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FORGIVE:
There is a difference between saying the words "I'm sorry" and actually "being sorry". If you are actually sorry for what it is you are apologizing for, wouldn't make sense to not do it again?
The point of apologizing to admit wrong doing. If you admit that what you did was wrong, then it would behoove you to not do it again. Why? Because you just admitted it was wrong.
People abuse the words "I'm sorry". They tend to only say it to get themselves out of a sling. They are getting read the riot act, and don't want to deal with it. So they say those words to get the other person to shut up. Which is way they turn around and do the very same thing they just apologized for, again.
If you're going to apologize, then mean it. Don't just say it to avoid dealing with the consequences of your actions. Forgiveness does not negate consequence.
How "sorry" are you if you are just going to turn around and do the very thing you just apologized for all over again?
1. The plan is not a government takeover of health care like in Canada or Britain. The government will not take over hospitals or other privately run health care businesses. Doctors will not become government employees, like in Britain. And the U.S. government intends to help people buy insurance from private insurance companies, not pay all the bills like the single-payer system in Canada. The key parts of the current U.S. system -- employer-provided insurance, Medicare for the elderly, Medicaid for the poor -- would stay in place. The government would create health insurance exchanges for people who have to buy insurance on their own, so they could more easily compare plans and prices.
2. Insurance companies will be regulated more heavily. They will be told the minimum services they must cover, including preventive care. They will have to pay out a certain percentage of premiums for patient care. By 2014, when the exchanges open, insurers won't be able to deny customers for pre-existing conditions.
3. Everyone will have to have health insurance or pay a fine, a requirement known as the individual mandate. The government intends to cap premiums for people who make below a certain income. For people who buy insurance on the exchanges, a family of four making $88,000 would have a cap of 9.5 percent of their income. Lower incomes would have lower caps. The fine for not having insurance would be a minimum of $695 per person per year, with exemptions for financial hardship and other special cases.
4. Employers will not be required to buy insurance for their employees, but large employers may be subject to fines if they don't provide insurance. But Congress wanted to encourage employers, especially large employers, to offer insurance. So they created a fine for employers with more than 50 workers: If those employees buy insurance on the exchanges and qualify for a low-income credit from the government, then the employer would have to pay a fine. Fines are calculated based on number of employees; for large firms, the fines could be significant.
5. The vast majority of people will not see significant declines in premiums. When President Obama talks about premiums going down, he usually means they won't go up as much as they would otherwise. For the 4-out-of-5 who get their insurance through their employer, the savings would land in the 0 to 3 percent range by 2016, according to the nonpartisan Congressional Budget Office, or CBO. People who buy insurance on their own, but who don't qualify for government subsidies, could actually see their premiums rise by as much as 10 to 13 percent, but that's largely because they'll be getting beefed-up policies that would pay for more basic services, especially preventive care. Low-income people who qualify for new credits to buy insurance would see the biggest drops.
6. The plan might or might not bend the curve on health spending. Critics say there aren't enough provisions to reduce waste or fraud, but Democrats say they're not being given enough credit for new cost-saving pilot programs that could be rapidly expanded. The most recent estimate of the plan, released Thursday by the CBO, said that it would spend $940 billion over 10 years. But new taxes, penalties and cost savings would offset that spending, according to the CBO, so that overall the plan pay for itself, dropping the deficit by slightly $138 billion over 10 years. Obama has said the plan will save more than $1 trillion in the second 10 years, but that estimate, according to the CBO, is highly speculative.
7. The government-run Medicare program will keep paying medical bills for seniors, but it will begin implementing cost controls on health care providers, mostly through penalties and incentives. The legislation would reduce payments for hospital-acquired infections or preventable hospital admissions. For Medicare Advantage, the federal government intends to reduce extra payments, taking away subsidies to private insurance companies. Insurers will likely cut benefits in order to not lose profits. The bill does not address the "doctor's fix," an expected proposal that Congress usually passes to prevent doctor's Medicare payments from severe cuts.
8. Medicaid, a joint federal-state program for the poor, will cover all of the poor, instead of just a few groups the way it currently does. Right now, to qualify for Medicaid, a person has to be poor and also disabled, elderly, pregnant or a child. Under the new plan, all poor adults would qualify.
9. The government won't pay for elective abortions. But under the Senate plan, people will be able to buy insurance that covers abortion on the new health insurance exchanges, as long as the insurance company pays for the services with patient premiums, not taxpayer subsidies. Medicaid has an exemption for cases of rape, incest, or the life of the mother.
10. No one is proposing new benefits for illegal immigrants. Some House members had hoped that illegal immigrants would be able to buy insurance with their own money through the new exchanges, but that now appears unlikely.
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Sources:Thomas, H.R. 4872 - Reconciliation Act of 2010, accessed March 18, 2010
Thomas, H.R. 3590 - Health care overhaul, Senate version, accessed March 18, 2010
The U.S. House of Representatives Committee on Rules, H.R. 4872 - Reconciliation Act of 2010, accessed March 18, 2010
Congressional Budget Office, H.R. 4872, Reconciliation Act of 2010, March 18, 2010
Democratic Policy Committee, The Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act
Researchers: Robert Farley, Angie Drobnic Holan, Louis Jacobson, Catharine Richert
Let me start off by saying that I do not condone lieing in anyway. I concider lieing an insult to a persons intelligence. Here is why.
When you lie to some one, you basically are saying "You are to dumb to figure out the truth." I mean if you believed the person WAS smart enough to figure out the truth, would you lie to them?? Of course not. what would be the point?
Now on to "lies of omission". Here is how the dictionary defines a lie-
"1. a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood."
If you ask me something, and everything I tell you in my answer is the truth, then I did not lie to you. If I didn't include every minute detail, that doesn't mean I lied to you. It means I didn't give you every particular detail. By the very definition of the word, that is not a lie.
Can ommiting details be deceptive and/or manipulative? Of course. But that plays more into the intent of the person who has ommited those certain details in their answer to you.
just becasue I didn't answer the question to your satisfaction does not mean I lied to you. It means you did not get the answer you wanted, and now want to hang it over my head. So you use the term "lie of omission." Which is a oxymoron.
Just something to think about the next time you don't get the answer you want.
Think of your heart like a emotional bank account. Just like a financial bank account, if you remove more than you have, you suffer consequences for it.
For example, you can't take out 100.00 from an account that only has 50.00. You will be come over drawn and suffer penalties until you balance out your account.
Now the same thing goes for your emotional bank account. If you keep giving out emotionally and either don't let people put back into your account or let people withdraw from your emotional bank account without them putting something back, you will be come emotionally bankrupt.
The penalties for emotional bankruptcy are anger, self loathing, depression, resentment ,and finally you just shut down emotionally.
You don't want to be around any one. You don't feel good about yourself. You start to feel taken advantage of.
The only way to avoid the penalties of emotional bankruptcy is to not give out more than you have in your "account", and to not let the people in your life just take from your account with out investing something back into it. Just seomthing to think about.
"I'm not a shrink on T.V., but I play one in real life."
Some people have no sense of emotional self preservation. They keep getting involved in the same situations and with the same types of people. Then when the same painful results happen, they can't seem to figure out why "it happened again."
A monkey poking a termite mound looking for food will only poke for so long before its sense of self preservation kicks in and says "hey there is nothing here. I am wasting my energy. I need to stop doing this and try something else."
But there are some people who don't have that part of themselves. Some tend to ignore it because they realize they have invested so much energy into that person or situation, that to stop would mean having to admit they made a mistake.
Some are so dead set on getting what they want, that the thought of it not being found with said person or in said situation is not a acceptable answer. They will keep poking at it until they get what they want. Even if everyone around them tells them it's not there.
It isn't what they want to hear, so the keep plugging away at it. Then they wonder why they keep getting hurt.
You have common sense for a reason. Use it.
And as for the enevitable cliche' "Common sense isn't common", that isn't true. It's the use of common sense that isn't common.
Stop complaining about the same thing day after day. Month after month.If it's bad enough to complain about, then it is bad enough to take action to change the situation.
IF WHAT IM ABOUT TO SAY PISSES YOU OFF OR PLUCKS A NERVE IN YOUR CONSCIENCE, DO NOT BLAME ME. HOW ABOUT TAKING SOME PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR A CHANGE AND ASKING YOURSELF WHY WHAT I SAID MADE YOU MAD. INSTEAD OF GETTING MAD AT ME FOR SAYING IT.
IM SICK OF YOU CLAIMING ME AS YOUR BEST FRIEND AND ADMIRING MY ADVICE AND HONESTY WHEN ITS ON YOUR SIDE.
BUT AS SOON AS I DONT TAKE YOUR SIDE IM THE ASSHOLE. THATS NOT FAIR. I RESPECT YOU ENOUGH TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH EVEN WHEN ITS GANNA PISS YOU OFF.
IF YOURE MAD AT ME FOR TELLING YOU THE TRUTH, GET OVER IT. ITS BETTER THAN HAVING YOU MAD AT ME FOR LYING TO YOU.
SEEMS LATELY IM EITHER PISSING YOU OFF. GETTING SHUT OUT OR SNUBBED. OR I ONLY HEAR FROM "MY FRIENDS" WHEN YOU HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO. OR WHEN THE ONE YOU WANT TO PAY ATTENTION TO DO YOU DOESNT. SO YOU COME TO ME WHEN THEY ARE IGNORING YOU. EXPECTING ME TO FILL THE VOID. THEN AS SOON AS THAT PERSON COMES BACK AROUND. YOURE GONE AGAIN.
IF YOURE MY FRIEND, THEN BE MY FRIEND 24/7. NOT JUST WHEN YOU WANT TO. NOT JUST WHEN ITS CONVENIENT. NOT JUST WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE IT. THERE ARE ALOT OF YOU THAT CALL OR TEXT ME @ ALL HOURS OF THE DAY/NIGHT WHEN YOU DECIDE YOU NEED ME. AND THATS NOT THE ISSUE.
THE ISSUE IS WHEN DO I GET TO HAVE A ME FOR ME? WHEN DO I GET TO HAVE THE KIND OF FRIEND I AM TO EVERYONE ELSE?
AM I BEING SELFISH? YOUR DAMN RIGHT I AM! AND THE ONLY REASON IT PISSES YOU OFF IS BECAUSE IM CALLING YOU OUT AND YOU DONT HAVE THE GUTS TO TAKE RESPONSIBLITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS.
THIS DOESNT JUST APPLY TO ONE PERSON. AND IF IT STRIKES A NERVE THEN YOUR BEST BET IS TO ASSUME IT APPLIES TO YOU. IF IT DIDNT YOU WOULDNT HAVE GOTTEN THE GUILTY CONSCIENCE. YOU CANT FEEL GUILTY IF YOU DONT BELIEVE YOUR WRONG. ITS CALLED COMMON SENSE. ITS NOT MY FAULT YOU DONT USE IT. DELETE ME. TELL ME YOU DONT WANT TO SPEAK TO ME. WALK OUT ON ME. ITS CALLED SEPARATEING THE CHAFF FROM THE WHEAT. THOSE LEFT BY MY SIDE ARE THE ONLY ONE I GIVE A DAMN ABOUT. IF YOUR NOT ONE OF THEM, THEM IM BETTER OFF WITH OUT YOU
You've got a thin line between Heaven and Hell
You make it easy to cross 'cause you hide it so well
You're so sketchy with the games you play
You drag men by the heart in your own special way
To you breaking the rules seems fair
As long as you get what you want, you just don't care
You smile so sweet as you watch them falling
Breaking hearts is your true calling
This is your game, so lets play by your rules
But I'm telling you know darlin', I am nobodys fool
I know your motives and I know them well
You've got a thin line between Heaven and Hell
Ok first, let it be known that this blog is about the actions of certain women, not all. And it isn't directed to a specific woman. With that disclaimer, riddle me this.
Ever see profiles of women who post suggestive or nude pictures of themselves and then add "I'm married/have a boyfriend so don't ask me if I want to hook up"? You get the general idea. They post these pictures and then proceed to tell the men who are looking at her posing half naked (or completely) they aren't allowed to hit on her or have her. And then they will also proceed to complain that they are getting "scumbags" writing them. The common argument is these pictures are "art". And yes she may intend for the pictures to be art. But intent and interpretation aren't the same thing. One mans art is another mans porn. Further more if you're married or have a boyfriend, then the following question deserves to be asked. If your heart belongs to your man, doesn't the rest of you come along with that?
Then there is the air of "false advertising." You post pictures that are of a suggestive nature or even nude, knowing that these pictures are going to appeal to a man's hormones, and then chastise him for responding as such? If you aren't going to give it to the guy, or he isn't allowed to have it, then don't advertise it. Look at it like this, you go into Mc Whatevers and they are advertising a burger, yet you aren't allowed to have it. What purpose does it serve to advertise the goods if they aren't available?
As for the art/porn debate. If I pull out a picture of a naked woman from Hustler, it's porn. Yet if I pull out another picture of a naked woman, it's art. Women, do you honestly think a guy who buys magazines of naked women won't see your pictures on your profiles (fUBAR or any site for that matter) and have the same thoughts as he does when he is going through the magazines? How honest with yourself are you being? One is marketed as "porn". The other as "art." To the majority of the worlds' male populous, a naked woman is a naked woman. They will see no difference between the picture of you partially or fully unclothed, and the porn star posing in a magazine.
In closing, let me leave you with this.
If you are willing to deal with the fact that your "artful" pictures will not always be perceived as art, and to deal with all that curtails, then more power to you. But if for example, a white man decides to run through Harlem, screaming the N word and is adult enough to accept that there may be negative responses to his actions, then go for it. But if not, he shouldn't complain that he got shot. Personal accountability can only be passed off for so long.
Let's see.....
1.) I am a total klutz. It's why God put me in a wheelchair. To save me from myself.
2.) I've been told I "make to much sense".
3.) People call me wise alot. For the record I'm not wise. Just because you didn't think of it the way I explain it, doesn't make me wise. The advice I give is as much common sense to me as grass being green. I don't get the beaming light from the heavens shining down on me, bathing me with "wisdom". I speak what I believe to be common sense. No more no less.
4.) I do not have a "type" of woman I prefer. My reasons of attraction to any given woman are as unique as the woman that I am attracted too.
5.) I am an "honest flirt." I will not flirt with a woman who I am not attracted too. Nor will return flirting with a woman I am not attracted to, who might be flirting with me. So if you are flirting with me and I flirt back, it is for a reason. and if I don't flirt with you, well you figure it out....
6.) Give me a good 20 minute conversation, and I will tell you things about who you are as a person and why you are that way. Even if I had no obvious way of knowing. Some of my friends and readers can testify to that skill.
7.) I do not believe in "lies of omission". If I don't tell you the opposite of the truth, then I didn't lie. If I didn't volunteer information, that is not lieing..
8.) Even though I am a poet, I am not a fan of the classics. Yet my life rule is "To thine ownself be true." Hey just because I can't get into the mans' work, that doesn't mean I haven't tried too.
