Absolutely, a cheater can change. I think it depends on how strong the relationship is. If she cheated in the beginning and realized she has a good man and doesn't want to do it anymore; the cheater will definitely change. But if she feels like--"yeah I like this guy, but this ain't nothin' serious", don't expect change in the least.
I have a question: I understand the moral implications of cheating: (i.e. The boyfriend is unsuspecting) but if she is doing everything she needs to do to make her man happy and everyone (including the one she's cheating with) is content with the situation, what's wrong with this picture? Are people only in a committed relationship out of choice? We all know it's not necessity or an innate trait or characteristic. Is it really natural to be with just one person, and if so why is it so hard for some people to commit? We are attracted to different people for different reasons.
I guess what I'm really trying to say is: People try so hard to be faithful when in reality if it was natural, you wouldn't have to try. It would be an automatic need or want to just be with that one person. If you are attracted to another person then you're just following the rules of nature. What separates us from the animals is self-control but does that mean that we have to curb our natural urges and be with just one person? I'm talking about physical and emotional attraction.
At the end of the day when (Julie) has worn you down sometimes you may want to go to (Michelle) to make you feel better and vice versa. I'm not saying you want to give up (Julie), but (Michelle) kept you from going crazy so you could go home to (Julie) and be lovey-dovey. *Of course, they should both be aware of each other from a moral standpoint*
I can forgive a man for cheating on me, but not for lying.
