i didnt want anyone to think that i'm one-sided on this issue so here's my stand on the deadbeat dad situation. for those of u who know me u know that along with being a father to my son and my 2 step children, i also raise my nephews. the other day one of them comes to me and says i dont think my daddy loves me. i rspond by saying why would u think that. he says becuz he doesnt spend anytime with us and when he does he's mean and he only loves Jalen(his son from another girl). now mind u my nephews think that anyone who doesnt let them get there way all the time is mean becuz theyre spoiled and aren't used to hearing the word no. as a matter of a fact they think i'm the meanest person on the planet becuz i always tell them no, but he brought up some interesting points. so i told him u need to call ur dad and tell him how u feel. he called but his dad wasnt around when he called. now i've been on my brother ass for yrs about not having more of a positive role in these boys lives but maybe hearing it from one of the kids may help. now i'm sry and like i said b4 there our issues where there our women that make it hard for men to do the things neccessary when it comes to a man raising his kids. but dammit there's too many of us men not taking charge and making a valiant effort when it comes to being a part of our kids lives. not just for the fact that percentages say that when both parents are around the child has a better chance of being aproductive citizen as opposed to being a criminal. but there is no better feeling than hearing ur child tell u that they love u for no reason at all other than just being there. so father's........STEP THE FUCK UP we need to stop making excuses where there aren't any and do everything possible to get in our kids lives
