i once read,if you love someone to hunt them down untill they give in. i have a problem with this. to hunt them down untill they give in, ihave been guilty of. what i learned is all i did was clip thear wings and they couldn't fly. thear heart beat the throughs of death. and thear spirit was of defeat. to see this hurts. so now i'll try something new,i will let them go. if they come back, it will be with wings of freedom. a heart that beats life. and a spirit of confidance. for truely this would be a real love of freedom, not of captivity. if they don't come back,well one day i will learn to live with the pain, whitch is better than living with a captive. very scary move, but i must be able to live with myself.