot about your inherent abilities and your interests prior to societal conditioning.
11. What would I be doing if money were no object?
12. What would I be doing if I absolutely, 100%, did not care about what other people think?
Like the question about money, it's important to ask yourself what you would be doing if there were no limitations. If you were completely free, what would you do?
13. What is on my bucket list?
What is most important to you? What things, when achieved, will create that deep sense of fulfillment within you? These will most certainly guide you toward your purpose.
14. What topics can I blend together to create my own unique niche?
How can you commix multiple subjects to create your own unique mosaic of life? A great example that James Altucher used was someone who loves both basketball and statistics. If they don't make it to the NBA (which will be the vast majority of people), they can blend their interests of basketball and statistics to create their own unique amalgamation of mastery.
15. If I were to write a short (1-2 sentence) "About Me", describing the ideal version of myself, what would it be?
I've been asking myself these questions repeatedly for some time now. What have they revealed so far? Well, all signs point to writing and poetry being a major part of my life purpose (for this chapter of my life, at least). Why? Because I'm fascinated by the intricacies of the English language. I also have a sick obsession with super-lyrical hip-hop (like this) and a burning desire to read, like all of the books in the world are about to get the Library of Alexandria treatment. Plus, the act of writing itself excites me. That's why I'm able to practice every day, sparking new ideas and catalyzing continuous improvement. Combine that with my vast array of additional interests (health, fitness, spirituality, meditation, philosophy, psychology, self-improvement, history, lifehacking, hiking, travel and cooking, to name a few) and I have a staggering stockpile of raw material to distill into digestible poetry and prose. I figured out that everything I enjoy "absorbing" contributes to the skill of writing. So that's why I do what I do.
Consistently ask yourself these revelatory questions and you will uncover your life purpose, as well as help bring it to fruition.
With more power than your mind conceives
You came here for a reason
You are a healer, believe
Earth is calling for a new season
Instate this miraculous age
Create a spectacular page
In the book of love and life
Lightheartedly rise above the strife
For your essence is essential
Please, step into your true potential
Have fun on your quest called life.
Well because everyone is talking about it of course!
studentgroupIf you consider yourself "awakened" and aware of what's really happening on the planet, you're ready for a major change. Who doesn't want to shift from this negatively charged way of living?
We are thrusted into a life where we're told to act within the existing limits of normality. Don't question authority, live within the two gender models, pay for your education to work a unsatisfactory job, don't freak out about the fact we are so disconnected from the earth, and from each other.
Coming together and talking about the issues is the first step in manifesting the solution – but we need to act on our ideas. This shift doesn't come from just writing articles like this then continuing on in life. It comes from creating spaces around the world people can gather to live off grid and from the earth, like we're suppose to.
Our existing governmental systems have proven failure.
When we get down to our core, no one wants war. Everyone wants to exist within love, its our natural state of being. Our lineage has lived in a paradigm of fear and conformity, where they assumed segregation and discrimination was the way to live life, simply because they were born into it. Tools like the internet have allowed for a global awakening in seeing the truth of what is really going on.
Recent polls show that only 29% percent of Americans are in favour of air strikes in Syria. All the unnecessary acts of our 'protective' military happen without any real consent from the rest of the world.
It is in favour of the few, and continually sets us back in establishing a connection with one another while keeping us in a state of fear. We are all our own governors that can work together in a new system of gratitude and honesty, we just need to act like it.
Experiences of 'contact events'.
This topic is scary and unbelievable to some, and a completely casual, daily occurrence for others. It depends on your belief system and what you allow to manifest in your life. It is becoming apparent that we are much more than our physical 3D bodies.
People around the world are having interactions with – essentially just different forms of manifested energy that we call aliens, angels, spirits, higher selves, source or God.
Humanity is realizing its true potential, which is still quite scary to some. Earth is an incredibly special planet that is garnering a lot of attention from different consciousnesses in our universe. The radical shift that is taking place here, emits a lot of energy that radiates throughout space.
There is still a grand number of people who close up their belief system when these ideas are brought up. And who wouldn't? Overlord draconians, hive mind grey aliens? We still exist in the paradigm of 'that's impossible' when of course, we are the creators of this reality, we have just forgotten.
synchronicityThese are happening at the smallest scales, and its up to us to notice them. It is important to not dismiss something as a coincidence because nothing is just a random act. Something that happens to me a lot is I'll be listening to a song or something with dialogue and if I drift off in thought for moment, I'll always say a word in my head at the exact time it's said in the song.
It's small, and easily overlooked but I know those moments heighten my awareness because I physically feel lighter and often make new connections in my mind. In the moment of seeing the time at 11:11, that number represents whatever you make it.
When I see that time its a reminder of the awakening of the consciousness, and in that moment sometimes new ideas or ways of perceiving those ideas are brought into my awareness. The importance lies within seeing the bigger picture, and being reminded we are part of a much larger story that we are all writing.
The state of the world is disintegrating
collapse-what-did-you-expect-There are a plethora of ways to view the idea of 'the world ending'. It's really just shifting to a new beginning, and we are in the process of creating what type of beginning that will be. The urgency of this isn't easily seen because if you run out on the street, the roads aren't crumbling and people aren't running for their lives.
We can't envision a global collapse because it still seems like a distant, unreachable thought that we keep pushing away.
Really, we are at the precipice of our manifestations on earth and there is no more time to keep living how we are. Why are we still using oil, having radiation pumped out, rapidly burning away our resources, then acting like this can continue for 10 more years? The real shift into this new paradigm will take place when there's no more buffer time to keep putting these issues off. In the moments of true darkness, we will become the light.
In the end, there's no need to be scared, we are eternal beings and everything is light and love. The point is we are defining what it truly means to live in a world of love and light. It is the process of everyone connecting to manifest a reality where we remember we are in control. We are the creators and we need to remember this before life on earth- within the third dimension is not possible.
What would you do if all you had was five dollars to your name or in your wallet? What would you do if someone asked you for a portion of that five dollars or all of it? How would you feel releasing the only money that you have? Another question is, is it really all you have?
As a child I witnessed my family struggle with money, it always seemed that there was never enough. I remember a cold and grey morning in New Jersey where my parents were upset and my mother crying because our car had been repossessed. I never quite understood the lack, because we had food on our table and clothes on our back, however there always lingered a sense of scarcity in our home and in our hearts. Being that I saw my parents struggle with their relationship to money, I inherited the same sort of attitude as a young adult, and found myself struggling to pay bills or acquire a job that payed enough to support my lifestyle and endeavors. Over time, I realized that we all possess the inherent ability to manifest exactly what we need or want in life. It did not require struggle as I perceived it, but a shift in the way I think, speak, and relate to myself and the world. It also required trust and faith in something much larger than myself.
One's relationship to money is directly linked to our ability to manifest its abundance in our lives and although it does not carry the means to our ultimate happiness and fulfillment in life, it does help. For it is not the root of all evil, but a symbol of energy exchange. A physical representation of the energy we give and receive, its presence in our lives can transform what was once a simple thought or dream into reality. It is a tool of creation and can be used for good and evil, however you wish to perceive it. If we believe in a world where there is not enough, then that is the universe we live in. Constantly struggling to get what we need and want, with never enough to help others along the way, because there's not even enough for ourselves. In an article called Ending Poverty Consciousness by Jeanie Marshall, she defines poverty consciousness as "being a set of [attitudes, beliefs, feelings, and values] associated with material lack or fear of material lack. Poverty consciousness equals a belief in limitation, and almost always includes fear." It is our own thoughts that create the world around us, and if we wish to change the world, start by changing the way you think about it.
As we think about ways to redefine the structure of our inner workings, we begin to see where we place our faith. Is it in money or possessions? Is it in ourselves? In God? In the future? In the present moment? In what see or cannot see? Can we build trust in the notion that the universe is waiting to fulfill our every need? Or will we continuously entertain the crippling idea that when X,Y, and Z are in place only then can we achieve our dreams.
We live in a world that will support your every creation, whether it's not having enough or having everything you need and more. As we expand our consciousness towards love and gratitude, we recognize that there is more than enough for everything and everyone. In fact, we work to bring this sort of abundance to those around us as we are showered with infinite support and blessings.
Surely, we all live within different circumstances and it can be said that what some can achieve others cannot, for whatever reason. This may be true, and given how diverse the world is I truly empathize and understand how limitations are simply a part of the grand picture. However, if we look within and question the architecture of our own fundamental beliefs, values, and ideas we open ourselves to an infinite realm of possibility. Sometimes we must journey beyond what we know to serve creation, and it can be frightening, we may even be harshly judged for our commitment to growth and freedom, but that is our choice. So, the next time we are faced with the opportunity to live in full trust and faith, remember there is enough for you and me and everyone we love. To live with that sort of magic in one's life brings about miracles and reestablishes goodness in the world and in our hearts. The time is NOW, the opportunity is HERE, and LOVE is all around us.
Lifmatter where we stand on the spectrum it's completely unnecessary.
An alternative view: Chances are the person you're concerned about judging you, is too concerned with how they believe you to be judging them to even take notice of what you're self-conscious about. Focus on being the truest version of yourself and not a fake "safe" version that minimizes your chances of being perceived poorly.
4. That was all luck
You finally have something good happen in your life and you choose to chalk it up to luck rather than give yourself credit. Law of attraction stuff aside, I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. I'm not suggesting that you become a credit hog, but stop casting great experiences aside to the pessimistic luck pile.
An alternative view: You play a bigger role in the life you live and what happens to you than you think, so accept the good experiences and let them further motivate you to keep pushing forward.
5. I'll do it tomorrow
Tomorrow is the day that everything changes. It's the day I start going to gym regularly. It's the day I get going on that diet. It's the day I start writing my book. The only thing it has a tendency to actually be is the day that never comes.
An alternative view: Make tomorrow today and take control of the life you live. Accomplishing goals is a process, but the only way you'll get there is by actually starting the process.
6. I need my partner to complete me
Relationships can be a wonderful experience, but they aren't the experience that dictates the life you live, YOU dictate the life you live. If you aren't in a relationship, a view that you need a relationship to feel complete and happy will more than likely further cripple you from finding it. If you're in a relationship and you feel that it is what completes you, that's quite the house of cards to be standing on -especially given the overall global trend in relationship longevity.
An alternative view: See relationships as an extension to the human experience and not the basis of the human experience. Work on your relationship with yourself, it'll be the greatest gift you can give to any other relationships you may have.
7. I can't do anything big, I'm just one person in a very big world
We all want to change the world, but when it comes to actually doing it most of us belittle ourselves at the seeming size of the mountain to be climbed. We feel that the peak can only be reached with thousands of others by our side, therefore there is no point trying at all.
An alternative view: Everything you see in front of you started as an idea, an idea that was hatched by one individual -an individual that decided to do something about it. Did they more than likely receive the help and support of dozens of others along the way? Most likely. But those others only showed up because they were willing to take the first step. Stop waiting for all your cards to fall into place before taking action, you need to start with what you have to even give the cards a reason to show up.
8. I'll never get over that
Life experiences can certainly be very traumatic, and through this I'm not suggesting that we completely let go and forget all that has happened to us. What I am referring to are the smaller instances that we choose to blow up and let forever taint how we view or treat another -and in some cases the level to which we trust the entire world. An example would be that a former partner of yours once cheated on you, because of that you will now forever treat them like shit, see the person they did it with as "easy" and now be even more guarded and non-trusting towards all future partners -even though they had absolutely nothing to do with it.
An alternative view: See everything for the lesson that it provided and grow from it. Let go of whoever you need to let go of, but don't carry the baggage of how you see them as purse everywhere you go. Treat every new experience exactly for what it is: a new experience.
9. My family has been doing it that way for years
Traditions can be great, but in the same breath certain traditions can also be quite limiting and comical. To help illustrate this I'm going to use an infamous little story:
It was Thanksgiving and a husband asked his wife why she was cutting the ends off of a perfectly good roast before placing it in the oven. She replied "my mother always did it this way." Curious, the man went to ask his mother-in-law why she cut the ends off of the roast. She replied "because my mother always did it that way." Luckily, his mother-in-law's mother was still alive so he went to go ask her why she cut the ends off of the roast, to which she replied, "because I didn't have a big enough pan to fit the entire thing."
An alternative view: Rather than blindly accepting all traditions, truly look at them for what they are and determine whether or not they still make sense to upkeep. The world is changing, imagine how much quicker it'll change if we start to think more critically and make our own decisions.
10. I was born that way
This statement is far too often used as a badge of honour and a badge of shame. We use it to boast about certain skills or talents we may have had for as long as we can remember. We also use it to justify our shortcomings. Aside from certain physical attributes -body augmentation aside -there is very little that we cannot change about ourselves, we just don't give ourselves a chance to.
An alternative view: View life based on the moment rather than the accumulation of all of your past experiences. You may have developed certain tendencies and character traits that have been re-enforced by years of portraying and believing them, but they can be shifted. Many of you may disagree with this, but I don't think any of us are actually born stubborn for example, we're all just born cute and malleable to become whatever life shapes us into.
What are your thoughts on these 10 beliefs? I'm sure there are bound to be at least a couple that you disagree with. Feel free to share your views and any ideas for others that could have been included via the comment section below.
e is a complicated journey filled with joy, hardship and everything in between. As much as the things that happen to us are inherently the way that they are, I believe that we determine to what extent they affect us. We determine how much of a "pick me up" or roadblock they're going to be, and it's often the beliefs that come with each experience that play a deciding role. Beliefs that -for the most part -we seem to have widely accepted as a collective.
As we begin a new year, we often set for ourselves -myself included -a series of goals or life changes that we would like to accomplish or implement over the course of this calendar year. In hopes of helping you accomplish that which you are striving for, here are 10 things I feel we need to stop believing:
1. Life is hard
How many times have you gone through an experience that in the moment of it seemed like the end of the world, only later to be something that you moved on and learned something from -in some cases were even grateful for? Life may have its hard moments but it is not inherently hard, unless you believe it to be. The genuinely hard moments will be enough to gratify your need for a challenge, there is no need to make minor bumps into hard times as well.
An alternative view: Life is a roller coaster in which we determine how smooth or intense it gets. There may be some built-in steep drops, but an expectation for the ride to be filled with them will do nothing but create an unnecessarily way more intense ride. Take a breath and take in each moment before reacting to it.
2. They have it easy
Comparison. It's something we all do and often don't like to admit. We gauge our own lives based on how we perceive the lives of others to be, often mocking the simplicity another has to deal with. Just like most would never be able to truly understand your experience, never will you be able to properly understand theirs, so stop preoccupying yourself with it.
An alternative view: Rather than complaining, focus on your own life and figure out what works best for your unique situation.
3. They think I'm __________
This one goes hand in hand with number two, and together they can make one disgusting couple. We are all self-conscious to varying degrees and no
The Monkey is lively, likable and witty. Highly sociable, the Monkey is talkative and, as a fascinating conversationalist, he attracts a wide circle of friends. People born under this influence have an innately low boredom threshold. Inquisitive in the extreme and forever believing that the grass is greener elsewhere, they need to find continual stimulation to keep themselves interested and amused. However, often Monkeys are too clever for their own good and can be mettlesome, opportunistic, and unscrupulous to the point of being tricky and manipulative. This is because Monkey types possess acute psychological perspicacity which enables them to read people like books. In particular, women under the Monkey influence can play rather subtle games with members of the opposite sex. And although Monkeys give the impression of getting on fabulously with everybody, this great rapport is often nothing but a ruse -- Monkeys are in fact egotistical and selfish. They tend to be lazy, concentrating on small matters while ignoring more important issues. They ignore obstacles, finding them beneath their consideration.
Playful, even obliging at times, the Monkey hides the poor opinion he has of others beneath his apparent friendliness. He distrusts people born under any other sign and considers himself to be superior to all of them. He has plenty of intelligence and a fantastic ability to pull the wool over people's eyes. He is so artful that he can even fool the Dragon -- who is strong, stubborn, and no fool himself -- and resist the magnetism of the Tiger, whom he teases unmercifully.
Monkeys are highly adaptable and versatile. Enthusiastic about everything, they spend their time broadening their minds and are especially fascinated with art. They like refinement, originality and luxury. Inventive and intelligent, those born in these years can solve most problems quickly and skillfully, and are able to accomplish much in business. Monkeys shamelessly acknowledge their attraction to money. They quickly assimilate facts and figures, picking up new skills and techniques almost instantaneously. In business it is their opportunism coupled with their keen competitive instinct that gives them an eye for that tiny opening into which only Monkeys can insinuate themselves. Once they have instilled themselves, it is their ability to turn their hands to anything that will bring them ultimate success and, in many cases, even make their fortune.
The Monkey can succeed in any profession. Politics, diplomacy, industry, trade -- none of them will have any secrets from him. He can try anything and anything will work, especially if he has been fortunate enough to have a higher education. Though the renowned adaptability of the Monkey personality takes those born under this sign into a variety of occupations, many will naturally gravitate towards show business. This is because Monkey-born people have a compelling need to be noticed. Unfortunately, because they are such audacious people and care very little about their reputations, it does not matter much to them whether the impression they create is one of pleasure or of shock. It is simply a case of the more publicity they can generate around themselves, the happier they are.
The first part of the Monkey's life will be happy. The second will be upset and confused and his plans will often miscarry. Once attaining a ripe old age, the Monkey will increasingly enjoy a simple, everyday life.
Under the influence of the Water element, he is placid and reliable, with a cool, collected nature, expansive and given to disinterested acts of charity. He is quiet in his demands for admiration and appreciation, but will sulk and become insolent if it not forthcoming. He is likely to be intellectual and well-read, honest, straightforward and achieves distinction through his thoroughness and devotion to duty. He may not be fond of entertaining for its own sake, but will be kind and loving to those he cares about.
On May 21, Jesse Robinson either established or tied the unofficial world record for unluckiest underage drinker of all time when he was booked into the Hamilton County, Ohio, jail for underage consumption. According to booking records, Robinson's date of birth is May 22, 1990. [HamiltonCountyJails.info, 5-23-2011]
Government in Action!
"Common sense lost its voice on this one," concluded a Wethersfield, Conn., city councilman, lamenting the local school board's having spent at least $630,000 to "resolve" an ethics complaint against the board's chairwoman -- all because her son had improperly taken a $400 high school course for free. The town's ethics board conducted more than 60 hours of hearings over 11 months, incurring $407,000 in legal expenses, and finally voted, 3-2, to uphold the complaint. (However, the ethics board ordered only that the chairwoman reimburse the $400; the school board then voted to pay all her legal expenses.) [Hartford Courant, 6-10-2011]
In June, as five young men gathered around the Mount Tabor Reservoir near Portland, Ore., one urinated in it, thus "contaminating" the 7.2 million gallons that serve the city, and, said Water Bureau administrator David Shaff, necessitating that the entire supply be dumped. Under questioning by the weekly Portland Mercury whether the water is also dumped when an animal urinates in it (or worse, dies in it), Shaff replied, certainly not. "If we did that, we'd be (dumping the water) all the time." Well, asked the reporter, what's the difference? Because, said Shaff (sounding confident of his logic), "Do you want to be drinking someone's pee?" [Portland Mercury, 6-15-2011]
Gregory Snelling, 41, was indicted in June for the robbery of a KeyBank branch in Springfield, Ohio, which was notable more for the foot chase with police afterward. They caught him, but Snelling might deserve "style" points for the run, covered as he was in red dye from the money bag and the fact that he was holding a beer in his hand during the entire chase. [Springfield News-Sun, 6-15-2011]
Least Competent Non-Criminals
In May, in Rensselaer, N.Y., and in June, in Bluefield, W.Va., two men, noticing that police were investigating nearby, became alarmed and fled out of fear of being arrested since both were certain that there were active warrants out on them. Nicholas Volmer, 21, eventually "escaped" into the Hudson River and needed to be rescued, but the police were after someone else, and no warrant was on file against him. Arlis Dempsey Jr., 32, left his three kids on the street in Bluefield to make a run for it before police caught him, but he was not wanted for anything, either. (Both men, however, face new charges -- trespassing for Volmer, and child endangerment for Dempsey.) [Times Union (Albany), 5-5-2011] [Bluefield Daily Telegraph, 6-17-2011]
People sometimes have illicit sex in cemeteries, and when they get really aggressive, tombstones may fall over on top of them. (A randy 39-year-old woman was injured in Hamilton, N.J., in June after a gravestone rolled onto her leg at the Ahavath Israel Cemetery.) [Trenton Times, 6-2-2011]
Motorists who stop along the side of the road at night to relieve themselves are often not careful enough. (In May, a specialty unit from the Renton, Wash., Fire Department was required in order to rescue a urinator who accidentally fell down a 30-foot embankment in south King County and was trapped for several hours.) [Seattle Post-Intelligencer, 5-30-2011]