tr3tr3's blog: "fathers"

i didnt want anyone to think that i'm one-sided on this issue so here's my stand on the deadbeat dad situation. for those of u who know me u know that along with being a father to my son and my 2 step children, i also raise my nephews. the other day one of them comes to me and says i dont think my daddy loves me. i rspond by saying why would u think that. he says becuz he doesnt spend anytime with us and when he does he's mean and he only loves Jalen(his son from another girl). now mind u my nephews think that anyone who doesnt let them get there way all the time is mean becuz theyre spoiled and aren't used to hearing the word no. as a matter of a fact they think i'm the meanest person on the planet becuz i always tell them no, but he brought up some interesting points. so i told him u need to call ur dad and tell him how u feel. he called but his dad wasnt around when he called. now i've been on my brother ass for yrs about not having more of a positive role in these boys lives but maybe hearing it from one of the kids may help. now i'm sry and like i said b4 there our issues where there our women that make it hard for men to do the things neccessary when it comes to a man raising his kids. but dammit there's too many of us men not taking charge and making a valiant effort when it comes to being a part of our kids lives. not just for the fact that percentages say that when both parents are around the child has a better chance of being aproductive citizen as opposed to being a criminal. but there is no better feeling than hearing ur child tell u that they love u for no reason at all other than just being there. so father's........STEP THE FUCK UP we need to stop making excuses where there aren't any and do everything possible to get in our kids lives

daddy's sorry he failed you so sorry he's not home if it's any consolation i'm sad to be alone so sorry that i left you guys although my hands were tied i know i said forever so sorry that i lied sorry mom and dad just couldn't get it together enough to compromise on things to make all of our lives better so sorry that i'm missing those things a dad's supposed to see and i'm missing out on u guys becoming the people that u will be i love you kids with everything that lives inside my soul i hope i've told you this enough so that you'll always know i'm sorry if your feeling pain cuz daddy's hurting too cuz daddy never dreamed there'd be a day away from you

to u mothers out there let me 1st say that i would never condone any man not being a part of their child's/children's life. as far as i'm concerned it's unacceptable behavior no matter the circumstance. i have hands on experience concerning this situation. right now i'm raising my nephews becuz of my brothers neglect for his own children. at the same time i wanna talk to those particular ladies that do everything in their power to make it hard for those men that want to be a part of their kid's lives. i'm in a situation now we'reim paying child support on my own accord for not only my son but my step children as well. i also pay school fees, buy clothes, and any other time they need anything i do whatever im capable of doing to provide for that need. now i'm not at all saying that all the fathers are out there doing those same kind of things, but for those that are or even those that are making a valiant effort don't keep these guys away from their kids. Those kids need the both of u no matter how u feel or what you've been told.