Confidence is one of the most important things a man must have while out in the dating scene. A man cannot just tell himself that that he is confident, he must truly be confident. Unfortunately, most of us aren’t confident, or at least this is the case when it comes to the ladies. Ok, sure you can be confident when it comes to the nasty girls hanging around, but do you have the confidence to walk up to that perfect 10 and make it happen? Chances are you don’t. Don’t feel bad. The majority of men don’t either, but it’s something we can work on.
Ok fellas, believe me when I tell you that women can smell confidence, or a lack there-of, a mile away. They are like dogs. Women know when you think that you are pitiful and not good enough for them. They can sense it. Even when you are acting like the cock of the walk, if on the inside you feel out of your class, they’ll know and treat you accordingly.
Let’s take it back to the caveman days and get down to the basics of human nature. Almost everything we do is the result of our basic human nature and can be looked at from the caveman's point of view. In the caveman days, it was a fact that only the strongest survived. The cavewomen wanted to be with the strongest, best providing cavemen to assure that they were going to live a few more winters. And the men in turn wanted to be with the strongest women to assure that they could bare lots of children.
That’s why to this day we want to screw everything in sight. It’s in our genes to procreate and with as many as possible for the greatest chance of success. Not only does it feel good, but it is our basic human instinct to spread our seed as far as we can spread it. Which do you think the stronger man is: a man that on the inside says "I will probably fail but I’ll try anyway" or a man that says "I own this, I own you, I own everything, of course I will try it, and I will succeed at everything I do!"
Of course you know the latter is the strongest, and he is the one that the women will be attracted to. Why do you think that women like guys who are muscular? They are seen as the strongest of their species and ultimately what women want, the alpha male.
You must be confident, truly confident. Let me give you an example of why I know this is true. I have been blessed with the gift of gab. I am witty and quick and can usually charm the pants off a woman pretty quickly. Now my speaking ability, ability to charm or game if you will, doesn’t change whether I feel good about myself or not. It is a constant. I can say the same words no matter how I feel about myself.
There have been times in my life where I didn’t feel my body was as good as it should be or whatever the case and my confidence just wasn’t there for whatever reason. I would spit game like mad and I knew it was good stuff, some really excellent stuff, but it got me
nowhere. I felt like I was the biggest loser on the planet. I was getting nowhere with these women, so my confidence got even worse. It was a downward spiral. At other times in my life I felt like I was the best looking, coolest, most successful man in the room. When I felt that way it showed, even if I did nothing different. The women could pick up on it, and I didn’t even have to spit game. It came to me.
Confidence leads to success, and success leads to more confidence. It can be a never-ending upward spiral, just like the reverse can put you on the downside of the trend. Women want a man who is sure of themselves and confident. Would you want to date a girl who was pathetic and didn’t think she was worth much? Of course not.
Easier said then done right? You can't just snap your fingers and tell yourself to be confident. You need to actually feel it. So where do you start? I'd advise starting off by feeling good about yourself physically. You would be amazed at what shaving off a little weight or adding just that little bit of muscle from the gym will do for your confidence. If you feel that you look good, then you’ll feel good. Set aside at least thirty minutes a day for exercise. Whether it is to lose a little weight or to put on some muscle, just do it. Make sure you always go out looking good. If you’re dressed like a slouch and just don’t feel like you are looking like hot shit, then just stay at home. If you say to yourself, "damn I look good", and mean it, women will think the same way about you.
One of the biggest things for us men to overcome is the fear of rejection. Not only is it the fear that they will flat out say no, but also the fear that we are not good enough to go and talk to that girl because she is out of our league. It’s absolutely terrifying to think about walking up to a group of hot girls and actually taking the initiative to say hello and start spitting game. We think that the hotties will think we're idiots and will immediately reject us. You can’t tell me that, as you are reading this, you can’t remember multiple times that you were in the presence of a group of hotties and didn’t have the confidence to walk up and get the ball rolling. Of course you have. Everyone has. You thought the moment you opened your mouth, if you even had the courage to go up there, they would blow you off and you’d feel like an idiot.
You just need to know the facts about the majority of women, and you’ll have no issues with going up and starting the gaming. The facts are…..90 percent of women are far more self conscious than men will ever dream to be. You may think that she’ll think you are an idiot when you walk up and start talking because they know they are hot shit and out of your league. The truth is that they normally pick themselves apart for what they think to be their shortcomings. Because of this, they are less likely to blow you off because of any superiority complex they may have.
It’s also a fact that there are very, very, very, few women that will initiate the conversation. As much as we would all like for her to come up and talk to us or hit on us first, 99 percent of the time it’s not going to happen. Partly because of tradition that the man pursues the woman, but this is mostly due to the fact that their confidence is even worse than ours. There is no way they have the confidence to initiate.
So that leaves the job to us to go up and start the game. If you sit and wait for them to come over and initiate, you’ll miss out on so many opportunities. If you have the confidence to go up and talk to beautiful women, you are ahead of the majority of men who won’t. That alone puts your chances for success so much higher than the average Joe out there. You must swallow your fears and just approach women.
Remember that no matter how unconfident you feel, you more than likely have twice the confidence that she has. More than likely, she doesn’t think too highly of herself in the first place, so keep that in your mind as you go up and talk to your target. YOU are the one in the position of power. You just have to remember that and use it to keep your confidence. Trust me, you’ll be happy with the results more often than not.
Usually the hotter the girl, the harder it is to have the confidence to talk to them. Yet, the hot girls are some of the easiest ones to win over. More than likely, they don't often get hit on or asked out because most men think they don’t stand a chance. Those are the ones whom,when a man finally does have the courage to hit on them, are really receptive to it. It makes them feel good for a guy to show interest in them when it is such a rarity for them. It makes them feel good to be pursued, especially when it doesn’t happen too often.
If you don’t believe me, then find the hottest girl you can and ask them how often they get hit on or asked out. The answer will surprise you. And no matter how many guys will tell that hot girl that the reason that she doesn’t get hit on is that guys are intimidated by her, she’ll still feel it is something about her that is preventing them from talking to her. Hot girls often have the worst confidence and in turn often are the easiest ones to get.
The bottom line is you have to have sincere confidence in yourself. Remember that women are more than likely more self-conscious than you are. No one said it would be easy, but you just need to remember you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
