I've given a lot of thought to my passion for white women, I've dissected it, run from it, hidden it away, let it go, cursed myself and ultimately gave it up - out of a desire to not be seen as a sell-out, race traitor or self-hating uncle tom.
Black People are still under siege in this country. You'd have to be near dumb, deaf and blind not to perceive and understand that. My work in Social Justice and Nonviolence is critically important to changing that and I'll never abandon my cause. Even in my profession I work to uplift the children of color whom I'm tasked with educating.
And how can you be a Blackman and not acknowledge & respect our beautiful Blackwomen? My Moms raised me by herself on the South Side of Chicago and she holds it down. My Aunts (all 6 of them) helped raised me too. So I will never disrespect Blackwomen or my tribe. I'm not turning my back on Black People or abandoning who I am 'cause I like dating white women.
And I like a certain type of white woman (well I have a certain type in general which is buxom and curvy, but that's for another blog) not ANY or ALL. It's not about having a white woman to show off or show that I've arrived, either. I'm not the least bit concerned with that kind of nonsense.
So I've made my peace with liking/lusting for/desiring/wanting to date/fuck/go out with white women. When I gave it up I found that I lost a vital part of myself; indeed the world was a little grey to me and dulled down a bit. By giving it up my passion overall for life was diminished and that was even worse. My passion is about MY life. It's for MYSELF, not anyone else and I'm NOT apologizing for it.
The type of white woman that resonates with me is physically lush (curvy - full lips & breats, wide hips, big butt) sensual, sexually mature, creative/artistic, metaphysical, urban and engaged with the world.
She also has to understand what my experience is like as a Blackman and not twist that up out of her own fear and discomfort around dealing with the reality of racist white people and white privilege. I've meet far too many white women who were slumming, exploring thier racist fantasies with an exotic other or who related to me just as a big black cock.
And one last thing: Having a preference is NOT an absolute; I'm open to all colors of the ethinic rainbow - I've dated all colors, shapes and sizes in my time.
