Originally posted Sunday, September 03, 2006
First off, I used to roll my eyes at people who whine all the time about noone listens to them. Camera hogs, limelight hogs - all they wanted was attention, right?
*hears crickets in the audience*
Okay, maybe not...
The reason I say that, and the reason, I suppose, for this blog is about blindly requesting adds. You can look at my full friends list and see about 40 bands/performers. Some of these I requested adds to their friends list and waited patiently for their approval. Then there the other 30 - and I have since discovered how this all works. They see someone's comments on other friends' pages and send requests. One band happened to be on at the same time I was, saw my goofy comments on several other pages and posted an add request. I heard their music, thought it was okay, but nothing special, and deleted their request. As soon as I deleted that one, they posted another. This went on for about 20 minutes, I swear! Add, delete, add, delete - WHY? Until about a month ago, I would actually listen to a band's music while surfing, to see if I liked them, and, if I did, I'd approve them. If not, I'd shitcan their request.
Now, every add request I get, I go see if they're a band/performer, If so, I deny them without bothering.to hear them. If the request is from an individual, I poke around their profile. And it's not like I decided to do this arbitrarily. I don't seem to have a lot of time to spend online lately. As simple and boring as it seems to me, I do have a life. If you read my profile, you will see that I warn you of this. I have a couple of lines saying to MESSAGE me to check your band out. At least that way I can tell it was a considered request - you actually saw what kinds of music I like.
There are some of my OL friends here who who actually post comments in response to mine, and who send me messages, pokes to make sure I'm alive. And these are cool! I don't ask for this kind of thing. But the attention is kinda nice. And being the social person I am, I tend to respond to that. And I have seen enough in my life to not bother worrying about those who don't. I still post comments, just to say Hi.
But I STILL get these oddball, out-of-left-field requests for adds to my friends list from performers. Now, to lend a little more credence to my mild rant, I have wandered onto others' profiles, saw their pics, and thought, "Cute!" But I go READ their profile blurbs and discovered they're anti-men lesbians looking to get laid - and NOT by me. Okay, skip them. Or I find they're psychos with underlying hate messages in their profile... whatever. If you seek me out, I figure that, like myself, you saw what I was about and liked what you saw. It came to my attention recently that that is not necessarily the case.
All thes ladies who post blurbs giving directions about how to join - I can only imagine how many morons and sexed-starved psychos hit them up with "hey baby - show me your pussy! Let's do the wild thing!"
I used to roll my eyes when I saw "how to be my friend" posted in a profile. I get it now.
