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A confused sub came before a wise Master who adored her. She felt that to submit to him would mean she would open her heart to unbearable pain should he ever leave her. She hungered for him and needed him, but was ready to walk away in panic. The gentle Master knelt her before him and started a tale of love and devotion. As she looked up at him his arms began to widen and open like a large tree stretches its branches to the sky. At that moment the Master appeared rooted to the floor and his impressive size towered above her like a giant tree. Then he began to speak. I'm here for you, now and always no matter how far time and space takes us. Whether you walk away from me today or you stay and serve me I will not turn from you. I am as patient as time itself; I will take not from you unless you give freely and completely of yourself, but I give onto you regardless -- for my love is unconditional. Like the olive tree that can both feed you and shade you, I am there seemingly eternal to your short life on this earth. If you need my fruit to feed your hunger I will give you all the fruit you need. If your skin grows dry and loses its luster, the oil from my fruit will restore it and make it glisten. When you need comfort my leaves will gently caress your face with the slightest breeze. When you need discipline my branches will correct you when the wind blows strong. If you just need my shade to protect you from the sun, my branches will shade and protect you. If you need warmth at night my fallen branches will fuel the fire to keep you warm and safe. If you need a refreshing breeze my leaves will fan you and cool you. You are my gardener. When you submit to me, you tend that which keeps me vibrant and full of life. When you kneel under me and till the soil, you give breath to my roots. When you water me, my sap flows strong through me raising my limping Branches. When you soil yourself collecting fertilizer with your bare hands, you strengthen and humble me with your devotion. Although my life will go on, life would not be the same without you. Your dedication and unconditional care for me keeps me vibrant and nurtures my very core. The sustenance and protection I give you seems little reward for your servitude. Still the gardener serves the tree from her heart and the tree gives to her heart all that he can! I am planted firmly on the ground and cannot follow you if you walk away from me. . But be assured I will survive. One hundred years later and two of your lifetimes; I will still be there, waiting for you in the same spot to offer you all that I do now. Stay with me and be my gardener. You cannot get lost in me for we are complementary to each other. I am your devotion, and you give meaning to my existence. Apart we live life and survive; together we bloom eternally! As the Master finished his last words the sub cried herself to sleep at his feet. That night, he stood planted there like the Olive tree offering her his unconditional love and protection as she slept. As she would tend to him with her devotion the next day and everyday

A is for asphyxiation, you won't catch your breath B is for the blindfold, that keeps you dark as death C is for your cock wich that I squash beneath my shoe While I watch you wiggle, and I laugh at you (ha ha) D is for my dildo that you will learn to blow E is for your enema, I control the flow F is for my flogger, I whip you so violent G is for the gag in place to keep your screaming silent H is for humiliation that you must bear I will immobilize you in my sexual lair J is for your jizzy, jerking tendency K for kisses, L for love and licks you offer me M is for the manacles imprisoning your feet N is for your nelly little nimby so sweet O is for the O-rings, holding you in place P is for the perspiration dripping down your face Q is for the quirk I use to whip your eager ass R is for restraints, to make the magic last S is for sweet suffering that only you will know T is for the torment, that keeps you on the go U is for unbridled lust that only I control As I claim for my own your body, mind, and soul V is for the vicious urge to struggle in vain While I tease and tantalize you and eroticize your pain W is where, a winding woman walks X is for excruciating X-rated talk Y is you the yo-yo; I yank upon your string Watch you yell and holler from the pleasure that it brings Z is for the zestfulness with which you will submit Now I’ve taught you every letter so remember all of it Twinkle, twinkle little slut Now I spank your naughty butt Once I’ve warmed it you will cry And I’ll wipe your teary eye Don’t forget the lessons learned Or your rumpsticks will be burned A-B-C You and me K-I-N-K spells S-E-X A-B-Cs of S-E-X F-U-N spells K-I-N-K Bah, bah black sheep in my school You’ll be shorn of all your wool One lesson in submission, another in pain After graduation things will never be the same You’ll become my groveling fool Drowning in a puddle of your own drool Hope this amuses you hon.

My girl wrote this about Me....made Me cry... glad to see I am doing something right..... She is a wonderful person. and one of the best Dommes i know. She is who i look up to as my role model. She can be stern but is always fair. i love having the privilege to serve her. She is kind, honorable, She is a lady in all aspects of the word. if this helps you at all. ive had bad experiences in this lifestyle i was collared at 13 and nearly beaten to death, and have had a hard time since trusting people. but i trust Her with my life and would lay my own life down for Her with out question this is a blog i wrote about 2 weeks ago: its titled what i want tobe when i grow up. The other day I was sitting around and got to thinking, what do i want to be when i grow up. i sat there for a few minuets and realized exactly what i want to be. I want to be like my Ma'am (Lady Twisted Karma) She is one of the most wonderful people who have blessed my life. She is a very strong, beautiful,spiritual, caring, intelligent woman. She is always there for me, and anyone who asks for help. She has an answer for just about everything, and if she doesn't She will reference you to a book which will answer your question. I look up to Her in everything she does. She has showed me life can be hard, but tomorrow is another day to be happy. i honestly don't know what i would do with out Her. my role model and who i look up to in all aspects of life, one of the people i love the most and couldn't fathom life with out, is my Ma'am.

Your kids might have inherited your kink if... You go in the playroom and find an interrogation chair built entirely of Lego's. You come home and find them tickling a bound and gagged baby-sitter. Your son wants to know when he?ll get his allowance, because he needs to pay his tab at the hardware store. You tell your daughter she?s too old to spank, and she assures you she isn't. You yell to your daughter to do her chores, and she answers she?s tied up right now? and she really is tied up. Your three year old is strutting around with clothes-pins hanging off her tongue. Their favorite game is Cowboy and Dominatrix. Your son earned his merit badge in tying knots? twelve times. You notice his G.I. Joe has Barbie on a leash. You bought a clothes dryer because every time your kids went out to play, the clothesline and clothespins vanished. They made a violet wand for their science fair. You ask your son to walk the dog, and later notice the dog?s still home, but the leash and your daughter aren't.

a subbie's blackboard lessons by Blades baby gyrl (formerly, Torm's tiara) Copyright©1997 by Blades baby gyrl (formerly, Torm's tiara) i will not carve the flogger handles i will not spank others i will not aim for Master's head i will not yell safeword in the grocery store i will not sell the names on my newsgroup list to the National Enquirer i will not read and giggle at Master's logs from the Dom Forum i will not yell fire everytime Master lights a candle funny noises are not funny i will not slap Master with my bra Punishment is not boring or pointless i will not call Master, Dr. Death i will not defame the Eugenspeil Society i will not put laxatives in the candy bowl before Master's d/s party i will not hide the newbies or send them snipe Dom hunting i will not bring sheep to the subbie forum a burp is not an appropriate response to Master i will not eat all Master's m & m's while he is at work i will not yell she's tied up at the subbie forum Master's gags are not to be used to keep the children quiet i will not call Master, spud head, butt head or any kind of head Masters ARE perfect Mud is not an acceptable side dish for dinner for Master i will NOT wear panties i will not sell snake oil or tiger balm at Master's d/s parties i will not peek out of the blindfold there is no such thing as "slave immunity" i will not sneak in the bathroom when i don't have permission i did not win an emmy for my last session i will not hide all Master's toys all play and no work does not a good slave make i will not say "oh Master you're the bestest and biggest" just to get a spanking i can not fire Master my last assignment was not stolen by one armed net hackers i will not scare the newbies by telling them ALL REAL subs like bullwhips i will not perform breast implant surgery on the newbies i will refrain from saying "hail satan" when i don't like Master's orders i will not remind Master daily of our 1 day, 1 week, 1 month, 1 yr. anniversary i will not waste wax by playing with it or putting it on all Master's clamps i will not use Master's bondage table for a skateboard ramp or a slide into the pool i will not wear Master's underwear on my head Master's dog does not stink i will not torment the newbies with the violet wand ....and last but not least i will not use the pages from Master's Dom Handbook to start the grill... Copyright©1997 by Blades baby gyrl (formerly, Torm's tiara) All rights are reserved by the author.

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Lady Karmic’s Contract for service D/s Contract I, ________________________, with a free mind and an open heart; do request of _______________________ that She accept the submission of my will unto Her and to take me into Her care and guidance, that W/we may grow together in trust and mutual respect. The satisfaction of Her wants, desires, and whims are consistent with my desire as a submissive to be found pleasing to Her. To that end, I offer her use of my time, talents, and abilities. Further, I ask, in sincere humility, that, as my Mistress, She accept the keeping of me for the fulfillment and enhancement of O/our sadistic, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs. To achieve this, She may have unfettered use of my body any time, any place, in front of anyone; to keep or to give away, as She will determine. I ask that She guide me in any sensual, or scene-related behavior, both together with, and separate from Her, in such a way as to further my growth as a person. I request of _______________________, as my Mistress, that She use the power vested in Her role; to mold and shape me; assisting me to grow in strength, character, confidence, and being, and that She continue to help me to develop my artistic and intellectual abilities. In return, I agree: 1.) To obey Her commands to the best of my ability. 2.) To strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibitions that interfere with my capability to serve Her and limit my growth as Her submissive. 3.) To maintain honest and open communication. 4.) To reveal my thoughts, feelings, and desires without hesitation or embarrassment. 5.) To inform Her of wants and perceived needs, recognizing that She is the sole judge of this or how these shall be satisfied. 6.) To strive toward maintenance of a positive self-image and development of realistic expectations and goals. 7.) To work with Her to become a happy and self-fulfilled individual. 8.) To work against negative aspects of my ego and my insecurities that would interfere with advancement of these aims. My surrender as a submissive is done with the knowledge that nothing asked of me will demean me as a person, and will in no way diminish my own responsibilities toward making utmost use of my potential. In recognition of my family obligations, nothing will be required of me that will in any way damage or harm my children( if applicable ) nor interfere with the performance of my duties as father. This I, _______________________, do entreat, with lucidity and the realization of what this means, both stated and implied, in the conviction that this offer will be understood in the spirit of faith, caring, esteem and devotion in which it is given. Should either of U/us find that O/our aspirations are not being well served by this agreement, find this commitment too burdensome, or for any other reason wish to cancel, E/either may do so by verbal notification to the O/other, in keeping with the consensual nature of this agreement. W/we B/both understand that cancellation means a cessation of the control stated and implied within this agreement, not a termination of O/our relationship as friends and lovers. Upon cancellation, each of U/us agrees to offer to the O/other Her or his reasons and to assess O/our new needs and situation openly and lovingly. This agreement shall serve as the basis for an extension of O/our relationship, committed to in the spirit of consensual dominance and submission with the intention of furthering self-awareness and exploration, promoting health and happiness, and improving B/both O/our lives. I offer my consent to submission to ______________________________ under the terms stated above on this the ________ day of _____________ in the year 20___. ____________________________ Signature of Submissive I offer my acceptance of submission by _____________________________ under these terms stated above on this the ________ day of ______________ in the year 20___. ____________________________ Signature of Dominant

D/S LIFESTYLE Negotiation By Pierre Everybody knows what "negotiation" means. Almost everybody in BDSM accepts the importance and value of negotiation in a relationship. On our website we spend a great deal of time saying that negotiation is the key to all successful relationships. And yet.......:( Experience has shown us that different people will have different meanings for words and ideas. The scope of this article is to clearly explain what our values around negotiation are. Some of the concepts will probably look so simple and easy that you may be tempted to just click elsewhere on our site without reading the rest, but please, do not! This is an important concept in BDSM and there are important lessons here! Negotiation: According to the Merriam Webster site: "To negotiate: to arrange for or bring about through conference, discussion, and compromise." In any relationship, before two partners will decide to share time together, a certain negotiation takes place, so both partners will share common rules. Usually, something common, an interest, a passion or a need will bring two people together, so it is not a surprise that this common interest will be a topic important in the negotiation. BDSM is no exception. Actually, because of the type of relationship and the fact that every aspect of the relationship is often pushed further than the limits, negotiation in BDSM is VERY important! It could be a short relationship (one night stand) or a long relationship (24/7). It could be a relationship based on cyber (virtual) or a real life relationship. In all these cases, common rules have to be negotiated. This is important in the success of any relationship. You are going to tell me that you know all of this and I am not telling you anything that you don't already know! Well.....wait! What is a negotiation in BDSM? Experience has shown us, believe it or not, that for most people, the negotiation is the delivery of their checklist, or in reality, what is more and more refered as their "grocery list!" Yes, most people see the negotiation as "this is what I want you to do to me and what I don't want you to do to me list!" In a discussion that I was part of, I have heard MANY female Doms talking about the "grocery lists" that some of the male submissives use to try to get their attention and how they lost all their chances with these female Doms because of it. Negotiation is far more than just an exchange of grocery lists, wish lists or check lists. The negotiation is the time where two people will start talking about their shared passion that is BDSM. The negotiation will be about BDSM but they will be about what in real life that which they both like and dislike. In negotiating, limits are going to be talked about....but love of things non-BDSM are as important too! In a new relationship, the first thing that need to be establish is....the trust, not limits, safe words or the check list. When the trust is established then it is time to talk about these. That's not all! In the negotiation, it is very important that you understand the meaning of the different ideas and values that you are negotiating. It is surprising how a simple notion like safe word could be so different between two people! The negotiation is far more than to inform your partner that your safe word is "red"! How do you want your partner to react when the safe word is called? What is the meaning of the safe word for your partner, is it the same importance for you? Now that you have solved the case of the safeword, how about the concept of sharing your sub or being shared with others? How about sexual intercourse in your BDSM play, you like to be public or not?.....and the list goes on and on. How to start a negotiation: If you are talking about negotiating with someone, it means that you have already found something in common. Here is a secret: for any successful relationship, you must know more about your partner than just what his (hers) likes in relation to BDSM! The vanilla part of the relation is probably the most important aspect of any relationship! I said before that before you can negotiate safe word and checklist, you have to establish the trust. If you have a cyber relationship, the negotiation will be a lot shorter, but will it be? There are so many things that happen in everyday life; what if, when you are supposed to be online with your Master (Mistress), and your internet connection goes down? How are you and your Master (Mistress) going to react? What if your Master (Mistress) to whom you have sworn your eternal allegiance....is cybering with another submissive? Have you talked about this? My relationship with Catharine began almost 7 years ago. We always push the limits of our relationship and, very often, we encounter new situations that we had not expected in the past. To solve them, we talk about this new situation, we share our feelings....we negotiate! As long as you have a relationship with someone, to succeed in this relationship, you must negotiate all the time! Some will see the negotiation as something you do in the beginning of a relationship and then it is done and dealt with - finished. That the relationship sill be static and non changing. What a huge mistake! A relationship is always changing! The compromise that was good for so long.....may now be obsolete! Failure to negotiate often ends in a failure in the relationship! Catharine and I have been through many changes in our lives, some vanilla (jobs, sickness, life surprises), some BDSM (katy my submissive becoming Catharine the Dom who keeps amazing me all the time). Our stable is composed of subs who have been with us.....on average for more than 2 years!!!!! (some of them almost 4 years!). How do we do it? We negotiate.......all the time! Pierre and Catharine

I found this on Mistress M's blog... and loved it so much I had to adapt it for My own use.... thank You Mistress M Fill this out honestly and completely if you wish to be considered for servitude to Lady Karmic, send it to Me by email for review at karmas_chyld@cherrytap.com Name: Age: Weight & Height: Bust size (girls) / Penis size (boys): Eye & Hair Color: Which are you Submissive / Slave: Location: Orientation: Email address: Marital status: Able to travel: Education level: Employment: Income level: Skills/talents: Able to tribute (gifts / money) Mistress time is precious, if you want My attention you have to be able to tribute Me for it: Answer the following, should Lady Karmic require you for entertainment. I am available to serve most often at this time and on these days: I have a webcam/digital camera: Are willing to take pics with it to prove you did what I ordered you too: Length of time available for sessions: Toys, play clothing and bondage items you own: Living situation (alone / with others but with own room/no privacy): I have served before: In what capacity (be as specific as possible): Do you have references for: 1) Financial Slavery 2) Online slavery 3) Real life slavery/service If so, provide them. What dreams / fantasies do you wish to realize under My ownership of you : Are you willing to be told how to Dress?: For how long: What is it you love about Me: Why should I take you in: Willingness to obey (be specific): Do you have any lingerie: What are your limits (be very specific): Be Specific I LOVE to: I am willing to: I am unable to (with all apologies but I WAS instructed to be honest...): If, perhaps, Lady Karmic ever thought I should deserve a reward or punishment, my favorite reward is...... and worst punishment: Well boys and girls… now is your chance! Lady Karmic Kisses I never take a personal slave under My wing unless I am very familiar with them and trust their commitment. I DO NO SESSIONS without TRIBUTE. Never forget that your place is to Please Me, to Serve Me and to Spoil Me. I am most pleased with the slave who serves Me with respect. Protocol is very important to Me, the formal recognition of the hierarchy between the Superior Being and the submissive. This means that I expect an attitude of worshipful adoration from those in My service, with the proper tone, stance, and words of submission...I am your Mistress, Queen and Goddess. I am always pleased when a submissive thinks to bring a gift to Me when serving. I never tolerate rude behavior.