Dr Sandy's blog: "FOR FRIENDS AND FANS"

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Thank you, fubar Team

another year has come and gone
many things have changed,
some friends have come and gone
some have found the love of their life
some have lost that someone special
the news hasnt changed since 9/11
cops have gotten shot, lives lost because
it seems like no one really cares anymore
Hope the New Year 2010 brings better
than the past year has.  that this new year
people can love one another. be kind to one
another. show each other that even though
times are hard. that we all still can make it
just as those that have passed before us did.
it was hard a 100 years ago.. but we all strive
to survive and we always do. so today Give someone
a hug or even a smile.. say something nice to one of your fubar friends or make new friends.. show each other that someone does care.

Have a great New Year!
Peace!!

Guess this is the time to write this. A good friend removed me from alot of pages that we were friends on.. because i refused to answer a letter that she had typed to me early this morning.. it was more of a rant than anything else.. but i guess the saying is true.. alot of friends come and go in your life.. but the true friends are there for you no matter what...With this particular friend it was either her way or no way at all. I did try and be a good friend.. hell i even claimed her son as my own to make sure he did have a good christmas like my kids did.. but oh well.. ill have to say.. guess some of the past lives are holding true.. our friendship didnt last back then either.. nor did it in this life..

Que Sara Sara.. guess this song rings true.

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother, what will I be
Will I be pretty, will I be rich
Here's what she said to me.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

When I was young, I fell in love
I asked my sweetheart what lies ahead
Will we have rainbows, day after day
Here's what my sweetheart said.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

Now I have children of my own
They ask their mother, what will I be
Will I be handsome, will I be rich
I tell them tenderly.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

To set your favorite bling.. go to your home page.. go to your blings.. and click on see all

This will take you to your bling page

Hover over the bling you want to favorite.this will bring up this image. click on add as favorite and click on

save.

After you have all the bling favorited.. you can click on the link that says "Click to reorder"  

Then click save.. to save the changes to your favorite bling This will put your bling in the order you want it to appear on your fav bling...To change the order of your favorite bling just repeat the steps above.

What a friend is? You help them when they need it, you give them shelter when they have no other place to go. your the ear on the phone, when they need someone to talk to. Your their shoulder when they need you to lean on. They forgive you for the things that you do. They appreciate the things you have done for for them.. or for a kind word... they dont hold you responsible for the actions of others.. they dont blame you for things that happened, that you had no control over.. they overlook things that others cant or dont. ..they dont see you as others do..they dont see you for what you were in the past.. but for what you are now..They are there for you no matter what..They dont look down on you for who you choose to be with.. they may not like it but.. will try and stick by you and what choice you make...weather that choice turns out to be a mistake or not..they are there to catch you when you fall.

Can you say you are a true friend?

" Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you' re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU... The one who turns to his friends and says, thats her... "

she was born premature, by 4 months,
the doctors didnt think she would make it
she was damanged goods.

she survived birth and lived a decent life until the age of 4. at this time she began to be afraid to be around him. He always looked at her strange. making her uncomfortable. and would touch her where no one else had. or never should have. but she was damanged goods. this went on for many years
she couldnt fight him off. she was too small. and if she told anyone about it.. she was told that something would happen to her mother.. so she kept quiet. enduring his sickness. til one day at the age of 8 her mother come home early and rescued her from the monster. But her mother sent her away to live with her dad, her real dad..but she was still damaged goods.

abused by a step mother.. always the blame for things that other kids did.. or didnt do..she was slapped... spanked.. beaten with whatever came to hand..she was thrown across the room over a beer mug getting broken.. but what did it matter she was damanged goods

The step mother.. didnt know she had a tumor.. but that is why she struck out at others.. but the damanged goods child helped to raise her little brothers, and protect them. Step mother.. died because of the brain tumor.. shes out of pain.. but what does that matter to the step child.. she has always been damaged goods..

She thought she had found that special one. someone that wouldnt hurt her.. but she was wrong.. for the day after she wed.. she was looking in the mirror at a new bruise under her eye. she blamed herself.. she was damaged goods.. she deserved it.

one night he came in drunk.. she was with child. that didnt matter to him.. he got what he wanted.. never bothering to ask her..and then left to be with his drinking buddies. she felt a pain..and then there was alot of blood..she didnt cry..all she could feel was the pain and loss.. but who cares she damaged goods.

she lost the twins she was carrying..had a dnc.. and was with child again with in a year.  This time with a boy. before the child was born his father held a .357 to her head. she wanting him to pull the trigger ending it all.. but he wouldnt do it. he wouldnt let her end it either. but what did it matter she was damanged goods.

she had her son.. but couldnt take the abuse anymore. she had called her mom... and had plans for her mom to meet her somewhere to get her and her little one away from.. the one person that was hurting her.. she didnt want her son to have that same fate of being hit.. or worse..she left with a small bag for each of them. nothing more.. while he was away doing his guard duty... meeting her mom in a parkinglot.. to be driven to her dads house. where she spent one night and then was.. taken to TX the next day..He didnt know she was gone until he got back on sunday.. what did it matter she was damaged goods.

She gets to Texas, and trys to make something of her life. She walks in to her grandmothers house one day to find that a relative has taken her son to an aunts house. The aunt tells her that we will take care of your son until you can get on your feet. She believes them. but months go by. shes on her feet. she wants her son back home with her. but to no avail. her son is lost to her. because she is damaged goods, always has been since the day she is born. She didnt give up on her son. she fought as hard as she could for 6 years. with the aunt and the legal system in TX. but even though she loved her son, more than life its self. It still didnt matter. She lost her son. her self worth. but it didnt matter to anyone. she deserved what she got. she's damaged goods. 

She one day decides to try and start a new life in Washington State, she had moved there with a guy that she had knew in TX. they tried to make a go of it. but his parents didnt like her. because she didnt have the right blood line. seeing as how she was damaged goods. things didnt work out for them. she stayed in Washington. She struggled for a few years. then had to take in her 15 year old brother. while working she would take her brother with her. he didnt get to meet that many people other than the ones she knew. He met one man that would take in street kids. about the same age he was at the time.  She dropped her brother off at the guys house. Picked him up the next day. He appeared to be hungover. she asked him what he did while he was there. he told her he had been in a movie. When asked in somewhat detail she was told that it was an adult movie. She didnt know what to do. so she did nothing. A few months go by. shes at her apartment that she shares with her brother. It was a somewhat sunny day for Washington state. She hears a knock on the door. Not thinking any thing about it she opens it. There were police standing in her doorway. When she asks whats going on. they tell her that they need to talk with her. They take her brother away. She has no idea whats about to happen. She find out really quick. She is asked to turn around and is handcuffed. Shes taken to the police station. she answers questions and tried to help the officers. thinking that if she has some of the answers they want that they will let her go home. She didnt realize that she wasnt going home for a long while unless someone came up with bail money. her family didnt have it. it didnt matter to them anyway. she was on her own. she is broken goods. let them give her what she deserves. 

Thinking about things in the past
thinking about all the things we thought would last.

Things that dont mean what they should, things and thoughts that we always could.

Dreams that we though would always come true. When in the end they never do.

The dreams of childhood that we strive to believe and try to make a reality, but soon they leave.

The love of a lifetime or so we believe, when in truth is revealed they always leave.

Thinking about the things in the past, about all the things that we thought would last.

The love of a child that we bore, but when they grow up they choose to ignore.

They say that ignorance is bliss, but we find out that its either hit or miss.

Hoping and praying for that dream far far away, Waiting for that day to come your way.

Think about the past, and hold those thoughts and feelings close to your chest.

For one day When you least expect. those things can be ripped from you to your regreat.

Then your left of the memory of what you thought was the past, and sometimes those memories they never last.

written about a year ago

He leads her by the hand,
walking with her down a path.
she doesnt know where the path
leads. she follows him with her eyes
her heart. He leads her into a clearing
and asks her a question she hasnt
expected, and is suprised when he
kneels in front of her. holding her hands in his
looks in her eyes. and asks her to be his for life, for eternity. She nods yes. with tears in her eyes.
praying that this isnt just a dream. if it is please dont ever wake me. She can not take it if its
just another cruel joke. played upon her.
he raises up from knealing and holds her in his arms. tightly, proving it isnt a dream and that he does love her. That he wants to spend the rest of his life with his love.. his heart, his other half. he has found the other part of his heart. He looks down in her eyes. and asks her, my love is this where you would like to raise a family with me?  She nods back at him in confusion. He tells her that this land that we stand on Is where im am building our home.  She gasps as her eyes light up in pleasure. She had always wanted a house to raise
children in, have land in which to plant a small garden in. Her husband there with her. to watch the sunset with. after a days work. now she sees that yes she can and does have it all. she has her love. her life. her lands. her husband.. she has it all.