In reading a posting of another member who was sharing his joys and concerns of his past decision to dissolve a marriage and move forward in a relationship that he found nearly a month later, I felt compelled to respond in the following manner:
"My only word of advice is to walk carefully. You don't want to be falling for her just because you are dissolving your marriage. It is easy to rebound in another relationship -- sometimes they work; sometimes they don't.
In a divorce recovery group I attended in San Antonio back nearly 8 years ago, they recommended that we didn't get involved in another relationship for another 2 years. It was recommended that we try to group date to help keep us to that word and we did just that, which was interesting in itself because we developed friendships that have lasted for a long time.
I found someone 2 years later that was very good to me. Unfortunately, he died on me (having a heart attack) about 2 years after that. The blessing out of that was that I then got to know a real man that treated a woman very, very, very good.
Now it is going on 5 years later - and I may have found the man that I would want to spend the rest of my life with; however, trying to take it slow to make sure.
At any rate, just be careful to not to rush too fast into another relationship. Enjoy your time to heal from the past wounds so that those won't fester somehow into the new relationship. If this new woman is THE woman, she'll understand; and, it sounds like she already does so you might be on a good path.
Best of luck to your paths taken and those you choose to leave behind."
Although he didn't mention how he found this other woman that he was looking forward to gelling a relationship with, it would certainly apply as well (and, probably, especially) if the relationship was met through the internet.
QUESTION: Would you have responded in a similar manner? Why or why not? Just curious...
