Lady Victoria Eclectic Pagan's blog: "Things That Make You Go Hmmmm..."

5 Reasons Why "Letting Go" Is So Difficult My earliest memory of "letting go" something takes me back to my toddler years. I was so used to the feeding bottle, and I couldn't understand why my parents insisted that I get used to a cup. I am an adult now. (I sometimes have to convince my self this!) During the years that have gone by, I have had to "let go" of many things. I am sure that you too, must have had your share. It could be shifting houses, migrating to another country, changing jobs, relationship break-ups, the death of a loved one..... The list goes on. The reality is that Change - is The Only Constant In Life. Life is such that sooner or later we have to "let go" something or someone we have become attached to. If you asked someone for advice on a "let go" matter, you probably have got lectures. Something in the lines of "Take my advice, I don't use it anyway". "Leave", "get over it", "move one", "You will get used to it". Have you gotten any of that lately? I am sure they all mean well. However, these are the very things that you might not want to hear. Yes, it is easy for a by-stander to give advice. I, on the other hand believe in, Practice What You Preach. Think of the last time you were in a "letting go" situation. Did you enjoy it? Was the decision to "let go" easy? Of course, it depends on what (or whom) you let go of and how emotionally attached you were. Have you every wondered why it is so difficult? If "letting go" was part and parcel of life, then shouldn't it be a little easier? Does it get easy with experience? Does it get better with age? Perhaps not. So why is "letting go" so difficult? In one sentence, I can say "we make it difficult" or rather, "our way of thinking makes it difficult". Now, for more elaborate reasons. #1. Transition from known to Unknown When your in your "comfortable zone" it’s comfortable! You like it. It is convenient, and you are used to it. It doesn't require additional risk. #2. Fear I believe that fear is due to the uncertainty. Uncertainty of the future. "How will I manage without him/her?", "Will I be able to learn the new skills need for the new job?" Basically, fear of change and the adjustments that follow. The truth is, most people want to change. But they want results, without any effort. #3. "Why" You keep wondering "why did this happen to me?” As I have mentioned in previous posts, I think only God has the answers to all “why” questions. In the meantime, you can ask a different question. “What did I learn?” #4. Wait and See You keep thinking, "I will hang around a bit and see", "May be things will be better”, “May the next financial year my boss will give me a raise". Sounds familiar? You might be trying to figure out what is the "right time" to let go. #5. Guilt "Is this the right thing to do?", "Will I hurt him/her by doing this?", "How will the company manage without me?"