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created on 05/10/2007  |  http://fubar.com/bdsm-my-lifestyle/b81368  |  3 followers
karmas_chyld: did you do that harness yourself ? masterdark6969: yes madam karmas_chyld: nice work masterdark6969: thank you madam masterdark6969: its hard to do on yourself, i can normally do a better job masterdark6969: so any command madam karmas_chyld: LOL no masterdark6969: ah karmas_chyld: LOL I am not here to get your rocks off doll masterdark6969: i know, I am here to please you karmas_chyld: good boy masterdark6969: i was hoping i might do something that would please you madam masterdark6969: is there anything i can do madam karmas_chyld: LOL nice clothes pins karmas_chyld: I have nipple clamps with weights masterdark6969: i have clamps, no wieghts, would you like me to see if i can get them karmas_chyld: I do have a comand... line your dick with clothes pins .. as many as you can fit on it masterdark6969: ouch masterdark6969: ok madam masterdark6969: should this be enough karmas_chyld: yep karmas_chyld: get started masterdark6969: just on my dick or the sack too karmas_chyld: start with the dick masterdark6969: yes madam masterdark6969: it hurts karmas_chyld: I don't feel a thing masterdark6969: ooo masterdark6969: so mean masterdark6969: i think that is all i can do karmas_chyld: very pretty ... keep going karmas_chyld: now the sack masterdark6969: really? karmas_chyld: yes really masterdark6969: ok Madam karmas_chyld: now count them masterdark6969: all out masterdark6969: yes Madam masterdark6969: 42 madam karmas_chyld: make it an even 50 masterdark6969: i don't have any more madam masterdark6969: all out karmas_chyld: Hmmm ok masterdark6969: yep all out karmas_chyld: tug on the lower ones masterdark6969: i could remove the nipple ones masterdark6969: OUCH karmas_chyld: nope karmas_chyld: not yet karmas_chyld: very nice masterdark6969: thank you madam karmas_chyld: dan't be taking any of those off yet karmas_chyld: don't even masterdark6969: not until you tell me to madam karmas_chyld: good boy masterdark6969: this fucking hurts! karmas_chyld: take a few slow deep breathes masterdark6969: ok karmas_chyld: damn too bad I can't save this feed ... I would enjoy watching this later masterdark6969: i can try and record it for you masterdark6969: then send it to you karmas_chyld: now take the ones on your nipples ....and pull do not stop till I say so karmas_chyld: do not pinch tem open either masterdark6969: yes madam masterdark6969: do you want me to try and record first karmas_chyld: yes masterdark6969: ok masterdark6969: hereis goes karmas_chyld: pull! karmas_chyld: pull till they come off and no pinching them open masterdark6969: FUCK karmas_chyld: now play with your nippes karmas_chyld: lightly karmas_chyld: Hmmm I would like to take My Dragons Tounge to the ones on your cock ... pop them off one at a time masterdark6969: the camera batt is dead karmas_chyld: bummer masterdark6969: that sounds pianful karmas_chyld: I am a sadist dear boy masterdark6969: i know masterdark6969: and i like karmas_chyld: remove the clothes pins off your sac... one by one very slowly karmas_chyld: just off the sac masterdark6969: still on the shaft madam karmas_chyld: good boy karmas_chyld: let's see how long you can leave those on masterdark6969: ouch masterdark6969: yes madam masterdark6969: anything else madam karmas_chyld: pull all of those off really fast ! karmas_chyld: start NOW ! karmas_chyld: FASTER masterdark6969: ooo karmas_chyld: good boy ! masterdark6969: he burns karmas_chyld: awwwwwww masterdark6969: i have something else to show you madam karmas_chyld: yes ? masterdark6969: plugged the whole time for you madam karmas_chyld: karmas_chyld: so you like thing shuved up your ass HUH ? masterdark6969: yes madam karmas_chyld: too fun
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BDSM Slave Training Tips: Orgasm Control Training: They Can't Resist =========================================== Here is an article I know you will love Twisted: Like dangling a carrot in front of a rabbit (or at least that works in cartoons), using orgasm control training in your slave training relationship can be highly effective. By teaching your slave when they can and can not orgasm, you will be able to control their mind as well as their body for your personal pleasure. The problem most people have with orgasm control training is that they often think that it's easier than it looks. All you have to do is tell the slave not to orgasm or to orgasm and they will do as you say - if only it were that easy. The problem with orgasm control training usually lies in understanding how to control the orgasm for your slave in order to show them how they can take part in the process as well. As a Dom/me, you need to realize that a slave needs to be persuaded to not have an orgasm or distracted from their body's natural orgasmic response. But if you can not learn these basics, you will not have an effective orgasm control training program. You need to be fully in control of this situation so that your slave doesn't attempt to have an orgasm regardless of what you are trying to do. This will causes the rest of your slave training to crumble -as soon as your slave sees any weakness on your part. The first thing you need to do is learn what makes your slave orgasm in the first place. This seems like a simple task, but with many female slaves especially, there are things that work for some, but not for others. The beginning of orgasm control training will need to be a sort of exploration into what makes your slave ready to orgasm. It will work well if you bring them to the point of orgasm and then back away to begin the orgasm deprivation phase of the training. Then, you can move into guiding your slave into having orgasms from things that they had never had orgasms doing before. For example, you might want to stimulate your slave in a known orgasm-making, but then stimulate them anally or elsewhere to start connecting these other points to causing orgasm as well. Once you create the sensations that they could orgasm from other kinds of stimulation, you will be able to control orgasms in many more ways then you even thought possible. You can also prevent them from orgasms 'normally' by giving a punishment at the same time or verbal humiliation. This will begin to change their associations and change how they respond to stimulation. Another tool in orgasm control training is masturbation for your slave. You might have them masturbate just to the point of almost coming to orgasm and then stop. This will help to control their desire to make themselves orgasm and hand over that control to you - where it should be. You might also have a slave on an orgasm restriction period or work with them to have them orgasm on command without any direct stimulation (this takes a while to achieve, but it can happen). Orgasm control training has many different variations and levels that will help you assert your control over a slave. You can choose from orgasm deprivation, for example as well as orgasm control by changing the sensations that your slave associates with 'normal' orgasms. You can also change what they orgasm from by incorporating punishments when they orgasm. The possibilities are endless. Once you can control the orgasms of your slave, you will be in complete control of their sexual satisfaction. And for many slaves, this is enough to get them to obey every time.
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Well I am boyless once again... still not sure what happened with the last one....I really liked him..saw the potential for a long beautiful D/s relationship... guess I saw too much in it .....
Trust ===== Trust not that your partner will never make a mistake or never hurt you. Trust instead in their commitment to you, that they will do their best *not* to hurt you, and that if and when hurt occurs they will do their best to help you heal. ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- - The "true" way ============ == It irks me when I see someone referring to themselves as a "true" master or, talking about their way of doing things as being the "true" way. Often if someone doesn't agree with them or live up (or down) to their standards then they accuse them of not being serious or not being "true" submissive's or "true" slaves or "true" BDSMer's. There is *no* "true" way and there is no universal master; i.e. one size *does not* fit all! If there is indeed a true master it is the one who recognizes his limitations and who strives to overcome them. It is the one who admits that he errs and will recognize when a relationship is a "poor fit". It is also the one who talks and shares with others--neither holding back on sharing what he has learned nor denying that, at least in some areas, there are others who know more than he and from whom he can learn. A phrase that a submissive or slave--particularly one without much experience-- might hear from a false "true master" is, "don't tell anyone; it's our secret". This always reminds me of pedophiles and other abusers who try to hide what they know to be dishonorable. If you meet someone who says this to you in regard to some activity he wishes to perform with you, run--do not walk--in the general direction of as far away as possible. ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- - Structure ========= Submissive's and slaves respond best within a structured environment. This has to do with knowing what is expected of them, what is going to happen to them and what their dominant or master intends when they do or say something. Examples: o - use the same implement when punishing a submissive or slave and never use it for any other purpose (e.g.. for play), o - use the same words each time you want the same action or behavior from your submissive or slave. Variety is nice, but it can also confuse, o - give the day-to-day life of your submissive or slave structure by assigning them regular and demanding tasks, duties or responsibilities, Within a regular structure a submissive or slave will learn to respond automatically and with growing confidence and trust in their master. ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- - What's the point of ritual? ============ ========= ====== Let's assume that there's a submissive who likes to please. What use is it for the dominant to give them rituals? o - Does it provide a range of actions and behavior in which the submissive feels secure? o - Does it provide the dominant with a framework for knowing when to apply discipline? o - Does it give the submissive an outlet for their desire to serve? o - Does it serve as a reinforcement of the submissive's "place" (in the order of things)? ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- - Pain ==== Let me suggest that pain, in the BDSM context, has six uses: 1) To trigger an endorphin "rush", 2) For expiation of guilt, 3) For training or conditioning, 4) For discipline (i.e.. punishment), 5) As a tool to trigger submissive feelings or a submissive mind-state, 6) To please a sadist (by inflicting it), or a masochist (by receiving it). ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- - Blindfolds ========== Blindfolds have a few uses: 1) They make the submissive feel more vulnerable because they can't see what you're preparing to do to them, 2) They can help the submissive to relax and give up control because they have to accept that they can't see what you're doing, 3) The remove distractions (e.g.. light), 4) Because the submissive is "detached" from reality, to some extent, by the blindfold it's easier to build fantasies and fears about what is happening and what is about to happen. ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- - Slaves ====== Those who will not reason are bigots, those who cannot are fools, and those who dare not are slaves. --George Gordon Noel Byron (1788-1824), [Lord Byron] So, what's the difference, or differences, between what "we" call slaves and what Lord Byron called slaves? ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- - Negotiation =========== When preparing for any BDSM activities make up your mind about what is acceptable to you *before* you start. Communicate this clearly to your partner. One of the problems that *does* occur, even just with vanilla sex, is that once the hormones start flowing or your state of mind starts to change as you get involved (think: sub-space), it can be very difficult--if not impossible-- to make rational decisions about acceptability. Maybe you should make it part of the negotiation before you start that what is agreed at that time is not subject to change during the scene. ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- - To please one's flesh lasts but a moment, to touch one's soul lasts a lifetime...
SubDrop. D/s is all encompassing in the sense that its not just about scenes, and highs, and fun, and pain, and control, and all the exciting things we do. Its about real people, and their needs, and wants. The intense activities that are part of a D/s or BDSM relationship do sometimes have their downsides as well. This article will deal with one of those downsides. Sub Drop. After all the emotional highs of the elevation of a submissive into subspace, the return to normality can have a profound effect on both Dominant and submissive. Each in their own way has reached a level rarely achieved in daily life, and which, very often, neither is prepared for. Sub drop; the coming down, the return to normality, can happen quickly, or slowly. It can be a nice experience, or a bad one. And the effects, good or bad, can last almost no time at all, or they can go on for hours, even days. As a Dominant, the care of my submissive is paramount, and I am a great believer that I should never lose control of myself at any time, else I am unable to care for my sub. The effects of subdrop ( and its usually referred to as subdrop when they are bad effects) are manifestly similar to a kind of depressive state. Each person will react differently, and I tend to say this a lot, when basing my experience upon those with my sub: she may be different from others in her reaction, but through many conversations and discussions it would seem there are also many similarities too, in the way submissives react. So perhaps this article can be a guide? Although the sub has rested, and very often slept, even after several hours there can be spontaneous outbursts of emotion: which might be tears, irrationality, fear, or any number of things. What the Dominant must do here is recognise these for what they are; a need to be comforted, and looked after, to be held, told how much she is needed, and how important she is. Subs are, in many ways like children. They crave attention, and often the sub psyche feels that they have lost the massive attention which they had before (during the scene) from their Dom/me, and this can cause the unease, and charged emotions that we see in a sub drop situation. Allied to this of course, are the hugely elevated amounts of naturally produced drugs (endorphins, adrenaline etc) that are likely still flowing around the subs body: these may take some time to return to normal levels, and there may well be a withdrawal effect caused by these too. So sub is going through a mental and physical "cold turkey". The total effect of all this can seem to create a totally irrational person; she cries for no reason, you hold her and she pushes you away, you leave her alone and she wants to be held. Well, such is the lot of the Dom/me who is in at least part responsible for getting the sub to this state anyway. We must persevere, and accept that irrationality, and look past it. After care is vital, making the sub feel wanted, safe, secure, and comfortable. These are several of the reasons why I personally do not hold with the idea of public play. In places where there may be little time, or a suitable place to give good aftercare to a sub if subdrop is experienced, it can become far worse than when at home, or in a secure environment, where she feels "safe", and need not worry about other people, and how she may be seen by others. Of course that is my opinion only, and although I do not condone it, many find great pleasure in public play. Of course there are those for whom family life (perhaps those with young children at home, or those who are not in 24/7 relationships) whose circumstances conspire against scening at home, find that public play parties, offering a safe play environment are their only way to enjoy physical aspects of BDSM, and D/s. Then so be it. What works for them is fine. Don't knock it. Everyone in this lifestyle who undertakes any kind of exciting play, whether it be cyber based, physical, mental, or any combination of these can suffer from some form of sub drop. Each participant ought to be aware of this possibility, and ideally, should have talked about it first: its all very well discussing the good stuff, but the bad things need thinking about too, which is why safety issues, and safe words, worst case scenarios for a scene, and all manner of other things should be discussed at length, before and after play by the Dom/me and their sub. Sure, luxuriate in the good things, but be aware of the bad too. Back to sub drop. How do we deal with it? In whatever way works best is the answer; with great patience, and a demonstration of affection and care that not only fulfils the submissives need for attention, but which shows that their well being is important to the Dom; Not just while they are our play partner, but our life partner. Very often the bonding created in aftercare is much stronger than that made out of purely physical attraction and during a scene, or play. To sleep with sub comfortable in ones arms is just as fulfilling in many ways, as the act of taking her to subspace itself. Many Dominants don't see this need, and neglect aftercare. I know of one submissive who was in an hotel room with a Dom, and almost straight after play was sent home, while still in subspace. She drove several miles in a state that was dangerous to both her, and others. Then she had to deal with massive subdrop all alone. Luckily she phoned someone, who understood and they were able to be with her for several hours, to ensure she was ok. What on earth was the so-called Dominant thinking of; only Himself. When that is the case I fail to see how anyone like this can be described as a Dominant. (User may be a better term). A caring Dom/me will always have the best interests of the submissive uppermost in their minds: by all means take pleasure, that's what D/s is about, but don't take and give nothing back. Maybe subdrop can be thought of along similar lines to the effects of shock: treat the sub in similar ways perhaps. Keep them comfortable, watch them for signs of distress, try and understand what they need from you, and provide that. The answers will not always be the same for everyone, but with some practice and a consistent approach, the sub will come to understand that their Dom/me understands what is happening, and is intent on doing all they can to alleviate the situation. Quite often, a sub that has had several bad experiences of subdrop will begin to ask themselves if the highs achieved during subspace are worth the lows of subdrop set against them. If they know that their Dom/me will do all in their power to provide this aftercare then there will rarely be a question about going to subspace. It's all about mutual trust and understanding, and while both parties are charged with trying to understand each other, in this case much of the responsibility lies with the Dom/me to provide the lead, and the consistency which the submissive craves so badly in their life. D/s Seekers
Houseboy duties and requirements: Duties: Cleaning Cooking Running errands Taking care of My needs, what ever that may be. requirements: Must like pain! Must like chastity and or denial! Must be very submissive! Must be willing to do ANYTHING I say! Must never whine! Must have your own income! Must have a car & license! Must be available at least 1 day a week! Must be lifestyle oriented! Must be local! Fill this out honestly and completely if you wish to be considered for servitude to Twisted Goddess, send it to Me in a private message. Name: Age: Weight & Height: Bust size (girls) / Penis size (boys): Eye & Hair Color: Which are you Submissive / Slave: Location: Orientation: Email address: Marital status: Able to travel: Education level: Employment: Income level: Skills/talents: Able to tribute (gifts / money) Mistress time is precious, if you want My attention you have to be able to tribute Me for it: Answer the following, should Twisted Goddess require you for entertainment. I am available to serve most often at this time and on these days: I have a web cam/digital camera: Are willing to take pics with it to prove you did what I ordered you too: Length of time available for sessions: Toys, play clothing and bondage items you own: Living situation (alone / with others but with own room/no privacy): I have served before: In what capacity (be as specific as possible): Do you have references for: 1) Financial Slavery 2) Real life slavery/service If so, provide them. What dreams / fantasies do you wish to realize under My ownership of you : Are you willing to be told how to Dress?: For how long: What is it you love about Me: Why should I take you in: Willingness to obey (be specific): Do you have any lingerie: What are your limits (be very specific): Be Specific I LOVE to: I am willing to: I am unable to (with all apologies but I WAS instructed to be honest...): If, perhaps, Twisted Goddess ever thought I should deserve a reward or punishment, my favorite reward is...... and worst punishment: Well boys now is your chance! Twisted Goddess I never take a personal slave under My wing unless I am very familiar with them and trust their commitment. I DO NO SESSIONS without TRIBUTE. Never forget that your place is to Please Me, to Serve Me and to Spoil Me. I am most pleased with the slave who serves Me with respect. Protocol is very important to Me, the formal recognition of the hierarchy between the Superior Being and the submissive. This means that I expect an attitude of worshipful adoration from those in My service, with the proper tone, stance, and words of submission...I am your Mistress, Queen and Goddess. I am always pleased when a submissive thinks to bring a gift to Me when serving. I never tolerate rude behavior.
I am NOT an Internet Dom! I do not do the online slave crap... it does Nothing for ME. I will not play with you the first time W/we meet I want to see if you are worth MY time I am not here to be what your fantasies tell you a Mistress should be! I am the Nicest Evil Bitch you will ever meet! I am not here to entertain you! I am not here to serve you! I am not here to get you off! I am not here looking for a soul mate ... I have one I am not your typical Dom! I am a Dom nonetheless! *****That said... Now on to the profile****** I am very happily married Matriarch of a wonderful open poly/pagan family. We like camping, fishing, being outside in general. We love a good glass of wine, a nice warm fire and a good book. Spirituality is key in my life. I am a Goddess following, Earth lovin', got to have faith kinda gal. You will always refer to me as Maam. As your immersion progresses, you may wish to refer to me as Mistress, but I will never require that you do so. In your daily life, you are to both dress and conduct yourself in a manner you believe would be pleasing to me. You are to show kindness and consideration to others routinely. You are never to argue with me, but you are both free and encouraged to express your thoughts and feelings. It is my role to instruct you and your role to submit to my instruction. Your behavior is to always conform to your role. The Six Basic Skills of True Submission You are to review these six basic skills closely and strive to put them into practice as best as you are able. These form the bedrock of your submissive experience. 1. Honesty: 2. Submissiveness: 3. Intelligence 4. Devotion: 5. Communication 6: Self Respect. Above all else BE REAL! Have a Brain and know how to use it. This " My dreams are Your dreams Mistress" crap is for the birds. Even in this lifestyle we are all individuals! I do NOT put up with passive aggressive whinny bullshit. Save the drama for your momma! Understand, that more than likely you are not my only pet and more than likely never will be. I will, however treat you like the prized pet you are. It is my job to help you in any way I can. I will help you explore your limits. I will help you find your boundaries. I will help you apply the lifestyle skills you learn to every day life. I want to help you be the best person you can be in ALL aspects of your world.
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