The world of BDSM has opened to those who have not had the ability to come out of the closet and experience it first hand. It has been opened by the Internet. The World Wide Web. An amazing world that originally started with small groups called “BBSs” has now grown into a multi-million dollar industry that is now becoming more and more accepted as people start to find themselves and others like them. Now, all of a sudden “we” no longer are “sick” or “demented” but a group of lucatrive people who are endorphine junkies.
However, since the invention of the wheel, criminals have found a way to exploit it. BDSM is absolutely not hidden from the ‘criminal’ or ‘predator’ element. In fact, it seems however, that they have flocked to us as a way to blend in. Their presence is not limited to the online element, as it seems that somewhere in just about every community, we have run into a sexual predator or pedophile in the group.
The problem now is more difficult in finding the predator who only sits behind the keyboard of a computer and deciphering the difference between what we find morally offensive and what is legally offensive from those that we meet at munches and parties.
Some standards that I have set forth are pretty simplistic, but sometimes not always a thought process when an excited submissive is on the other end trying to make a desperate connection with a Dominate who could be, or not be, that predator waiting for someone such as themselves. So in the interest of making sure that those are safe and can keep themselves that way, I wanted to share with you one credo that I use that has never failed Me yet.
“If your comfort level is compromised, your inner voice warns you, or it sounds too good to be true, be cynical until otherwise proven wrong.”
I feel that the online presence has opened up a whole new venue to those who may need an outlet, no matter how small, and to say that it isn’t real, is to insult those who find that it is to them. Although, on the other hand, the online presence has also found a very dark and dangerous side that I have, too many times, found Myself helping otherwise offering shelter to those who might have leaped before they looked.
I, as an erotic phone fantasy provider, have felt that the service that I can provide offer those who are unable to pursue this in any other format other than a phone call, an email or even a cyber camera. Just like it would take a connection in real life, it takes a connection in an online world. Communication and trust are just as important in dealing with each other online as they are in real life. Since I have participated in BDSM, I have learned that both worlds provide advantages and disadvantages. I am a complex woman and like the complexity of this life but do so with caution and urge those that pursue this do so as well.
I open my door to those who find themselves questioning their situation or even wanting advice. I am easy to contact, and easy to talk to. All I ask is that you be careful, be cautious and have fun.
