Tonie's blog: "I Am A Virgo"

I'm not God fearing...I'm God loving. NO I don't think God is gonna STRIKE me down if I do something that He/She doesn't like...NO I don't think I'm gonna be PUNISHED if I don't follow the laws of The Book. I believe in Free-will. I believe that God allows us to make our own moves and suffer the consequences or reap the benefits. Cats be comin at me with that 'God is gonna get you' mentality. Stop and think about some of the bullisht your doin to yourself and think about the consequences of your actions. We punish ourselves...This is what I call 'Life Lessons'...God allows things to happen to us to learn from it...whatever that thing may be. That's why I don't stress too much about stuff...it's whatever. If you don't THINK before you ACT then shit happens...be ready and keep smiling baby. *bendicion*

Absolutely, a cheater can change. I think it depends on how strong the relationship is. If she cheated in the beginning and realized she has a good man and doesn't want to do it anymore; the cheater will definitely change. But if she feels like--"yeah I like this guy, but this ain't nothin' serious", don't expect change in the least. I have a question: I understand the moral implications of cheating: (i.e. The boyfriend is unsuspecting) but if she is doing everything she needs to do to make her man happy and everyone (including the one she's cheating with) is content with the situation, what's wrong with this picture? Are people only in a committed relationship out of choice? We all know it's not necessity or an innate trait or characteristic. Is it really natural to be with just one person, and if so why is it so hard for some people to commit? We are attracted to different people for different reasons. I guess what I'm really trying to say is: People try so hard to be faithful when in reality if it was natural, you wouldn't have to try. It would be an automatic need or want to just be with that one person. If you are attracted to another person then you're just following the rules of nature. What separates us from the animals is self-control but does that mean that we have to curb our natural urges and be with just one person? I'm talking about physical and emotional attraction. At the end of the day when (Julie) has worn you down sometimes you may want to go to (Michelle) to make you feel better and vice versa. I'm not saying you want to give up (Julie), but (Michelle) kept you from going crazy so you could go home to (Julie) and be lovey-dovey. *Of course, they should both be aware of each other from a moral standpoint* I can forgive a man for cheating on me, but not for lying.

Here's a lil' something I wrote for all viewers to read. Women remember it, Men Apply it... 1. A Man must put aside his ego, pride, & self-centered ways 2. A Man must know when to separate time from his woman, his career & his homies. 3. A Man must learn to sacrifice his ladies' man jersey to win with a champion. (Ponder on that statement...LOL) 4. A Man must learn to admit his mistakes when wrong. (Hell hath no fury...U know the rest.) 5. A Man must know the difference between "Lifetime Beauty" &"Temporary Temptations". 6. A Man shall treat his woman like he would treat his mother, beyond respect and love. 7. A man needs to realize the love of a woman is precious as a diamond, yet priceless at the same time. 8. Understand that a woman's worth is worth fighting for. TREAT HER AS YOUR EQUAL!!!!!! I CAN'T STRESS IT ENOUGH FELLAS. 9. Take her words of wisdom into consideration. She may know more than we think... (LOL). 10. Last but never the least, what you don't realize in your woman...Another Man Will. Keep Her First Fellas. I'm Gone.

When love never ends and friendship never dies even when it's over…this is unconditional. When there are ups and downs but, in the end you can always come back together…this is unconditional. When you argue to the point that you're at a loss for words, but you can always find the words to apologize…this is unconditional. Love is NOT blind, it sees everything…the good, the bad, the ugly…but real love is forgiving and unconditional.

He gave her compliments and made her smile…she told him that she missed him and it would be worth his while. He thought and answered, 'what should we do?' She said, 'I like fun and I know you do too'. Let's go somewhere alone, but let's keep it light', she said. He had no idea what was going on in her head. They met at his place and had small talk…giggles came from her then, he took that walk. He came closer and whispered, 'what do you want me to do?' She thought to herself…'ooh the things I could do to you!' She said, 'touch me there.' He gladly obliged. He told her to sit and she had an idea why. He touched her legs gently and she sighed with a smile. He kissed her lips below and this move drove her wild. They kept on coming back for more - each day never knowing what was in store. She did things with her tongue that made him cry out with delight. He would pull her hair and spank her because he knew just what she liked. They drove each other crazy every day never knowing what the other would say. Kiss me here and lick me there. I think they did it damn near everywhere… And so the story goes my friends…I promise you it's not the end.

I'm noticing that people have a problem with distinguishing the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. I love my cat, I love my friends, and I love to read a good book. I'm in love with my kids, myself, and my family. The ability to distinguish between the two comes with age, experience and knowledge. If someone says that they love you, don't automatically assume that they are in love with you. Just because I love spending time with a person does not mean that I'm in love with them. Luv ya!

The beautiful thing about me is that I'm always changing and evolving. It's my nature to move toward perfection, and even though I know it's not really possible, that doesn't stop me from striving toward it. I'm becoming comfortable in my own skin, and more confident in my abilities. I'm beginning to accept myself, but it's a process that, to me, will never be complete, because I check for every flaw. Sometimes I don't realize how competent I am and how well I do every task I take on. I analyze the way I handle situations, and the next time improve on it. It's my nature. When it comes to love, I'm learning to take my time and be more selective. I'm learning what type of man I can be happy with, and which ones I should turn down, but sometimes I underestimate my attractiveness. I can't remember the last time when I haven't worked, out of necessity yes, but I admit my job is very important to me. Sweet, unassuming, and reserved, who would suspect the extent of my capabilities? I give myself credit for my industry and talent; I've come into my own. It's not easy being a Virgo woman, but it gets easier as time goes on. I'm getting better at taking care of myself, and avoiding situations that aren't right for me. I don't offer my services so freely anymore to everyone who asks. Lastly (because it's not the most important thing about me) with men, I'm attracted first by a meeting of the minds. The emotional attachment comes later, if I feel safe and I'm not turned off. When I find the right one, I'm a devoted and faithful partner, willing to do anything in service to my loved one. That doesn't stop me from wanting to improve him though (Beyonce's Upgrade Ya – She's a Virgo too). Learning to accept things and people the way they are is my greatest challenge, and yet, it is the most valuable thing that I can achieve.